HR recruiter sending me friend request on FB??

LPNweezy · Mar 24, 2011

FB will not tell her you denied the request. you can do something called "Blocking" her, where she will never be able to find your profile again. and FB doesn't report any of this. It's like you just disappear. You block someone by going to their profile, and going to the lower left hand corner, it should say a block/report this person. just click the 'block' pop up and no one will be reported, she just wont be able to find you on FB anymore. :)

Btw, i think its really inappropriate what she is doing. that is like knocking at your front door expecting to be let in so she can snoop around.

Click Report/Block, and you will get this pop-up

then just block her! :)

bjaeram · Mar 24, 2011

I would respond simply saying you like to keep your personal and work life separate. That is inappropriate on her end and I can only imagine would be used to spy on you!

NYRN08 · Mar 24, 2011

Yeah, FB won't tell her that you "denied" her request. I agree with above poster. You should block her so that she cannot find your FB. To request you as a "friend" and she doesn't know you, sounds fishy to me. Something is "off" here, at least that what I think. Just use caution and good luck in your new position!!

luvapug · Mar 24, 2011

Wow-she may be checking you out a little more to make sure you're a good fit for them , she may just really like you and want to get to know you better to become a friend , she may be one of those that's goal is to get as many "friends" as possible. My guess is she's just wanting to check you out a little more and your privacy settings are preventing her from doing that. If I were you I would not accept her as a friend. I'm like you-want to keep my personal life private and you don't want her finding something to use against you even if you don't have anything to hide . Facebook will not send anything telling her she was denied although she'll probably figure it out after a while when she doesn't get a confirmation. If she asks you can always play dumb and say you hardly get on facebook, use it only to keep in touch with family, or only confirm very close friends, etc. Congrats on your new job!

NurseLil-lea · Mar 24, 2011

Wow, that is really something!! I would not accept it. Just block/deny her request, she is trying to do something cricket. I also to think that is very inappropriate of her. Geezzz!!:redlight:

netglow, ASN, RN · Mar 24, 2011

So glad I don't do facebook.

Couldn't you just email her and tell her that you would hate to "friend" her, because you just don't have much time/interest to do facebook anymore and wouldn't want her to think you were ignoring her. Or, just call her.

oaktown2 · Mar 24, 2011

Since she is a recruiter, I imagine that she is just keeping her network large. But I also think it is valid for you to be able to keep your work and personal life separate. If you wanted to keep contact with her somehow, you could set up a profile on another networking site that you use for only work things.

CathyLew · Mar 24, 2011

interesting article I read today http://techdailydose.nationaljournal.com/2011/03/blocking-social-websites-at-wo.php

It has long been known that people checking you out for employment have used google to find out more info on you. That often leads to social network sites. If yours is an open public site, they may find out way more than you would have told them. Always lock down your site to just friends. I have friended people before, then used the other FB filters to make sure they don't see thinks that are truely for my friends. You can put work people into a work people group, and when you post or post pictures, have them excluded. It isn't hard. I have people in several groups. Some groups must think I don't post much and am very boring. They just don't see the majority of my activity.

heron, ASN, RN · Mar 24, 2011

I worked briefly for an employer who came right out and told staff that their facebook pages were going to be monitored as a condition of employment. It was a correctional setting, so the security issues were intense.

I wouldn't be surprised to find out that it is unofficial HR practice to friend as many people as you can. It helps them keep tabs on what's happening and spot trouble and/or trouble-makers early on.

I doubt that it's illegal, so we just need to be careful. Search the site with the keyword "facebook" and I'll bet you'll get an eyeful. People get fired for stuff on there.

I don't have specific advice as to how OP should handle her own situation. If it was me, I'd try to talk to the HR person face to face, explain that I don't "friend" anyone in the workplace because of confidentiality issues. At that point, she may try to pressure you, perhaps with a big show of "hurt feelings" and a lecture about the "team" that's really a family. That's when you can be sure that Big Brother is watching.

AwayWeGo · Mar 24, 2011

I wouldn't block her or ignore her or add her as a friend. Just let the request sit there...some people rarely check their facebook accounts....she may assume you are one of them. Just make sure everything is private so only your friends can see. Once you get the job you can do whatever.

smily nurse, BSN, RN · Mar 24, 2011

ignore the friend request....... she won't know why, if you run into to her and she asks, act surprised and say something like "I must have missed it"