I give up!

[futurepsychrn]

I'm done! I truly do not think I can take anymore! I know nursing school is hard! I know it takes a lot of focus and commitment to get through! I know there is a lot of stress involved! I get all of that! I'm doing well in my classes, have had a few clinicals and have done relatively well in those (although with beginning clinicals there's not a lot to do well on, most of it is simply orientation). I've done all the ATI computer work required of me. The school has made me think that my lifetime dream of being a nurse is just not worth it! There is so much drama and disorganization in this school it is unbelievable. The policies and rules change on a daily basis. I'm tired of being scolded like a child for imagined wrongs. It's like being in 1st grade all over again. If one person in the class does something, the whole class is taken to task for it instead of that person being taken aside and reprimanded. Scoldings and punishments are handed out on rumors with no proof of anything. Furthermore, if you are taken to task for something, it's not made clear what it is you're being disciplined for. It's all very vague. The chain of command is a joke. The nursing director directly interferes when you try to go higher than her. I just don't think I can take this anymore! I can take the stress of the classes and schedule, I just can't take the stress of the school not knowing which end is up. I GIVE! Not sure I will be finishing the nursing program because of this.

[futurepsychrn, ADN]

the drama won't end...it never does. Look at some of the posts on here. this is a microcosm of what's out there. You will be working alongside some of these people. In one of my clinical experience, one of my colleagues decided that this particular day, she wasn't going to be wiping butt. She told the instructor she has immunological issues, our patient being C.Diff (we had to share since the census was low) wasn't ideal for her. So we made some modifications. She would play student nurse and admin the meds, I would play the student nurse who wiped the butt. Did I enjoy being relegated to the physical task while someone else got to do the more critical thinking part? No, but at the end of the day, the customer needed both, so I obliged and said nothing.

I have no problem wiping butt lol. I expected that as part of the job. I'm realistic if nothing else. I have no problem with the clinical settings at all. It's just the school atmosphere. I try to say "It is what it is" and go on. Sometimes it just gets to me though and I get to the point where I just don't feel that I can push through anymore. We all have those days and I guess yesterday was one of mine. I am looking into other schools but will only transfer if I can take all my credits (highly unlikely due to the nature of the school). Maybe it's just that the older I get the lower my tolerance for ******** and drama goes. I just want everyone to leave me alone and let me do what I need to do which is get through school. Stop dragging me into all the stuff! There, I feel better now lol.

[HouTx, BSN, MSN, EdD]

Glad we could help - LOL. There are times when the only thing that helps is just to get it off your chest. I love a good rant.

From a systems perspective, there are a lot of perceived advantages associated with smaller programs - smaller class sizes, more individual attention, (maybe) less competitive admission standards, etc. . However, they often lack the structure and stability of larger programs... it's a trade-off.

The reality? Nursing (patient care) is also messy and chaotic by nature ... because it's all about people who are, by nature unpredictable - and every patient is unique. So maybe dealing with the 'mess' of nursing education is actually good preparation for a nursing career???

[NurseGirl525, ASN, RN]

Every school has some kind of drama. It's about whether you want to be a part of it or not. When the drama came my way this past semester, somehow, I got caught up in it. Not really sure how that happened, but it did.

So, I backed away even more and I maintain nothing but a professional relationship with my cohort. They can't look at my Facebook anymore, I am only friends with my family and friends from my hometown. I don't text with any of them unless it is a question pertaining to school work. Nor do I talk to anyone outside of class. And oh my was that the big discussion and drama for a week. I ignored it, was polite and kind to everyone during class, then I went straight home to do my schoolwork. After a week, it blew over and I think my point got across.

So you can give up what you call your dream, or you can suck it up and finish and wind up with your degree. You are paying for classes to learn to become a nurse, not to be caught up in other people's drama. Even in the workforce there is going to be drama. If you can't make it through this, you won't make it in the real world.

[augurey]

I think some of it might just be part of nursing school (I can't really say based on my experience or lack thereof), but I think the majority it has to do with the specific program. I won't say that other programs don't deal with some of that as I'm sure they do, but I think the main thing is the program, specifically.

