Hey you..with the trashy blonde hair

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Ahhhhhhhh....here we go........AGAIN.... This time it's personal.

After a meeting at work a month ago, my boss called me on my cell, as I was driving home, to say, "what is your natural hair color?" I said, "Well, it's probably a light brunette. Why do you ask?" She said, "Go dark. To be honest, your hair is so light it looks borderline trashy."

Yes, I was dumbfounded. She hired me, blonde hair and all. And NOW says I look "trashy". (I've asked several other people, including my own mother...who is completely honest)...and other nurses who said, "Are you kidding me? I wouldn't say that to anyone, even if I didn't like them!"

She must have known she upset me, because she called me at work the following day (when I was doing triage and the phone was ringing off the hook) to say "Did I upset you?" I told her she didn't. But yes!!! She did, and I wasn't about to get into it at work. I have since told her that her comment hurt my feelings. I have received NO apology.

Also, yesterday an MA in the office drew up several flu shots in advance and had them in the side rack in the refrigerator. Had a nurse flow appt, have been TOLD to use them, as it "saves time". Isn't it a cardinal rule for nurses to NEVER administer a med/vaccine without drawing it up yourself or at least WITNESSING it?????? I told her I didn't feel comfortable using it. She got angry, grabbed the pt chart, while things were falling on the floor, refused to listen to my explanation as to WHY. When I tried to explain it to her she raised her voice and said, "I'm NOT going to argue with you!" Then proceded to go around the corner, put me down to other nurses, and that was that.

A few days ago she asked me if I did venipuncture. I said, "No. We weren't taught that in nursing school." She says well MY nursing program taught us to...we had to do 200 blood draws to even GRADUATE." (BTW, it bothers me that she says nursing school...I have ultimate respect for medical assistants, as some have taught me how to do an EKG and other clinical skills I wasn't taught in school.) She then said, in front of 3 other MA's, "Where did YOU go to school at??"

And so I said, "This lil teensy school in the middle of a farrrrm. We practissssed givin' injectinz on hot dogs for an hour....then they cut us loose on clinicals to give 'em with our clinical instructerz." :clown:(This is all true, btw....we didn't spend but one day on giving injections...we spent a lot more time on assessments.) I tried to explain the differences in what they teach nurses...she rolls her eyes and says, "I can't believe that! I got more nursing training at "x institute".

Today I'm done with this organization. I'm the only nurse in the float pool....the MA's (not all) have literally criticized me, humiliated me, and my boss thinks I'm filthy trashy.

I quit. I'm tired of having too many panic attacks and "Loose BM's" from nerves from these people.:flamesonb

thanks for the vent....I'm so happy to have All Nurses to come to for support, advice, venting, you name it.:[anb]:

Emma

Specializes in Med-Surg/Peds/O.R./Legal/cardiology.

Emma, how about something like this?? (Stay professional!):

Dear Mr./Ms. XX,

Please accept this letter as my notice of resignation effective immediately (or whenever it is effective).

Due to personal reasons, it is necessary for me to explore other opportunities for professional development. If you desire, I will discuss personal reasons with you when it is convenient for both of us.

I have certainly learned a lot during my employment with XXX (facility) (and you HAVE) and wish you and the facility well.

Sincerely,

Emma123 (with the trashy hair--BUT DON'T PUT THAT!!! haahaa!)

I'm sure there was a lot you could have said about her appearance. What a nasty person she is.

Hey Motorcycle Momma-

Sorry to hijack, but I just need to ask...What sort of bike do you ride? I have a Yamaha V Star Classic 1300.

Specializes in LTC, Med/Surg, Peds, ICU, Tele.
Emma, how about something like this?? (Stay professional!):

Dear Mr./Ms. XX,

Please accept this letter as my notice of resignation effective immediately (or whenever it is effective).

Due to personal reasons, it is necessary for me to explore other opportunities for professional development. If you desire, I will discuss personal reasons with you when it is convenient for both of us.

I have certainly learned a lot during my employment with XXX (facility) (and you HAVE) and wish you and the facility well.

Sincerely,

Emma123 (with the trashy hair--BUT DON'T PUT THAT!!! haahaa!)

(P.S. learned that your facility is staffed by half-baked, hormonally challanged, emotionally unstable nutcases, and I never want to have anything to do with it in this lifetime) ;):devil:

Specializes in Med-Surg/Peds/O.R./Legal/cardiology.
Is it ok to send it via certified mail?

Thanks,

Emma

If it were me, I'd deliver it in person. And dress up for the occasion.

http://www.123.is/olofhildur/upload/turf_double.jpg

Specializes in Med-Surg/Peds/O.R./Legal/cardiology.

:yeahthat: ...and bleach your hair platinum before you go. :D

When God closes a door he opens a window!

I hope your next job makes you deliriously happy and wondering why you ever stayed so long with the haters.

Best wishes!!!:w00t:

If it were me, I'd deliver it in person. And dress up for the occasion.

http://www.123.is/olofhildur/upload/turf_double.jpg

OMG, this picture had me laughing:roll:roll:roll:roll:roll:hhmth:

If it were me, I'd deliver it in person. And dress up for the occasion.

http://www.123.is/olofhildur/upload/turf_double.jpg

omg how funnnnnny!!!!!

Emma, how about something like this?? (Stay professional!):

Dear Mr./Ms. XX,

Please accept this letter as my notice of resignation effective immediately (or whenever it is effective).

Due to personal reasons, it is necessary for me to explore other opportunities for professional development. If you desire, I will discuss personal reasons with you when it is convenient for both of us.

I have certainly learned a lot during my employment with XXX (facility) (and you HAVE) and wish you and the facility well.

Sincerely,

Emma123 (with the trashy hair--BUT DON'T PUT THAT!!! haahaa!)

Ebear,

Thank you very much. So you don't think I should include anything about the boss's comment and poor treatment in the letter as a reason. Instead of personal reason? I'm afraid they will take personal reason for quitting to mean (ex: sick child, etc.). What I really want them to know is that it is THEM...the reason I'm quitting.

What do you think?

Thanks so much!!! You all are soooooooo helpful, you don't even know!!

Emma

Specializes in Med-Surg/Peds/O.R./Legal/cardiology.

Personally, no. I wouldn't list the real reason in the letter. I would discuss it with them in person, if they ask. You want to remain professional and not sound "whiney" in your written resignation. I'm sure they're certain why you resigned. There may be others with differing opinions. Let's see what others have to say.

Specializes in cardiac/critical care/ informatics.

If they do things the right way, they should request an exit interview with you. Good Luck in you new venture.

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