I had a patients family member ask me the other day "how do you do what you do and still just go eat lunch?" I, for once in my life, didn't know what to say. How do we? How do you? I mean, I know we're helping people die with dignity and in peace. I know we support that families and educate them on EOL. That doesn't stop the grieving. That doesn't make it easier on the loved ones. Do we compartmentalize the grieve? Put it in a box on a shelf and move on to the next? Surely we can't take it home with us. We'd go crazy. Does it sound cold to say we love our jobs? How can we. We see death everyday. We hug crying family members. We listen to their memories. How do we do what we do?