I'm not sure if I'm allowed to ask this, but is there any truth in that the program is now on probation? I'm questioning this considering the source of where I heard it, but if they are...

I hate to see you give up. I know you said you can't afford to switch programs, but there are other cheaper programs that would actually be cheaper than the tuition there, even with the amount you've already put in. I would honestly check around as I'm sure there are properly accredited programs that are cheaper and better in general. If it's pre-reqs that you're worried about, let me know because I might have some info for you that might be helpful in you moving forward with other options if that's something that would work. I still think you'll still have to deal with certain things that might just be avoidable in NS in general, but if you can do it, I would really encourage it.

I just hope you don't give up. Either take the plunge like I did in trying to switch schools or continue to push your your way to the end. I know you have it in you as hard as it will be. I really hate seeing you guys struggle like this.

[UCFAshley]

It's an internet message board, come off your high horse

[strawberryluv, BSN, RN]

I think you should tough it out. Study hard, pass the exams and look past the other unnecessary stuff.

Get what you need out of that institution and never make a donation as an alumni if you must.

Why give up when you've gotten this far and over something so trivial as a bunch of drama? In life, as a nurse, you will

have tons of drama but giving up will not be an option...

Maybe, this is a test of your resilience. How about passing it?

[futurepsychrn, ADN]

I think you should tough it out. Study hard, pass the exams and look past the other unnecessary stuff.

Get what you need out of that institution and never make a donation as an alumni if you must.

Why give up when you've gotten this far and over something so trivial as a bunch of drama? In life, as a nurse, you will

have tons of drama but giving up will not be an option...

Maybe, this is a test of your resilience. How about passing it?

Just officially finished my first year!!!! I backed myself off of the drama, as everyone suggested, and decided I wasn't giving up my dream over silly high school like games. I think I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks for all the good advice.

[SierraBravo]

Just out of curiosity... Is this a for-profit nursing school?

[RedInScrubs, ASN, RN]

That's every nursing school. Things become disorganized, messy ect. I'm not sure what you're asking the community for here? A "pep talk" of not giving up? That's for you to decide. You have several options here and you have to make the decision, you can't ask the community to point you in the right direction. You can A. tough it out and finish nursing school or B. Start over in another nursing program or C. Leave nursing school and find a different career. Both are acceptable options. But I just want to point out, nursing school can be done. I worked full time, graduated the youngest in my class, graduated with top honors and at the top of my graduating class and have already accepted a full time position not even two weeks past graduation. This can be done, but you have to decide if this is what you want.

This. All nursing schools are major suckage, for the most part. They're all controlled chaos, and the general consensus is that you're scum and you suck and all that. But you get through, head down, graduate, and never have to do it again. You can even go back for tour Masters later and teach and change it, if you want. You can quit and maybe find another program to start over in, and hope it doesn't suck, or just quit and not be a nurse.

Only way to change it is to finish and then work in the field and within education to actually change the conditions. But right now, you just need to want it badly enough to keep going and finish.

[enchantedlife]

welcome to the world of nursing lol. At my job i saw 1 doctor literally screaming and i mean screaming at the nurse. Everyone a mile away could hear it. I dont know exactly what happened but i think it was some kind of med error. Another time at clinical i saw a nurse being yelled at by a doc. She was questioning a doctors order and he was basically telling her im in charge and you'll do what i tell you to do. He wasn't messing around lol, old school type of doc. Anyway, the point of this comment is to prove a point. I've seen very angry docs, family members going after nurses, and yes even nurses eating their fellow colleagues. What your going through now is probably only a small taste of what to come. I think most nurses out there have made some sort of mistake. Whether its dropping a patient by accident, or giving a wrong med, or forgetting to flush a line ect ect....depending on the severity of the incident you may have to answer to the doc(s), nursing management, hospital admin, family member(s), and yes even lawyers and possibly getting sued, let-go, or fired. It's a lot of stress. You have to get used to it. Learn from your experiences now. And if nursing truly isnt for you, find something else.

[windsurfer8, BSN, RN]

Ok then quit. There are plenty to take your place. You want the big time? Then you push through. Or you quit..makes no difference to anyone but you.

[augurey]

Just out of curiosity... Is this a for-profit nursing school?

It is.