Got in, and failed ??

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So guys, I dont know if you follow but ive been encouraging those that want to pursue nursing as this is a goal ive had for myself. I understood the difficulties and discouraging acts that come from others because their heads are so full of *crap*.

So guys i found a private college, applied, webt through a little scuffle- studied/ preexam and such, and got in. I admit it was Alittle too good to be true, i mean I was going straight for my bachelor's, everything was planned but I just lost it, i dont know if its because ive been in college so long and im just tired and ready to just begin my life...its also distractions from different kinds of people, as I began to kind of slip, i just went down a spiral and since I wasnt very interactive with others ( which I didnt reqlly feel connected anyway ) I guess it made me even more with a downfall.

I'm kind of relieved to be out there though because I felt uncomfortable around the fellow students, I dont know if it's a normal thing but I felt kind of invaded, like people peering & staring and stuff ? yeah its kindve a win/win situation...

So yeah even though prerequisites and things I think I might lower my medical education, to maybe phlebotomy or licensed practical nursing, so i can began quicker and finally get myself together and then later on in my life, finish, and after all isnt it more about studying and pursuing rather than all about pay? To me it's like we are studying just to pass without really studying the way we want.

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Specializes in Neuro.

Maybe take a semester off to figure out what you want or give yourself a rest if you are experiencing burn out?

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Yeah, I've been pursuing this for a while. It's pretty ridiculous now how these college games work. I'm just kindve sitting back reflecting now, not even worried as much.

All I can do is try my best, nothing more.

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Specializes in Psychiatry.

I'm sorry about your situation.

If you are interested in working in the medical field, could you possibly get CNA certification? Did you complete your first semester? if you did, could you possibly send proof of course work to the CNA board and maybe you could be cleared to take the written and skills portion instead of taking a CNA class. I think becoming a CNA allows you to work in health and that way you can assess yourself to see if you even want to be a nurse in the first place. I don't think you should necessarily become a phlebotomist or LVN if you ultimately want to become an RN. It's a waste of resources and time. Also consider going to a public state school or community college. Also consider regional accreditation vs. national so that your credits can transfer.

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Im sorry to hear that. Sadly im in a similar situation. I feel like all of this is too good to be true. I have support from my classmates but honestly, I didn't have the best grades and somehow got in through the cracks. My study habits have gotten better and some straight A students are now making C's like me. But still. I have this little seed of doubt that is keeping me from becoming too comfortable. Ive been in school for 8 years now and I feel like maybe I have finally reached my breaking point. I have left different majors for different reasons and I am trying my best not to back out of this one since I have made it so far. But I am currently hanging on by a thread and I have already kind of accepted my fate instead of feeling panic. If I don't make it this semester I will either try to join the military or go back to computer science school. I just worry I will disappoint my family but it is what it is.

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What, actually, is the problem?

Nursing school is hard and most people have to learn how to study, how to manage their time, and how to prioritize to a degree they have never experienced before. I hope you were not in a for-profit, accelerated program. Those are brutal. That's where I got my BSN and I do not recommend it.

I don't understand what you meant about other students, feeling invaded, etc. It's school. Other people attend school. Some people are nice. Many are not. The majority of people are not thinking about you. They're busy being students and working and making it through the next quiz. That's how it works. If you cannot cope with sharing a classroom, how are you going to deal with coworkers, patients, and doctors?

Other people are not responsible for your success or failure.

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Specializes in SRNA.

I could not survive a 4 year BSN program. Nursing school is just draining. The most I could've dedicated to nursing school was 12 months (and even then it was too long). I couldn't imagine studying nursing for 4 years LOOOOOOOOOONG.

Props to those who did the traditional program. I practically gave up my 3rd semester of my accelerated BSN because I was mentally and socially exhausted. I even wrote about it on this very board.

Good luck with whatever you do. Nursing isn't the be all end all in health care. Have you thought about medical assistant? I did that for 3 years and really enjoyed it...but I wanted to make more money hence the clinical ladder.

