How to deal with a nurse that acts immature?

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How do you deal with an immature nurse that is all in to gossip, twist everything around that is said to her so as it seems "she is being picked on", does not listen while giving report and gossips to anyone that will listen. (which is mostly the CNAS) and stomps her feet like a 2 yr old when you point out anything that needs to be done/did not get done?

She is a reccent grad and at first most of us tried to show her the "ropes" until it was clear that she was not there to learn and her priority was gossip and lies vs. patient care.

Right now it is to the point where 2 off going nurses are present when report is given do to the lies she says after....ie..we did not tell her this or we had an attitude with her. It is frustrating to know that she is the nurse you have to report off to.

The DON is aware of this and I beleive that she has talked with her but I cannot verify that. Anyhow the situation has not improved if she did. :devil:

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Sometimes people like that will never learn, it's sad.But I'm only saying this because of what you've written.There's also another side to the story- hers.

Pls try not to join the crowd- have you actually tried talking to her?Like truly talking to her.If she's willing, listen to wat sahe has to say and be non-judgemental.

goodluck..

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Oh there are a lot of them out there, Like Katie5 stated there is another side to this. Just Live,Love ,Laugh, Pray and Eat!: ) But do not eat your young even at heart and even when they are seem to be attacking your heart! Always remember Karma!

This young at heart most likely has a lot of very stressful issue going on outside the Hospitals and within also. ( Oh slap me up the side of the head. I am being judgemental and I know nurses should not use their nursing judgement.)

I thought I play the Devils' Advocate here.

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Specializes in school nursing, ortho, trauma.

It may be that someone (doesn't have to be the boss) has to have a little "Come to Jesus talk" with her to let her know that her behavior and lack of professionalism is not going to be tolerated and she will end up losing her job if she doesn't shape up.

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you might want to put the report in writing and sign it off my two nurses such as the charge RN and yourself.

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Well if she does not believe in any God and loves the Dark side what next?

I just laugh it off or smile at this behavior! It works like a charm with the any type of nonbelievers or use excellent coping mechanisms. Remember You are have the Emotionally higher IQ mature Adult in this situation.SO.... use as your leverage and it helps to have wisdom of course.

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Specializes in school nursing, ortho, trauma.

Well if she does not believe in any God and loves the Dark side what next?

I just laugh it off or smile at this behavior! It works like a charm with the any type of nonbelievers or use excellant coping mechanisms.

lol- sorry - just an expression around these parts when you have a talk with someone where you give them some tough love. Like an intervention of stupidity...

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Do the mature thing and back off, do not engage, be polite and let them fly straight into the ground.

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Specializes in LTC, Memory loss, PDN.

Gossip: don't be an audience, make it known you're not interested

Stomping: restless leg syndrome? :D

Report: it took a while, but I finally got the DON to spring for a tape recorder in a similar situation; interestingly enough, only one person consistently c/o tape not working properly; also had a positive side effect: reports became more concise and factual; if you use a written report, make two copies, one for you and one for DON

and above all: be kind and be thankful that your life is better

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Specializes in Med/Surg.
"Come to Jesus talk" .

I laughed for a good minute when I read this... I just pictured my old Baptist church singing the song while putting out the chairs to invite visitors to fellowship.

But you should definitely talk to this person directly cause maybe she can't see the forest for the trees, ya know? It takes a candid one-on-one reflection to notice things. No help can come from tip-toeing(?) around her. If it doesn't work with one person or that's not your thing, maybe you can have a neutral third party be a moderator so you both can present your own perspective of what's going on. Something should be done or just keep it moving.:twocents:

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Specializes in med/surg and Tele.

I agree with alot of you on here. She is new. Everyone had something that was rocky and full of up's and down's when we started. But, in my opinion have a seasoned nurse pull her aside and tell her whats up. Not in a mean, condescending manner. But in a way that might open her eyes up and giver her some constructive criticisim. Tell her that you are not picking on her, that you are all on the same team, and you only want her to do her best and become a good nurse. Also mention the fact about some of the childish antics that she does, that they are not acceptable and that nurses are held to higher standards of professionalism. Tell her that you do not want to see her get fired. Like I said you are all on the same team. I hope this all works out for you and everyone is happy in the end.

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Specializes in Legal, Ortho, Rehab.

I've dealt with the OP's problem, but they weren't new grads! ;)

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