How do You deal with Man-Hating Female Nurses?

teeituptom, BSN, RN · Mar 31, 2005

Too complicated

Lets just go golfing instead

SmilingBluEyes · Mar 31, 2005

sounds good to me. FOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOORE!

Kabin · Mar 31, 2005

How to deal with man-hating female nurses?
The same way that females that are nurses deal with female-hating male nurses....and female-hating male doctors, respiratory therapists, physically therapists, pharmacists, etc.

If you can advise, please do, as sarcasm adds no value to the discussion.

Ted · Apr 1, 2005

Dont waste time worrying about it, I dont think one bit about what people think of me, I know I am good at what I do.
Outside of that I golf and I exercise and I golf, and usually then I will play more golf,

I watch golf on television. Does that count, Tom?!?!?

Seriously, I would love to learn to play golf. I just signed up for our hospital's annual golf fund-raiser event. It's held every fall. Of course I've only played golf about 3 or 4 times in my short 45 years of living. I figure that I'll provide the comic relief. . . :chuckle

Ted

teeituptom, BSN, RN · Apr 1, 2005

I watch golf on television. Does that count, Tom?!?!?
Seriously, I would love to learn to play golf. I just signed up for our hospital's annual golf fund-raiser event. It's held every fall. Of course I've only played golf about 3 or 4 times in my short 45 years of living. I figure that I'll provide the comic relief. . . :chuckle
Ted

Just have fun at it is all that counts

teeituptom, BSN, RN · Apr 1, 2005

I watch golf on television. Does that count, Tom?!?!?
Seriously, I would love to learn to play golf. I just signed up for our hospital's annual golf fund-raiser event. It's held every fall. Of course I've only played golf about 3 or 4 times in my short 45 years of living. I figure that I'll provide the comic relief. . . :chuckle
Ted

Bob Tway shot a 12 on a par 3 at sawgrass this past weekend at the PGA tournament, Lee Westwood also had a Quadruple Bogey on the same hole.

Number 17 has become the most famous hole in golf currently

CFwoman · Apr 1, 2005

Hey, back to the Freud thing. Don't forget, he use to love to smoke those great big fat cigars all of the time. :chuckle

danu3 · Apr 1, 2005

I watch golf on television. Does that count, Tom?!?!?
Seriously, I would love to learn to play golf. I just signed up for our hospital's annual golf fund-raiser event. It's held every fall. Of course I've only played golf about 3 or 4 times in my short 45 years of living. I figure that I'll provide the comic relief. . . :chuckle
Ted

Golf is hard! Last time I tried with my friends, I swung and missed. Then I swung again and missed. Then again and I gave it a horrible slice and the ball went sideway almost hit a cow (who was watching actually).

-Dan

caroladybelle, BSN, RN · Apr 1, 2005

If you can advise, please do, as sarcasm adds no value to the discussion.

Well, if you read some of the posts that followed it, you would realize that it is not sarcasm but realism.

People that demonize other groups of people, rarely do it just to one group but several. And the root causes and treatments are going to be relatively the same.

LPN2RN05 · Apr 3, 2005

I love male nurses..the ones I work with are wonderful! Seems to me when you have all female nurses on the floor sometimes the bickering and talk are too much..having a male nurse around seems to calm the female nurses some how..changes the dynamics. So just hang in there I am sure you have alot to offer and it is typical in this feild to not recieve appreciation! :)

teeituptom, BSN, RN · Apr 4, 2005

I dont love male nurses, just clarifying here

JessicaInOr · Apr 5, 2005

I've been working in our ER for nearly a year, and in lieu of recent events, was prompted to open this thread. I am the only male nurse in, not just the ER but in the entire hospital. The nurses I work with are very good at what they do, save for one fault. THEY HATE MALES! Despite their "friendly" and helpful demeanor there has always been some underlying hostility towards me. Not only that, I tend to overhear comments like "They only hired him because he's a male nurse." and "Guess who's YOUR partner today?" Even though this is a male nursing forum, Marci, I hope you are reading this.
One of the nurses I used to work with (who I miss dearly) suggested I try to "kill them with kindness." It didn't work. I brought homemade cheesecake. They ate it like hyenas at a slaughter, but not a single thank you from any of them.
OK here's my question: How do I attempt to solve this problem, without quitting my job (which I do love) without having to resort to murder? Has anyone run across this problem? How did you deal with it?

I don't understand this line of thinking, honestly I don't. I've been in nursing for over 20 years and I find that men and women can compliment each other, not antagonize each other.

Where my 'people skills' are at fault, men seem to take the place and do better. When men's people skills are at fault, I can pitch in. We compliment each other, we don't work against each other.

One issue I have noticed is that if I assign a male nurse to a combative patient they do automatically assume I assigned them that patient because muscle may be needed. That isn't true, what they aren't seeing is that the previous 6 nurses for that particular patient were female. Let's face it, nobody wants the combative folks, so instead of sticking one person with the same patient day after day I put a new nurse in there each shift. It's only fair.

I've been hospitalized twice and I specifically requested male nurses. I just feel more comfortable with them. It isn't something I can explain, it just is.

Sometimes women can be caddy. That's a fact. Sometimes men are the same. Life is life, we do what we do the the best of our ability.

However, I would be a liar if I didn't say that I would feel for a man being the only male nurse in a hospital. Women can be difficult, I am one... I know what I'm talking about.