DH dying-need prayers

[nursejoey05]

I've posted before about my husband being terminally ill and complications that have come up, but this is the worst it has every been. Currently in ICU with ARDS and sepsis, placed on dialysis yesterday. On a vent, paralytic, the whole works.

Miraculously he has been showing signs of improvement. CXR went from a complete white out to having distinguishable upper lobes, heart, ET. That was amazing. Has been running a PEEP of 20. Went in this morning to a stunned looking pulmonologist telling me that the lungs are regaining some elasticity so they got the PEEP down to 8. (PTL!)

I have been glued to his bedside but am home tonight as I had nobody to take care of our 5 year old. Besides she is desperate for some mommy time and vice versa. I was actually sleeping peacefully and his brother called and woke me up. Couldn't go back to sleep and felt God telling me to get on here and get as many prayers as possible going so that dh can get over the hump. My brother in law is an atheist but I continue to witness to him about God in my life and God's ability to heal if it is in his will.

Please, all you that can pray, please help me out on this one. His name is Dan and I love him more than anything. He had not made a decision for the Lord before he was intubated so that is a big reason for wanting him to wake up and have one more chance.

Thanks in advance to all. You guys are wonderful support.

[compassion1]

{{{{Nursejoey and DD}}}}

While my heart is heavy for you and I've cried for what you are going through, I'm glad that Dan is now at peace and no longer suffering. As you were with him at the end of his earthly life, he walked through "the valley of the shadow of death" with God at his side. The Lord comforts those that mourn. He will continue to give you the peace, that you had yesterday, that goes beyond understanding. Don't forget that you'll see Dan again! Time on earth is just a blink of an eye when we think of eternity with the Lord!

"When we've been there ten thousand years

Bright shining as the sun

We've no less days to sing God's praise

Then when we first begun."

God bless you and know you and your daughter will continue in my thoughts and prayers.

With much love.

Marilyn

[traumaRUs, MSN, APRN]

Oh Joey - so very sorry for your loss, but I'm glad you were able to be there for him. He fought a courageous battle and that is the legacy he will leave for you and your precious daughter.

[churdlpn]

I am very sorry for your loss, but glad for you that you were able to be there. That gives you comfort in knowing he went peacefully. My thoughts and prayers are still with you and your dd.

[RN and Mommy]

Joey,

I am so very sorry for your and your daughter's loss. My prayers are still with you and your family.

[Kwality]

Thank you for allowing me to be a "distant friend". I pray for comfort for you and your family. He fought the good fight, now he's at rest.

[pannie]

Even though I believe in eternal life, tears are streaming down my face for you and your daughter, but your DH is gloriously at peace. Please let us know how you and your daughter are doing. I think we've all come to feel very close to you. I have no idea of protocol here but just wanted so badly to know WHERE you were, could I get there? I'd done anything to lighten your burden, physically. No one could have carried the psychological burden for you, no matter how much we want to.

[carolinapooh, BSN, RN]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I'm very glad you were able to be there with him at the end. Sending out many many prayers to you and your family. God Bless.

[nan1993]

I am so very sorry for your loss. You and your daughter will continue to be in my prayers.

[leslie :-D]

oh my dearest (((joey))),

my heart aches so heavily for your loss yet it comforts me to know that you saw your husband as he left ever so peacefully.

i have been a hospice nurse for many yrs and can actually say that you have been such a total inspiration to me and i'm sure, so many others. your spirit showed remarkable courage, determination yet touching sensitivity.

you, your daughter and dan shall remain in my heart for a long, long time.

and thank you, for sharing with us, this incredibly poignant journey.

leslie xo

[Nathalie]

I am so sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathy for you and your family. He is in a much better place and where there is no suffering. God bless you

[perfectbluebuildings, BSN, RN]

I am so sorry you have lost this special man. I am so glad you had that last time with him and had that absolutely certain sense of his peace. You and your family are still in my prayers. I wish I could give you a huge, real hug. I am not as eloquent as so many people here. Thinking of you, and of your husband, and of your daughter, for each of you in different ways I think of that verse, "I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith"- you are amazing and strong. This thread is written testimony to one of the realest love stories I have ever read- of all three of you. I wish there was more I could do for you. There are no words I can say right now, than once again I am so sorry.

[Gompers, BSN, RN]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you're going through right now. Your husband was so blessed to have you there fighting for him and I know he felt your presence right up until the end. I'm relieved to see that you didn't have to make any decisions that you didn't want to, and that he and his body told you it was time to go.

Please take care of yourself and that special daughter of yours. Again, I'm so sorry for your loss.