am I crazy to even think about this?

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Specializes in Neuro/Med-Surg.

Ok, so I graduated from nursing school Aug 2009 and started working on a med/surg floor immediately. It was at a hospital I had worked at as a tech all through nursing school. I loved my job and I loved the hospital.

Then, my stupid husband decided to drag me across the state - 200 miles away from my beloved job and from all my friends and family.

I got a job here and HATE HATE HATE HATE it. Have tried to like it. Worked there for 3 months. Talked to my boss. I just don't think it's a good fit.

What if I worked part-time at my old job and just drove out there once a week or twice a month? I could stay with my mom, see my family and my friends and work a job I love. Then, after a few days, just drive back. It is a 3 1/2 hr drive.

I already drive out about twice a month to see my family - my grandparents are old and I want to visit as much as i can.

Does anyone else do anything crazy like this for a job?

Just trying to think of all options.

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I think this is feasible but in time you would become fatigued from the drive and the schedule. Plus the added transportation costs would ding your income. Probably not a good option for the long run.

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Follow your heart.....:redbeathe

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Specializes in ER, Med Surg. ICU, Mgmt. Geri. Hme Care.

Hi: As I was reading your post it got me thinking tha so many times I've done crazy things for a job I love. But, there's always a but, what about your husband and marriage. would he support you? You're going to be tired and probably in a bad mood many times, you both need to think and talk about this plan.

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Specializes in Health Information Management.

Honestly, it sounds like you'd be better off putting that energy and time into finding a job that's a better fit for you. I know it's much easier said than done, but that kind of travel can be very stressful if you're already working f/t, not to mention expensive. You'd basically be going back to an environment you loved for tantalizing glimpses, then working regularly at a job you hate. Plus, you sounds like you're still angry with your husband for moving you (which is totally understandable), and spending more time away isn't a great recipe for getting things worked out.

I could be completely off, but here's my advice: I strongly recommend looking high and low for a better job near where you live now. You can't recapture the past (which is what your idea sounds like to me), so you might as well do all you can to make the present as happy as possible. That way, when you do go to your old town, you can concentrate solely on visiting friends and family. I hate being dragged all over for someone else's job too, but trying to cling to the old place only makes the eventual changes harder.

I wish you the very best of luck. It's never easy or fun to be unwillingly uprooted from a comfortable work and home situation and dragged off to a completely unfamiliar setting.

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Specializes in PACU, OR.

You don't have to answer this if it's too personal, but why did your husband drag you 200 miles away? Did he have a job offer himself?

I'm just asking, is it fair to call him stupid? I'm sure he didn't decide to trek all that distance on a whim....

That said, I think Caliotter's comment is very valid and wise. Bear in mind that it might also be just your own resistance to moving away from your previous job that makes you hate your current one so much.

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OP, a friend of a friend does this very thing. They drive in and do all 12s on weekend/nites. Hey you've got a place to stay with people you want to be with.

Have you tossed this around with your old boss yet? You know you'd have to be on that very floor, or you might go from the pan into the fire. Other than that as long as your husband doesn't feel like you want to escape him :)

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Alternatively, if you can get your old job back, what if you guys move half way between where you reside now and the old place?

I think what you wish to do is feasible but I do agree that it may cause physical and mental stress, in the long run.

I wish you the best of luck.

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Specializes in Acute Care, Rehab, Palliative.

I work with a girl that has done this for years.She works part time and lives 3 hours away.She comes and works a few says and stays with her daughter and then drives home.

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I would just try to find a better job. i worked at a really bad place and i was miserable.i couldnt take it anymore and applied almost everywhere. it worked out i work homecare now and i love it so much.i think it would be worth a try to apply for a couple jobs that would maybe fit for you better :-)

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I once worked with an RN who worked her scheduled shifts in a home doing home care and slept in the spare bedroom. When her days off came around she took the train to her home, then returned by train to do the same thing the next week. She was constantly on her cell phone talking to her family during the week. She had done this for years and of course it helped that the family had a spare bedroom that they were willing to let her use.

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Specializes in SICU, MICU, Med/Surg, ER, Private Duty.

what about your marriage, and spending time with your husband?

you can always look elsewhere around that vacinity instead of driving 200 miles to be with your friends and family.

i mean, what about being with your husband..?

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