Why are you REALLY going into nursing? Honest answers please. - page 10
Ok, I'm a bit frustrated with all of these posts telling us that we shouldn't go into nursing because we need a job and steady income. Sure, I do like to help people, but I need a steady job even... Read More
May 23, '04Joined: Apr '04; Posts: 298; Likes: 1Quote from RNstudent,wife&momThis is not directed towards you in particular RNstudent,wife&mom, but your words bring up a memory that upsets me and that I'd want to share.Maybe I wrote it wrong! What I am trying to say is nurses need to be caring and loving too. If they see their patients as just another number that is wrong to me....
I am doing this also because it pays good. However, the #1 reason is to provide care for those in need of it. You are not the focus it is the patient! If you don't think so, let the patients begin to complain about you and see if you still have that good paying job then.
I once worked with and observed a group of nurses and technicians discriminate against a fellow worker because he openly took his work as a job and not as some kind of special calling to help others. This poor fellow SUFFERED from the discrimination he recieved. He eventually couldn't function properly and had a VERY hard time doing his job, not because he wasn't a good worker or as good or caring as the next person, but because everyone scapegoated their own self-image problems on to him. I was so dissapointed to work with these self-righteous nurses who didn't know one of the top lessons in psychology: If you make someone feel degraded, you dismotivate him.
No matter what profession you are in, to be the best of what you are, you are Always told, "You are not the focus, it is the _________." It is the beauty of the product. It is the speed of the sales. It is the amount profit. It is the customer satisfaction. It is the artistic quality of litterature you are writing. The health of those tomatoes you're harvesting. Ect. In our profession, it is the welfare and being of the patient. So, nurses don't share any special "caring", "loving" qualities that all human beings don't posess. There is NOT A DAMN other suceeding professional in the world that does not put as much heart/care/love into his work as a nurse puts into his work. Nurses do not have the monopoly on being caring.
In other words, you can talk the talk and say I'm here because I really, really, really care and I'm soooo loving and I'll be sooo great and I'm such a great, altruistic person. But so is everyone. Everyone knows how to love outside themselves. Its not a requirement that is particular to nursing but to every motivated worker in this world.
For all of you who say, Please do not become a nurse to someone just for their ideologies, I say please do not discriminate against or degrade your fellow students/co-workers for not having the same ideolgies as you. It really hurts me that nurses act this way. In the end, we are all equal and it is a mistake to think that an ideologie can make someone act more altruisticly or caring than anyone else: anyone can learn to be a good nurse and making someone feel degraded for their wants/ideologies is only going to dismotivate them and make them perform less well than they and you want them to.
May 23, '04Joined: Oct '02; Posts: 549; Likes: 19I believe in my heart that I am meant to be a nurse. When I first considered becoming a nurse, I felt this sense of peace inside me. To this day, I still feel that "rightness" about my decision.
That doesn't mean it is always easy. It has been humbling to go from a $60,000 a year job with my own office to making beds and filling water pitchers. Granted, I was laid off from my $60,000 job, but it is still a significant role change. Some times I want to yell, "I have a master's degree; I can manage to make a bed without supervision!" But I swallow my ego and do what I have to reach my goal of becoming a nurse.
I will say that factors such as job security, decent money, the ability to find a job anywhere and flexibility were the reasons why I looked into nursing in the first place, but I wouldn't have gone into nursing only for those reasons. Having been blessed with an excellent education, there are easier ways for me to make money.
However, I don't think the reason someone goes into nursing determines whether they are a good nurse. I am sure there are many people who felt a "calling" to nursing but are bad nurses. My only concern would be someone who hates nursing but does it only for the money. I think that attitude would impact patient care. If someone provides excellent care, it shouldn't really matter what their motivation is.
May 23, '04Joined: Mar '04; Posts: 5,926; Likes: 15Quote from lizzExactly. Besides, if you don't have to worry about getting laid off and know you'll probably always have a job ... and you know you can buy groceries and pay the mortgage ...
I personally feel that I will be able to better focus on patients and care for others ... because I won't have to be struggling to survive all the time.
YES! YES! YES! YES! YES!!! Exactly!
May 23, '04Occupation: Full time student, mom and wife Joined: May '04; Posts: 321; Likes: 6thank you lauralou! finally, what i have been trying to get across in a nutshell.
"however, i don't think the reason someone goes into nursing determines whether they are a good nurse. i am sure there are many people who felt a "calling" to nursing but are bad nurses. my only concern would be someone who hates nursing but does it only for the money. i think that attitude would impact patient care. if someone provides excellent care, it shouldn't really matter what their motivation is".
May 23, '04Joined: Mar '04; Posts: 5,926; Likes: 15You know, you may have been kidding, but I love! LOL!
May 23, '04Occupation: I work for a physician's exchange Joined: Apr '04; Posts: 534; Likes: 20Quote from CNM2BNo kidding. I own a pair that I sleep in. I have not even officially started nursing school yet.You know, you may have been kidding, but I love scrubs! LOL!
May 23, '04Joined: Mar '04; Posts: 5,926; Likes: 15I had some that I sold when I gave up my dream of becoming a nurse and now that I am going back, I would love to buy some. Not knowing where I will work and what their dress codes will be, I can't afford to spend money on something I won't be able to wear.
*sigh* right at this very moment, I am so very proud and happy to be a part of this profession even if I am not "there" yet.
May 23, '04Joined: Jan '04; Posts: 64; Likes: 163Quote from CNM2BI am so NOT kidding! That was a real motivation for me. Another was being able to work two shifts (24 hrs) and be considered full time.You know, you may have been kidding, but I love scrubs! LOL!
