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Hi! I am currently a second semester junior in nursing school. My mom is a nurse in a leadership/management position, so I worked at her hospital as a unit secretary on the 7-3 shift this past summer since I didn’t have the required clinicals (med surg) to be a student nurse; I still learned a lot but I am looking forward to working as a student  this summer. The commute, however, is an hour (which I don’t mind since my mom takes me when she works 7-3 Monday through Friday). The student nurse position requires that I work some week-day evenings & some weekend evenings, so that means that I will have to drive by myself.  I am going to apply to other hospitals that are closer in distance than my mom’s work, but it is not guaranteed that I will get the job (I already know that I will get the position as a student at my mom’s work). I really enjoyed working there, I’m familiar with navigating throughout the hospital, and I met so many friends/great people. I would love to work there again as a student, but my mom warned me that I can’t complain about driving home so late on days/weekends that I work evenings. One of the nurses (in her late 50s) that I became friends with 

I became friends with one of the nurses (she’s in her late 50s) & got to shadow her for the day; I look up to her because she is an amazing nurse & we both share a common interest. She offered/invited that on some days when I am exhausted that she doesn’t mind me staying at her house that is 5 minutes down the road for the night so that I don’t have to drive all the way home at 11:10 at night. My mom knows her, as she works in one of her departments; like I said, I became friends with her & we are super similar, despite the age difference. Obviously I wouldn’t stay there on a weekly basis, but if I am exhausted and don’t feel like driving home that night would it be weird if I stayed at her house ? She offered & she is very nice. 

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I don't think that's weird at all. Are you getting weird vibes from her?

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"nursy" has 40 years experience as a RN and specializes in ICU, ER, Home Health, Corrections, School Nurse.

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Don't think it's weird, I think you're lucky to have someone that supportive to help you out.

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JadedCPN has 13 years experience as a BSN, RN and specializes in Pediatrics, Pediatric Float, PICU, NICU.

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I don't think it is weird, but I also think you should be cautious as well too. It can be hard at times to balance a professional relationship with a personal relationship when dealing with coworkers, and adding this type of dynamic would just have me treading more lightly and cautiously. That is just my personal opinion.

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llg has 43 years experience as a PhD, RN and specializes in Nursing Professional Development.

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What is the work relationship between the woman and your mom?   Could your staying at the woman's house put your mother in an awkward position at work?   Is it possible this woman is being nice to you because she hopes to "get in good" with your mother or your mom's administrative colleagues?

What does you mom think?  Your mother would be in a better position to assess the political dynamics of your taking such favors from this woman.

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meanmaryjean has 40 years experience as a DNP, RN and specializes in NICU, ICU, PICU, Academia.

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I've made the same offer to co-workers. Don't take advantage and express gratitude each time you take advantage of the generous offer. 

 

She's being a mom and looking out for a 'kid' if you will. 

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11 hours ago, Wuzzie said:

I don't think that's weird at all. Are you getting weird vibes from her?

No! Not at all

10 hours ago, JadedCPN said:

I don't think it is weird, but I also think you should be cautious as well too. It can be hard at times to balance a professional relationship with a personal relationship when dealing with coworkers, and adding this type of dynamic would just have me treading more lightly and cautiously. That is just my personal opinion.

Even though she is not directly one of my employees? I am a student nurse and 21. She is a lot older - late 50s - but she is such a nice person who I see a lot of myself in. Like I said, she works in my mom’s department.

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10 hours ago, llg said:

What is the work relationship between the woman and your mom?   Could your staying at the woman's house put your mother in an awkward position at work?   Is it possible this woman is being nice to you because she hopes to "get in good" with your mother or your mom's administrative colleagues?

What does you mom think?  Your mother would be in a better position to assess the political dynamics of your taking such favors from this woman.

I always wondered if she has been nice to me to get in good with my mom.. I talk to her a lot at work but I always question if she generally likes me or if she wants to get in good with her

My mom doesn’t talk to her- only when she needs to

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Unless you think she's making inappropriate sexual innuendos I can't fathom why it would be wrong??????

I think you're to hung up on her age. If she were in her 30's would you be asking?

People are living, and staying active, much  longer. "Late 50's" is the new late 30's.

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On 1/14/2020 at 10:08 PM, brownbook said:

Unless you think she's making inappropriate sexual innuendos I can't fathom why it would be wrong??????

I think you're to hung up on her age. If she were in her 30's would you be asking?

People are living, and staying active, much  longer. "Late 50's" is the new late 30's.

Not at all!!!!  I was wondering if it would look odd to my mom and coworkers 

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juniper222 specializes in Pre Nursing.

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People do that kind of thing all the time. What would be weird about it?  Does the idea make you feel uneasy?  There is nothing wrong with having friends of all different ages.  Just be sure to be on your best behavior.😉

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I did that several times with a classmate when in nursing school. I have also done it with a previous job. Of course you must be on your best behavior, clean after yourself, and help when possible. A little house gift on occasion might be nice too.

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