I was looking at my Medscape highlights feed and saw the headline "Stop Calling Children Resilient" and thought "Ha! That's certainly not an adjective I would pick to describe a lot of kids." but it made me remember-
Often on Fridays I will ask visitors to the health office if they're looking forward to the weekend, do they have anything planned etc., and one day a 7th grader (also, big for her age, she could have passed for a high school freshman) responded: "I have a playdate scheduled."
Really??? What combination of infantilization and/or arrested development is necessary for a girl that age to think that her weekends should consist of "playdates"?
They hit a wall of adult-ish expectations away from mom and dad and they fall to pieces.
This is going on in the workplace as well. The first time a person doesn't get their way, they scream "bullying", fall apart and/or walk out. Then call back the next week wanting their job back like their tantrum never happened. They then don't understand the ramifications walking out of a job, but they find out pretty quickly
This is going on in the workplace as well. The first time a person doesn't get their way, they scream "bullying", fall apart and/or walk out. Then call back the next week wanting their job back like their tantrum never happened. They then don't understand the ramifications walking out of a job, but they find out pretty quickly
Yeah. The misuse (and overuse) of the word "bullying" is becoming more prevalent.
Yeah. The misuse (and overuse) of the word "bullying" is becoming more prevalent.
There is a surprisingly large segment of the American population convinced that they are victims of something...that thinking is encouraged in some circles...even when there's no evidence that they are victims, only that they disagree about our don't like something. Victims of cancel culture. Victims of the war in Christmas. Victims of a stolen election. Victims of critical race theory indoctrination. Etc.
Victimhood is part of our social identity just now.
There is a surprisingly large segment of the American population convinced that they are victims of something...that thinking is encouraged in some circles...even when there's no evidence that they are victims, only that they disagree about our don't like something. Victims of cancel culture. Victims of the war in Christmas. Victims of a stolen election. Victims of critical race theory indoctrination. Etc.
Victimhood is part of our social identity just now.
Yes; some of the morphing/co-opting of the language is disturbing. "Cancel Culture" is often used in lieu of boycotting. Boycotting is a legitimate way of exercising your rights (and money power) to disagree with something you don't like. "Bullying" is often used to describe a person when they were rude/disagreeable/critical. Well, people, get in touch with your inner adult and get over it, people can be rude/disagreeable/critical...
Yeah. The misuse (and overuse) of the word "bullying" is becoming more prevalent.
To the point I don't even pay attention anymore where I work. The true bullies are long gone, and the new accusers fall into the "always had it their way because they're special" category. Our regional director got accused this last time. Found out how uncomfortable it is to be accused, even if allegations are false
To the point I don't even pay attention anymore where I work. The true bullies are long gone, and the new accusers fall into the "always had it their way because they're special" category. Our regional director got accused this last time. Found out how uncomfortable it is to be accused, even if allegations are false
Broadly speaking, what was the behavior or event that was made out to be bullying? How difficult was it for the regional director to defend themself?
Broadly speaking, what was the behavior or event that was made out to be bullying? How difficult was it for the regional director to defend themself?
Employee demanded every Saturday off, to accommodate her very important social life. Clinic manager said no, this is healthcare, we do every other Saturday to provide coverage, blah blah blah. Employee called regional director to complain about bullying (yes, she called the refusal by the CM bullying). RD restated same exact to employee, Saturdays need coverage. Employee then called the RDs direct supervisor and cried bullying, but didn't give the real story, and said the RD refused to help her. Lied and said she was being forced to work every Saturday, with none off. Of course he'd already been warned, but played along some. He told Employee that he was looking at her clock ins and outs and named every other Saturdays that she was worked. No in/outs on opposite Saturdays. Employee was notorious for lying to try to get her way, not realizing at work, there are always multiple ways to check things, she always got caught in her lies. She ended up walking out mid shift on a Friday. She went to a competitor, who caught on to her pretty quick and fired her, she supposedly destroyed morale in that clinic. With staffing issues, she must have really pulled some doozies. She begged to come back, but the higher ups made her not eligible for rehire. Of course, she's put nastiness out about the company on social media, other coworkers have seen and mentioned. Not sure that she realizes how unprofessional that looks, but I believe it will catch up to her eventually
Specializes in School Nurse. Having conversations with littles..
On 3/18/2022 at 11:38 AM, toomuchbaloney said:
Teens often use language in sarcastic and ironic ways...it's not necessary to worry about such a small thing.
Hmmmm... Sarcasm??!! I often refer to my students when I am addressing them or in a conversation with my co-workers about students as "dear, sweet children". No sarcasm there.....Promise. ?
Hmmmm... Sarcasm??!! I often refer to my students when I am addressing them or in a conversation with my co-workers about students as "dear, sweet children". No sarcasm there.....Promise. ?
Hmm. Well, they ARE children. So I'm guessing it's a toss-up between the "sweet" or the "dear" triggering the sarcaso-meter....
Specializes in Psych, Addictions, SOL (Student of Life).
On 3/16/2022 at 11:24 AM, Jedrnurse said:
This predates COVID. Also, it involves teenagers wanting to get a license. (You don't have to be able to afford a car in order to occasionally borrow the family one. Is this an option for everyone? No. But it is for a sizable segment of the population.) There are fewer kids getting part-time jobs as well.
My son now 20 was late to get his license because of Covid. The DMV shut down the week of his scheduled test and he was stuck without wheels for almost 2 years. He did finally get his license and a car which he purchased with money he got from his grandma's will. It's a beast Chrysler 300 touring sedan and cost about $80. bucks to fill the tank at current gas prices in CA. He has had a part time job since he was 15 and is now applying for college (After doing the first two years in community college. I am very proud of him and he has always been a resilient child who will now be a resilient adult.
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Playdate???? so odd.....I stopped using that word with my kids when they finished preschool.