Humiliation and embarassment after NCLEX failure

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Just found out this morning that one of my classmates have passed...and i cant help but thinking that this is extremely humiliating and embarassing for me. All the ppl I have been close to (about 6 of us) and studying with throughout nursing school has passed the NCLEX...EXCEPT ME. And i'm sure my group and I all know the same thing, bcuz we all had the same study strategy for the nclex...lots of questions and we did them together, so I rly dont get it... what am I doing wrong??...and what are they doing right?? how is it that I was the only one that failed?? it rly is humiliating. maybe they are getting easier questions while im getting stuck with all the hard questions.. knowing my badluck, idk.argh. now I'm getting depressed all over again. I feel left out, all my friends are celebrating with RN after they're name txting me...I am very happy for them, but as for myself...I feel sooooooo left out...it just does'nt make sense...I should have passed with them the first time :( I even told them before any of us took the nclex that jokingly...well sorta, that I would be the first and only one to fail the nclex out of the group lol. and LO and Behold...it came true! Plz God I need help...this pressure is killing me and I hardly feel worthy, compared to my study group that has passed, I feel truly ashamed and defeated.:crying2:

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Specializes in Telemetry & Obs.

Ok, pick yourself up, give yourself a break, and get ready to test again.

Remember that 15% of testers fail NCLEX the first time. You just happened to be in that percentage...but I can assure you *they* didn't get "easier" questions. NCLEX doesn't work that way.

You may want to check out Suzanne's plan. There are stickies on the board to guide you. I think you have to have 15 posts before you can PM her, though. From what I see on AN, she has a pretty good success rate.

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Questions are given to each person writing the exam based on how they answered the previous question. The exam does not have pre-selected questions in mind for you. That is not how it works.

The NCLEX exam is unlike any exam that you ever have seen or hope to ever see. Some are better test takers than others; it does not mean that you know the information less than them.

Some fabulous nurses that I worked with thru the years had to write the exam several times and now they are either NPs or CNSs.

One exam does not make or break anyone. It actually only makes you stronger.

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Specializes in LTC, case mgmt, agency.

Do take a break and regroup. Give serious consideration to trying Suzanne's Plan.

To let you know, I worked with an amazing Clinical Nurse Specialist who failed her boards twice. As she continued her education she provided excellent bedside nursing. She is so smart and such a great nurse. However, she failed twice.

I have also worked with some other nurses who failed NCLEX one or more times and they are good nurses and some are precepting.

Stay positive, you will be a nurse.

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I am so sorry to hear that u were not successful with the NCLEX. Do not stress it too much, the good thing is u can take it again. Just relax, rest your brain a little bit and then do Suzannes plan. I read alot about it on this forum and it seem to work out 4 alot of people. So FML431 let us just say Suzannes got your back with a great plan. Good luck the next time u take it.

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I know exactly how you feel, i just found out today that i failed at my first attempt and it is devistating. But just because we failed doesn't mean that we are not going to be good nurses. All things happen for a reason, and we will just appreciate it more when we actually do pass. Keep your head up!

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I know how you feel. All of my friends that I went to school with have already passed and already have RN jobs and it is so frustrating. But prayin2pass is right...just because we didn't pass the first time doesn't mean we aren't going to be good nurses. We just have to pick ourselves up off the ground and hold our heads up because our time has not come yet. But when it does we will pass and we will be excellent RNs!! Hang in there!! Best of Luck in the future!!

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oh well..i was wondering about the same thing. i have friends who didnt even review, and still passed, without even memorizing the normal laboratory values! One friend of mine just guessed the entire exam and laughed so hard when he found out that he passed. He called it LUCK. LOL.

Im on the same boat as you are, failed the first time while my friends passed the first time. And yeah, i feel so ashamed of myself.

I really hope you pass next time. God bless you and all of us here. :)

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Don't worry too much on this things. We have to be strong and let not humiliation or embarassment pull YOU down.:banghead: Its a matter of getting up not being stuck on the ground. Keep you heads up high and continue studying :typing and make it this time. GOODLUCK TO ALL OF US!

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Specializes in ER.

Try not to worry about the people talking about you behind your back, that only means you're already two steps ahead of them. I know several very good nurses who failed their first NCLEX. I know one who failed 5 times but she didn't give up and she is an awesome nurse.

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hi all thanks for the advice and support, it means a lot. but to be part of the 15% who fail the NCEX the first time is well just as disappointing and embarassing. And to kno that ppl pass NCLEX based off luck and not reviewing as much, makes me feel even more discouraged...like basically ANYONE can take the test and PASS ugh. I feel like i just want to take the test again w/o a care in the world because thats what everyone else did and passed. *sigh*

I wish I lucky enough to be a pro test taker and to literally guess on all those questions and pass. I guess most of us just arent blessed enough :(

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I agree with you becase I also have some friends that didn't study. For example one of the girls I was really good friends with in nursing school who always relied on everyone else went to the bar the night before her test, took the test the next day with 265 questions, walked out laughing that she knew she failed, and passed!! It is so frustrating especially if you are like me and studied what seemed like forever!!!! But to be completely honest....I'm sure their time will come and I honestly would not want a nurse like that caring for me. It may not be tomorrow, next week, next month, or even 2 years from now, but sometime their so called "LUCK" is going to run out and I hope and pray to God that they didn't hurt or worse yet kill someone because they had "bad luck" with what they were doing. When we pass we will pass for the right reasons and be better nurses becasue of this experience!!! I'm thinking about you!! Keep your head up!!! WE WILL

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