Humiliation and embarassment after NCLEX failure

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Just found out this morning that one of my classmates have passed...and i cant help but thinking that this is extremely humiliating and embarassing for me. All the ppl I have been close to (about 6 of us) and studying with throughout nursing school has passed the NCLEX...EXCEPT ME. And i'm sure my group and I all know the same thing, bcuz we all had the same study strategy for the nclex...lots of questions and we did them together, so I rly dont get it... what am I doing wrong??...and what are they doing right?? how is it that I was the only one that failed?? it rly is humiliating. maybe they are getting easier questions while im getting stuck with all the hard questions.. knowing my badluck, idk.argh. now I'm getting depressed all over again. I feel left out, all my friends are celebrating with RN after they're name txting me...I am very happy for them, but as for myself...I feel sooooooo left out...it just does'nt make sense...I should have passed with them the first time :( I even told them before any of us took the nclex that jokingly...well sorta, that I would be the first and only one to fail the nclex out of the group lol. and LO and Behold...it came true! Plz God I need help...this pressure is killing me and I hardly feel worthy, compared to my study group that has passed, I feel truly ashamed and defeated.:crying2:

PASS BECAUSE WE ARE GOOD NURSES AND KNOW WHAT WE ARE DOING, NOT JUST BECAUSE OF *LUCK*!!!!

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I too found out that I failed the NCLEX over a week ago. I'm a new grad and just took it for the first time. I feel the exact same way you do. All of my friends have already passed except me. Most of us studied the exact same way and read the exact same books. However, they all managed to pass and I did not. At first it felt like it was the end of the world. As the days go on I begin to realize that I've come to far to quit now. It sounds like a lot of people are going to do Suzanne's plan. Not sure of all of the details, but I started doing the first tip after I took some time off to relax and regroup. If our friends can do it so can we. After all, we received the same education that they did!!

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This kind of thinking and ruminating is wasted energy. Concentrate on your plan to attack the NCLEX again and be successful.

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Specializes in ED, OB.

please know that your story is the same as mine. As far as I know so far I am the only one in my class of 75 that has failed the nclex. There may be others but as of now it is me who has the same story as you. I was supose to start the GN program with all of my friends as well. I had some issues with Kaplan and have planned to retake the class. I did the Hurst review, I did it all. Out of the group of friends in the class that I am in I have more years experience working in the field with having my EMT and AS in Emergency Medicine.

I can not emphasize enough that I know EXACTLY how you feel. Its ok to feel this way now and before you know it you will get that surge of confidence you have been waiting for. You will be ok.

The nurse manager that hired me is holding my position and told me "A test does not show if you are a good nurse or not. You need not prove anything to me for I already know you are". That was reassuring..

hang in there. you are not alone in your feelings of embarassment. I understand and we both must regain confidence and go back in and get the license we so passionatley want!! Sometimes just knowing that someone else has to go back and fight the same fight makes you stronger!!

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Specializes in ED, OB.

Write this down and put it where you can see it everyday... so true!!

"Never tell me the sky's the limit when there are footprints on the moon"

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Thank you all so much for your advice and support. I do feel much better about others going through the same situation as I am. I just came to realize that everything in life does happen for a reason and me not passing the first time was just not meant to be and whenever I do pass the NCLEX it will surely be the right time. One thing I do know for sure...I WILL become an RN and same goes for the rest of you who are in the same boat. We just have to stay positive and hang in there.

Good-luck to all & God bless

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Specializes in Med. Surg, physician's office.

i feel your pain! i too failed and i'm the only one from the group of my friends that did - actually, today i was supposed to start my new dream job in cardiovascular residency - and now poof gone! i don't even have a spot for the next round!

ok, so enough of the depressing stuff - i work with many great nurses and one of them told me this:

" when a door shuts in your face, and you feel trapped, you need to turn around and look for a window"

i thought wow! what an awesome idea - yes it's humiliating, embarrassing, depressing - but that's just the shock, it'll wear off - just look for that window!

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Specializes in med-surg, emergency, and geriatrics.

I understand how you feel, I felt that I was ready to take and pass the exam, but I did not pass:crying2:. I really felt like a failure:o then I tried to look at the big picture that it just was not my time yet. But I also realized that I would have not gotten this far if it was not meant for me to be a RN. I guess what I am trying to say is do not give up or feel bad your time is coming keep your head up and rejuvenate your mind you will get it the next time

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i know exactly how you feel for i took the test and found out yesterday after a grueling 265, i knew things were going sour and trying to resurface from the depression, i feel i let myself down, but hoperfully i can find a way to pick my self up

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I know exactly how u feel....I felt so lonely....all of the sudden I was the bad one...I was so mad at myself for not passing....even to this day I feel like an idiot....but each day is a new day....and I try my best to stay positive...I know that I can pass NCLEX.....and I will...u can too ....just give urself some time and start studying and keep praying....

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Hey I know where you are coming from.I will be taking test 3 time.I want you to know somthing.I am proud of you you finished nursing school .That is a great accomplishment.This test is not who you are.this test does not measure your worth.But we need to pass it to practice nursing and you will.It is not the end of the world,take a break,hang up your college diploma,take a small vacation,you desreve it and let know one tell you different:yeah:

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