As far as scrubs go, I am working in a doctors office now (with one year to graduation) and I can wear any scrubs I want! I can also buy used scrubs for $5 each at the uniform store. I am in scrub heaven!!!!!!
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May 23, '04Occupation: Registered Nurse Joined: May '03; Posts: 937; Likes: 32The truth:
As I was growing up I was constantly sick, in and out of the hospital. When I was 7 years old I was hospitalized for 2 weeks (became septic due to a rip roaring kidney infection that I waited until I passed out before I told anyone I was sick), anyways my parents were unable to stay in the hospital with me and the nurses were the ones that came in at night and red bedtime stories to me and played with me. I certainly did not know at age 7 how much money nurses made. When I graduated from H.S. I decided to go and become a medical assistant to get my feet wet and make sure that this is what I wanted to do with my life. When I started working for physicians and they had me putting in I.V.'s and monitoring patients recieving infusions, I decided that I would go back to school, because I just loved it. I made $8.00 an hour at this physician's office and still had no idea that a nurse made that much more until I started going to college and had people telling me that I would be making the big bucks when I was done. So, no I had no idea how much money nurses made. I have just always wanted to do it. I love the clinical/skill aspect of nursing. The human body is fascinating and the more I learn the more I want to learn. I think everyday that if I can make a difference in someone's life the way the nurses did for me when I was a sick child scared to death that I have done my job. No I would not do it for free but if it paid $8.00/hr or $25.00/hr I would still do it.
May 23, '04Occupation: CDU nurse Joined: Sep '03; Posts: 4,001; Likes: 542I think medicine (i am encompassiong nursing related issues in this general phrase) is fascinating. I enjoy learning, educating, biological sciences, psychology and helping others. I do not wish to spend the next 12 years of my marriage, and daughters life in medical school, I have always had the utmost respect for nurses and have worked with them in a variety of settings and found their jobs interesting. I also like the flexibility of a nursing career and the pay rate/benefits are decent. I'm not gonna lie i don't have a "calling" just more of a practical mind that thinks this will be a great fit for my personal, professional and familial goals.
May 23, '04Specialty: Burn/Trauma PCU ; Joined: Apr '04; Posts: 288; Likes: 14If anyone is still reading this far, I'll add my list:
--Cliche as it may sound, I really want to make a difference in the lives of other people. I tried a few other avenues to do that, but I just don't think I was really reaching anyone by learning how to efficiently collate, interpreting the "PC LOAD LETTER" error message on my printer/fax, hocking insurance to cranky car owners, or floating from temp job to mindless temp job.
--Like a lot of us, I've always been interested in medicine and caring for people. As a five-year-old, I used to chase the 3-year-old next door to me with a "medicine" bottle filled with M & Ms and plaster every inch of exposed skin with Band-Aids anytime she had as much as a scrape or mosquito bite (much to the dismay of my "waste not, want not" parents)
--I am just in love with the idea of coming to work in "pajamas" covered head to toe with SpongeBob SquarePants and Birkenstocks on my feet. That's my idea of business casual!
--We all had different reactions, aside from the collective shock and horror, to September 11. I still remember my first reaction vividly: I wanted to go to NYC, immediately, to ease pain and get people back on their feet. Still do, actually.
--My current OBGYN, an FNP, is the coolest: she was the first healthcare provider in my lifetime to really sit with me and listen to me, discussing my health with me rather than sort of telling me and sending me on my way. Along with other NPs and RNs I've met, she's been a huge inspiration to me.
--I am really, really tired of barely scraping by to make rent. I do think that, in general, nurses fall into that not-really-paid-for-what-they're-worth category... but as someone who's never topped out above $20K/yr after 10 years in the working world, nursing wages seem like winning the lottery!
--A calling sometimes takes 27+ years to really, truly be heard. Now that I hear it clearly, I'm not going to ignore it.
May 23, '04Occupation: Clinical Nurse Specialty: Neuro ; Joined: Mar '04; Posts: 814; Likes: 127I want to be a nurse for a couple of reasons:
- I've been kind of a lost lamb in college, going for a Spanish degree mainly because I took a placement test and was able to start taking hours for my major during my freshman year. I've been leaning toward professions where I could help people (mainly teaching, due to the Spanish degree), but I've never been gung-ho about teaching.
- From my experience in the field of medicine as a patient, I've always felt that nurses are able to provide more patient interaction (particularly Nurse Practitioners, which is why I'm leaning toward doing that) than doctors. Nurses come in, get your vitals, symptoms, etc., then the doctor comes in, gives me a prescription, and I leave. I've always been able to have a more valuable relationship with my nurse than with my doctor, and I really like the concept of a caretaker-patient relationship.
- My favorite channel on television for the year we had digital cable was the Discovery Health Channel. I love the surgery shows, the Diagnosis Unknown where the CDC gets to help track down epidemics, Impact, where they show awesome diagrams of exactly what happened and all the neato technology that goes into making them better, etc. I think it's absolutely fascinating. I think after the fifty bazillionth time my fiance said "Geez, you watch that channel so much you should just go to nursing school or something" kind of clicked.
- I will be able to immediately utilize my degree in a very specific manner. My fiance graduated in December with an English degree, and since then he's had jobs like a daycare instructor and a telemarketer. What does one DO with an English degree? Lots of random stuff, apparently. What does one DO with a Nursing degree, on the other hand? They become a Nurse, end of story. After hanging around with College of Liberal Arts students who have no clue what they want to do after they graduate, that makes me very nervous and I want to get into a profession in which I can get a degree that will allow me to do one specific thing, so I will know precisely what to do when I get out of college.