HELP! Threats to call BON!

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I'm not really sure what to do on this one: Single Female 34 year NP student working my tail off...

I am a full time nurse, also work PRN and I'm in NP school. I placed an ad for a roomate to save money. I pay tuition out of pocket, etc. Purchased my home almost 2 years ago.

I interviewed a middle aged man from the hospital where I'm an NP student and it seemed to be a good roomate fit. He isn't in patient health care services but is a vendor inside the hospital and works for the dietary cafeteria.

He has been living in my home for 18 days. I am rarely home. He begun to call me "baby" and then he started rubbing my shoulders the other day. I was very uncomfortable and let him know, he just ignored it. He also has not paid rent and then hasn't left his room in 6 days. He finally paid rent. I asked him to please leave today, that this just wasn't the right fit, I am uncomfortable around him, etc. He was renting a furnished room.

He demands a refund of his rent due to being angry I asked him to leave.

He threatens to call the BON and tell them I am on drugs and drinking while going to work impaired.

CAN HE DO THIS? WILL THEY INVESTIGATE ME?

All of this is 100% untrue. My finals are coming up, I work full time and then at the school most nights.....I'm panicking at these threats not to mention the stress from this. He says he knows a board member very well and he is going to call her.

Are they truly going to come to my work and investigate? He has never worked with me nor seen me impaired....he's never been a patient of mine, etc. This is all just a bad roomate experience from a creepy middle aged man who is angry I asked him to leave my home.

I cannot find any threads addressing when a lay person just calls the board up and tells them false accusations. He took a picture of a scotch bottle in my liquor cabinet and said this proves I drink and am impaired....utterly ridiculous. It's an opened bottle in my home rarely even used. I'm a normal hard working person, never been in trouble, never failed any drug test or ever gotten a DUI. I've actually never even had a speeding ticket.

I've worked so hard to get to where I am. You have to list on any application if the board has ever investigated you for any reason at all....my work will most likely fire me if there is even an investigation at all. I work f0r the VA government...I had to have security clearance, etc.

HELP!! I can't sleep, my Thanksgiving is ruined with these threats coming through via text.

Lesson learned. Will work 3 jobs and eat Ramen Noodles before ever getting a roomate again....

Yeah, work is barely working around my clinicals and not happy about having to do so as it is....this will be an excuse to let me go. I love my job so much and my patients. We are a close and strong unit. My co-workers are amazing. This is by far the best job I've ever had. I will be so embarassed and mortified if they do....I can't believe any 'ole person can call and say stuff without some detailed information like date of service that I was his nurse per say.... Also, I would be happy to go to the board and take any drug test they chose at any given time, just don't come to my work. People WILL assume the worst sometimes and can't help their judgements.

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I just did an online background search and paid $50 for an advanced report. I did know his age so found him by name and age. Well, he has several bankruptcies, civil judgement leins, divorce, about 10 traffic tickets and it listed one "imposter" alias name that was a totally different name than the one given to me....

It did, however, list his former addresses and there are so many.

I think he appears to be bad. Glad when my insticts kicked I asked him to leave immediatly. The first week he was here I did not see him even once. After that, he stayed in my guest room for 6 days straight. Not leaving for "work" or anything... It was all making me uncomfortable seeing that. This person seemed a bit off.

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We are not allowed to give legal advice, but Judge Judy might say to do a proper eviction according to your local law, with notice, etc., so that you have legal recourse with law enforcement to physically get him gone and so that you are covered should he bring legal action against you. There are scam artists out there that take advantage of landlords that are too trusting.

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He is gone. The earlier posts have further info. The question I have is more r/g the BON due to his threats after he left...More info above. Thanks

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I would let HR know too. Even though this is outside of work it makes you feel threatened about your license. Call the police too and let him know two can play that game. He is a scumbag and needs to be shut down!

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I would let HR know too. Even though this is outside of work it makes you feel threatened about your license. Call the police too and let him know two can play that game. He is a scumbag and needs to be shut down!

Don't say a word to anyone at work if you can possibly avoid it.

HR is not your friend. If they see you as a problem, a distracted worker or student who has a problem, they will get rid of you so fast you won't know which end is up.

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Specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory.
He is gone. The earlier posts have further info. The question I have is more r/g the BON due to his threats after he left...More info above. Thanks

Do not sweat the BON. He can say whatever he wants, and they will likely investigate and then dismiss the matter as malicious and baseless. At least that is what happened to me. During the investigation they told me 3 times that this could just be someone with a vendetta. It surprised me that they kept saying that. But it turned out to be the case and they knew it from the get-go. But by law they are required to investigate every complaint.

So the BON is well aware of malicious reports. You rented a room to an unsuitable person and he retaliated for being evicted. No employer has complained about you; you have a stellar work history. So the worst than can happen is you get to have a cup of coffee with your Board members and enjoy some nurse chat. Do not sweat his ridiculous threats.

Meanwhile, get a restraining order. The guy is a dirt bag.

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Did they come to your work? Did they let you know they were coming, send letter, call first?

Thank you for the advice, can you tell me a few details about your experience w/ the BON?

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Specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory.
Did they come to your work? Did they let you know they were coming, send letter, call first?

Thank you for the advice, can you tell me a few details about your experience w/ the BON?

I got a letter in the mail. Met with them a few weeks later. We actually had an enjoyable chat.

An evicted tenant taking pictures of a booze bottle? Thanks, I needed the laugh.

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Specializes in SCRN.

First of all, learn from this mistake. A middle age man looking to live with a 34 y.o. woman has hidden motives. Pick your candidate better next time. Second, let him call. There is no wrongdoing on your part. Even if they investigate, you will be okay. Sorry this happened to you. Once he is out, and if continues to harass you, seek legal help.

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Specializes in 15 years in ICU, 22 years in PACU.

At the very least rekey your locks. You have no idea if he made a copy of the key you gave him. Consider a security system. Sneaky people don't like it when their lies are caught on camera. He has no legitimate business returning to your property.

HR is not your friend. Repeat, HR is NOT your friend. They represent your employer's interests. All people at work need to know is you do not accept calls from Mr. Imposter. Take a message and you call the person back if you feel comfortable doing so.

Yeah, on you to trust your instincts. My wife has a job where she goes to clients' homes alone. I always support her when she says she doesn't feel right about a client and cancels an appointment. She read a book called "The Gift of Fear" that explains how we can subconsciously pick up signals about people's behavior that keep us safe. Things like someone being too nice or trying to guilt trip you for not accepting their help to carry groceries or give you a ride.

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My spouse is a physician. When he was in residency, they had a lecture on medical board issues, given by a member of the board. The speaker reassured the physicians that angry spouses going through a divorce call the board ALL THE TIME with malicious info. Considering the context, they don't do anything about it, if it is an isolated event. Though this situation is different, I would imagine a "disgruntled housemate" would be treated in much the same manner.

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