giving report to a monster!!!

slyhrtbt · Dec 2, 2003

Originally posted by itsnowbegun
[.... i know for a fact that in 6 months i will be better than him as a nurse....
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He prob. knows it too. May be part of the problem:)

Noney · Dec 2, 2003

Run a search on bullies. This has been discussed before and there is some good advice in those threads.

This bully probaly does this to everyone that's new. He wants to upset you. You could try asking him if he wants you give him report or if he would prefer to interview you?

Seriously, one suggestion is to start report and when he interrupts paused and continue as if he hadn't spoke. Give all your information then ask " Any questions?"

Any possibility of taping report?

Hang in there. There will always be bullies and you'll get better at handling them in time.

Noney

crankyasanoldma · Dec 2, 2003

Someone did this to me once also.

I decided it was a power trip and asked them to hold their questions until I was finished giving report. Later, I said stuff like 'do you want report of not?'

I also don't care for folks who say 'Just tell me what is different.' I say 'I don't know what is different for you, so just take my report.'

See my screenname?

Good luck in however you decide to handle it.

sbic56, BSN, RN · Dec 2, 2003

Ah, a nurse bully. It is best to put these types in their place early on. Tell him he needs to listen to report and save any questions until the end. Then give report without stopping at his interruptions. He is suffering from an inferiority complex and derives pleasure from picking on the new kid. He fears you will be better than him in six months, so is taking what he can while he can in an effort to build himself up. Pretty sad, isn't it?

Rhon1991 · Dec 2, 2003

ahhh, the challenges we face.....

Ive been a nurse for over ten years but just reentered the work force after being stay at home mom for past 3 years.

Just gave report to someone much like that the other day and I was actually proud of myself that I walked away from it NOT mad and NOT guilty (for not doing the things she implied that I should have done) You know the tone, "did you oder the K+ rider?" "did you order the Mag rider?" I didnt bother telling her I just got the labs, I just guiltlessly said NO and went on with my report.

I had to learn that though. As a new grad, Im sure I was intimidated by some especially when giving report until I felt confident in how I gave report.

You will find nurses like that whereever you go so learn how to handle them. I used to get mad and upset too. But now I just think its sad that thats how they make themselves feel powerful or important. So keep that in mind when someone is intent on intimidating you. How sad it must be to be them. Give your report, smile if you can and walk away. They will learn soon enough that youre not going to put up with it.

What you did was good, saying hear me out then ask me. Just keep going, keeping your train of thought then give them the opportunity to ask the questions you chose to ignore as you gave report. Not that we dont ask questions during report, but when you know its just because of a powerplay and that you are going to get to it, dont let them screw up your good report that you are going to give them.

Good luck!

wjf00 · Dec 2, 2003

I had the same problem recently with a very experienced RN. She grilled me at report, everytime. She would talk right over me , asking questions that were already answered in my report. One night I had some time before report so I read every little detail on the patient and wrote it all down. When she started to grill me I answered every question and repeated everything she asked for. When she finally ran out of steam I asked her if there were any more questions. She said no, so I wished her a great day. I then went to the Charge nurse and told her I needed 15 minutes of overtime because this nurse wanted me to give an entire life story in my report. I got my OT and this nurse got a talking to by the unit manager. She has been very nice to me ever since.

ChicagolandRN · Dec 2, 2003

HeeHee...I had a similar problem recently. Although I think my nurse actually had good intentions, she would keep me late SO many times with her suggestions. My solution was to give her my email address. I asked her to email her suggestions to me so I could review them with my manager. Needless to say, I haven't received one email, and I'm outta there in NO TIME!!!

SmilingBluEyes · Dec 2, 2003

get some good books or attend a seminar ON ASSERTIVENESS...

this IS NOT THE SAME as AGRESSIVENESS, and strives to teach us how to handle these people and keep our sanity as well as self-respect.

Whatever you do, do NOT let the bully win by getting you angry or your showing emotion. Patiently tell her, "Would you like report or shall I stop now and this become a question and answer session?". Keep talking thru her interruptions, if you have to. And then when done, ask if she has questions. If none, be on your way.If you forget a lot, I bet in no time you will know what questions will arise and have them down pat in no time.

Either way, do NOT let this person win. It's up to you to teach her and others like her how to treat you! That would be with RESPECT! Good luck. Most of us went thru this as new grads, and you will learn too; give yourself time!:kiss

Tweety, BSN, RN · Dec 2, 2003

Like Deb said you have to be assertive and firm.

I can not stand people who want to do the question and answer type of report. First, politely and kindly ask them to shut the hell up until you are finished and they can ank their questions later.

CCU NRS · Dec 2, 2003

You got a lot of good advice here. I think the only other thing would be to seriously just tell this person

"Look I will give you report and when I finish if you have questions I will try to answer them, then if you still have a problem we can discuss it with the Manager, I do not intend to do this little dance with you every day so this is something we need to clear up asap!"

Good Luck

moonshadeau, ADN, BSN, MSN, RN, APN, NP, CNS · Dec 2, 2003

TAPE YOUR REPORT.

S/he won't be able to interrupt you. They will have the ability to stop/start/rewind at their convience and should have most of the questions answered by the end of report. For really silly things like "what did the patient have done 21 days ago..." Tell them the chart is at their disposal after you are gone.