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On 3/3/2019 at 7:52 PM, Flylik3abr1 said:

Im sorry to hear that. Sadly im in a similar situation. I feel like all of this is too good to be true. I have support from my classmates but honestly, I didn't have the best grades and somehow got in through the cracks. My study habits have gotten better and some straight A students are now making C's like me. But still. I have this little seed of doubt that is keeping me from becoming too comfortable. Ive been in school for 8 years now and I feel like maybe I have finally reached my breaking point. I have left different majors for different reasons and I am trying my best not to back out of this one since I have made it so far. But I am currently hanging on by a thread and I have already kind of accepted my fate instead of feeling panic. If I don't make it this semester I will either try to join the military or go back to computer science school. I just worry I will disappoint my family but it is what it is.

Don't be so ...down, to me it seems like your not passionate about anything...going from nursing to computer science? It seems like two different things. Also you should do this because you want to do it not anyone else.

For instance my mother has told me, be a nurse since my beginning college days when I was struggling with grades and what I wanted to do because she works and cleans and does nursing like things; After getting myself academically together I looked into it and now when I'm questioning whether I should be doing this, like because im overwhelmed, and I kindve look for guidance from her all she says is, well I only thought this is what you wanted to do.

So sometimes you just need to explain things clear so you don't have expectations.

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On 3/4/2019 at 12:01 AM, Alex_RN said:

What, actually, is the problem?

Nursing school is hard and most people have to learn how to study, how to manage their time, and how to prioritize to a degree they have never experienced before. I hope you were not in a for-profit, accelerated program. Those are brutal. That's where I got my BSN and I do not recommend it.

I don't understand what you meant about other students, feeling invaded, etc. It's school. Other people attend school. Some people are nice. Many are not. The majority of people are not thinking about you. They're busy being students and working and making it through the next quiz. That's how it works. If you cannot cope with sharing a classroom, how are you going to deal with coworkers, patients, and doctors?

Other people are not responsible for your success or failure.

Ok Alex_RN, I'm glad you passed your for-profit RN degree. The thing is people have different personalities and not everyone is going to see things the way you do. Its nothing that anyone can do about that, nor is it your place, nor a psychologist to judge. We all have different lives, and our environments and lifestyles pretty much meshed us into who we are, that's all i want to say.

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I'm very aware that people are not responsible for my success or failure; it is the way we respond guys!

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Specializes in Psychiatric and Mental Health NP (PMHNP).

You might want to consider a more gradual path to RN. I know many Nurse Practitioners that started out as Medical Assistants or CNAs, then became LVNs, then RN, and so on. Good luck.

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9 hours ago, misspy said:

Don't be so ...down, to me it seems like your not passionate about anything...going from nursing to computer science? It seems like two different things. Also you should do this because you want to do it not anyone else.

For instance my mother has told me, be a nurse since my beginning college days when I was struggling with grades and what I wanted to do because she works and cleans and does nursing like things; After getting myself academically together I looked into it and now when I'm questioning whether I should be doing this, like because im overwhelmed, and I kindve look for guidance from her all she says is, well I only thought this is what you wanted to do.

So sometimes you just need to explain things clear so you don't have expectations.

Oh I don't mean for you to misunderstand. This is definitely a field that I am passionate about. I may have originally posted my comment on one of my more broken days, but I didn't choose nursing for anyone but myself.

I say "go back to computer science school" because that was probably the only other field I had looked into that I had a passion for. I really wanted to get into nursing informatics but I'll be honest there are days when I feel like it will be impossible for me just to become a floor nurse. And everyone has those days.

I don't have any grandiose disillusioned ideas of what nursing entails. I just think the academic portion of nursing is some times purposefully impossible to succeed in. And I am back on my feet trying to make it to the finish line but I am still looking out for a stray rock to throw me off my game.

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