Husband with Kidney Cancer

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I know it has been advertised on here how difficult the relationship is between my husband and me, but that aside, we learned some terrible news today: he has (more than 95% chance) cancer in one of his kidneys.

As much of a rascal as he has been I think my life would be over if the old man died. They told him one of his kidneys was abnormal, so abnormal it needed to be removed totally, and that rather than do a biopsy and risk stirring up the cancer cells and exposing them to the rest of the body it would be his best bet to have it removed.

I know there are people who live their whole lives with one kidney, my grandpa was one of them, but I'm still worried sick.

I even hate sitting in this house alone without him, as miserable as he could make things. I can't even get out to go see him at the hospital because it has started snowing and the roads are too bad.

They say they don't see anything else on the x-ray and the 5-year survival rate is around 70%, but that is little consolation (what exacly does 5-year survival rate mean, anyway??? He might live 5-years then die???) right now.

Has anyone been through this and know what to expect as far as procedures and expectations, etc? I've never directly dealt with the C word but it has been a fear of mine for as long as I can remember.

If the old man dies I know it will kill me, too. I can't live without him.

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Specializes in Utilization Management.

I have no advice, just a :icon_hug: for you, Mama. You and he will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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Oh my gosh, so sorry to hear this, were here for ya.

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Specializes in Cardiac Thoracic Surgery, Emergency Med.

Gosh,

I am very sorry to hear of your bad news. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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mm, my thoughts are prayers are with you..keep us posted!

mc3:redbeathe

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Specializes in ICU, SDU, OR, RR, Ortho, Hospice RN.
I know it has been advertised on here how difficult the relationship is between my husband and me, but that aside, we learned some terrible news today: he has (more than 95% chance) cancer in one of his kidneys.

As much of a rascal as he has been I think my life would be over if the old man died. They told him one of his kidneys was abnormal, so abnormal it needed to be removed totally, and that rather than do a biopsy and risk stirring up the cancer cells and exposing them to the rest of the body it would be his best bet to have it removed.

I know there are people who live their whole lives with one kidney, my grandpa was one of them, but I'm still worried sick.

I even hate sitting in this house alone without him, as miserable as he could make things. I can't even get out to go see him at the hospital because it has started snowing and the roads are too bad.

They say they don't see anything else on the x-ray and the 5-year survival rate is around 70%, but that is little consolation (what exacly does 5-year survival rate mean, anyway??? He might live 5-years then die???) right now.

Has anyone been through this and know what to expect as far as procedures and expectations, etc? I've never directly dealt with the C word but it has been a fear of mine for as long as I can remember.

If the old man dies I know it will kill me, too. I can't live without him.

I pray they are so wrong and the kidney is diseased but without CANCER cells... I pray they are not there.

Hugs to you my dear. *hugs*

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Specializes in ob/gyn med /surg.

my prayers are with you. please keep us posted on how you and your husband is doing.

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Specializes in Community, OB, Nursery.

MM, it sounds like you are in the toughest of situations, and my prayers and best thoughts are with you. Peace and :icon_hug:

Arwen

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i'm really sorry, mama.

click on http://www.kidneycancer.org

top of page, click on "kidney cancer": dropdown menu, click on surgical treatment.

i would also consider getting a 2nd opinion.

(((hugs))) to you, sweetie.

leslie

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Specializes in LTC, Med/Surg, Peds, ICU, Tele.

((((((motorcycle mama)))))) I'm sorry you're going through this

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Specializes in ER, IICU, PCU, PACU, EMS.

I'm sorry to hear about this motorcycle mama. I second what earle said about a second opinion.

Wishing you and your family the best.

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Oh Mama........

how terrifying for you.....my best wishes to you from this side of the world.....if there is anything we can do let us know.....not that im in your hemisphere or anything.......lol......but my prayers and thoughts are with you and your old man......take it easy on yourself...there is always an ear here if you need it.

blessings....

Kiwimid

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