HELP Resident calling baby "stupid" What to do!!!??

HealingBalm · Nov 5, 2009

From another direction completely: When I encounter a mean person, I envision them surrounded by white light. They get uncomfortable and leave. Because I believe that mean people are hooked up with the dark side, I will pray for their soul - once.

I believe in prayer and faith, however, "Faith without works is dead". This behavior needs to be addressed pronto! This person sounds mentally ill! Document and make copies. Pray with action.

HealingBalm · Nov 5, 2009

Re: "It makes me sad that some of you take care of our most vulnerable patients"
In that case, let me urge you never to walk through a NICU in the middle of night when all the parents are gone, or you'll hear plenty of horrifying discussions of which babies are annoying, or ugly, or are probably going to die, or have funny-looking memberes.
And while babies may be vulnerable to infection or hypothermia or dehydration, they're not vulnerable to being called stupid, because it doesn't mean anything to them.

Thank you for educating me on what goes on in the NICU in the middle of the night when all of the parents are gone. I never knew! You see my child started out her short life in there... very ill (annoying), funny looking, and yes did pass away. :twocents:

hopesgramcracker · Nov 5, 2009

Some people really need to just get over themselves.:chuckle

MassED, BSN, RN · Nov 5, 2009

Thank you for educating me on what goes on in the NICU in the middle of the night when all of the parents are gone. I never knew! You see my child started out her short life in there... very ill (annoying), funny looking, and yes did pass away.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

nurturing_angel · Nov 5, 2009

Thank you for educating me on what goes on in the NICU in the middle of the night when all of the parents are gone. I never knew! You see my child started out her short life in there... very ill (annoying), funny looking, and yes did pass away.

I, too, am so sorry for your loss. I pray that your little one passed away in the care of a loving and compassionate nurse. She is definately in the arms of a loving and compassionate Saviour now. Hugs to you!

:loveya:

HealingBalm · Nov 5, 2009

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I appreciate your response. Thank you. HB:redbeathe

HealingBalm · Nov 5, 2009

I, too, am so sorry for your loss. I pray that your little one passed away in the care of a loving and compassionate nurse. She is definately in the arms of a loving and compassionate Saviour now. Hugs to you!
:loveya:

Thank you for your words of comfort.:heartbeat HB

HealingBalm · Nov 6, 2009

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Thank you for your kind words. Reading the original post was like having salt rubbed into an old wound. I will carry my angel with in my heart forever. HB:redbeathe

morte, LPN, LVN · Nov 6, 2009

Got a major laugh at the Onion "article". One of my favorite sites.
Can we just get real here for a second? Nurses have a peculiar habit of acting as though they are the protectors of all of humanity. The self righteous attitudes are getting so old. I love it when I get to be around the guy nurses because they aren't all flooded with estrogen and generally have a more laid back style. All this posturing about how "this is soooooooooo unacceptable" makes for a pretty drama filled work environment.
If it seriously bugs you to the point where it throws you for a wicked loop, just say something to the resident. Don't get all gestapo and report her for it. Otherwise, just try to chill out.
I don't care tons about this, but I was a bit amused at the reference to the residents tomboy short hair or something to that effect. Almost sounded like a "She's probably a lesbian" insult. I could very well be wrong, but why even bring up her physical appearance (and why make it sound like she's butch or something)? Then again...perhaps I'M reading too much into this LOL. But for the record, if I worked with you and I perceived you to be making anti-gay remarks, I'd say something directly to you but I sure wouldn't go charting it or running to the boss. That's a bit childish. And I'm a die hard liberal LOL...so gender/sexuality issues are one of my "hot buttons".
Either way...it's all good.

lol, that is what i was thinking when i read it......thought i was the only one....

tencat · Nov 6, 2009

What a hot button topic! Interesting.....every specialty has its ways of coping, and I'm sure that NICU is one of the most emotionally demanding specialties, but I have to admit I'm a bit shocked that anyone finds it ok to cuss at a baby. I think when people see so much death and suffering, it's very difficult to keep an emotional distance without becoming totally detached and cold. But I don't think that is the best way to cope. I worry about any nurse who thinks it's ok to belittle patients by making fun of their memberes, or whatever to 'blow off steam'. It really isn't ok....no matter how stressful your job is.

If I had witnessed this, and said resident did it in front of the baby, I'd probably have said something about not finding that acceptable at all. If it were in an area without patients or parents, I'd have asked why she felt compelled to use those particular words to describe the baby.

To those who have lost babies, my heart goes out to you. I can't begin to imagine how horrible that is, or how horribly hard it would be to work NICU. I couldn't do it.

HealingBalm · Nov 6, 2009

I, too, am so sorry for your loss. I pray that your little one passed away in the care of a loving and compassionate nurse. She is definately in the arms of a loving and compassionate Saviour now. Hugs to you!
:loveya:

Thank you. HB

Scrubby · Nov 6, 2009

Recently a coworker said something about a patient in front of me which I found hard to deal with as well. What I learned from the experience is that if someone says something that you find offensive then you need to say something to advocate for your patient and to make them aware that they are stepping out of line. You don't have to be aggressive about it. Maybe next time they make a comment try saying something like 'that sort of comment isn't professional and to be honest I find it offensive' and see the sort of reaction you get. This might stop the behaviour because they'll realise that they can't get away with it. If they argue about it and clearly dont' care how their comments are perceived then it would be appropriate to address the issue with management and make a formal complaint.