am I crazy to even think about this?

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Ok, so I graduated from nursing school Aug 2009 and started working on a med/surg floor immediately. It was at a hospital I had worked at as a tech all through nursing school. I loved my job and I loved the hospital.

Then, my stupid husband decided to drag me across the state - 200 miles away from my beloved job and from all my friends and family.

I got a job here and HATE HATE HATE HATE it. Have tried to like it. Worked there for 3 months. Talked to my boss. I just don't think it's a good fit.

What if I worked part-time at my old job and just drove out there once a week or twice a month? I could stay with my mom, see my family and my friends and work a job I love. Then, after a few days, just drive back. It is a 3 1/2 hr drive.

I already drive out about twice a month to see my family - my grandparents are old and I want to visit as much as i can.

Does anyone else do anything crazy like this for a job?

Just trying to think of all options.

Do what you want to do. But after you made the choice, stick with it and be a responsible adult. Don’t blame other people. Best of luck!

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Specializes in med/surg/tele/neuro/rehab/corrections.

People do this all the time and it works out fine. (Super commuters) It all depends on your attitude. Personally, I like driving. It sounds good and if it makes you happy then your marriage will be a happy one. I"m sure your husband would support you. Happy wife, happy life :D

Good luck to you!

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Yup, as many others have said...lots of people do this. A good friend of my husbands does has done it for years, he loves it. But again it depends on your personality--and how do you feel about driving? our friend listens to books on tape, and I swear, his time alone in the car is like meditation for him--but some get stressed driving.

If you decide to try it, you can always change your mind. If you find the driving and the time away from your husband is too stressful, you can always look for a different job locally.

Good luck :)

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Specializes in Med/Surg.

I know a lot of people who drive in from rural areas that are an hour or two away. Wouldn't work well for me, I'm last minute as it is working 3 miles away, LOL, but if it works for you I say go for it. You have to do what makes you happy.

As far as the people who say what about spending time with her husband, I'd say it seems obvious from her post that she holds him at least partly responsible for the loss of her old job and misery at the new one. Being around him and being happy and feeling fulfilled a couple hours less a week imo is far better than being around him more but resenting him for your unhappiness. You obviously supported him in his decision to move even if a part of you may regret that now, he should offer you the same support. :redbeathe

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I'm jealous. I've never had a job I loved that much. Isn't there anywhere else you can work where you live now? I think 3 1/2 hours is a long drive and it would really get old.

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I went back to a job (after a year) that I quit that I loved when I moved 2 hours away and it just was not the same. They had hired new people and they (the new people) kept explaining how things worked and I was there for 15 years!! The older ones had to keep explaining that fact. I think I lasted about 4 months and it wasn't worth the drive or working with them again :(

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Specializes in Med/Surg, DSU, Ortho, Onc, Psych.

You're not crazy!

I used to drive for hours to see my bf when I was working away. Yes it was tiring but when I got home it was so worth it.

Don't underestimate the power of friends and family - you sound a bit lonely. And do try to get your old job back, but at least you have a job at the mo.

Try to talk to your husband first though and try to make him understand that you are unhappy and need a resolution to your problems.

When you are older sometimes you try to fit in but you know after a few weeks/months if something suits you or not, and you know this job doesn't so fighting against them is pointless; it's a waste of time and energy.

My brother started up a business and had to travel a lot overseas and interstate, but he used to drive back at night to be with his family on weekends. He said he wouldn't have had it any other way, & the sacrifice was worth it.

Yes follow your heart. I haven't in the past and now I'm older, I regret it a lot.

Good luck.

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Specializes in Ante-Intra-Postpartum, Post Gyne.

Unless you are commuting to S.F. and making $60/hr I don't think it is worth it. You have to consider what it will do to your marriage too.

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