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Justmeandmycat · Jan 25, 2005

In the Fall 2004 semester, I failed my hospital clinical site and recieved a failing grade. I was in the first semester. In the Spring 2005 semester, I went to a new nursing school hoping for a fresh start. In the past 2 weeks I did extremly well in my theory exams. I am one of the top 3 students in grades BUT in my lab check offs, I am behind too much and I am just too far gone to catch up. :crying2: :crying2: :crying2: Instructors are looking at me as incompetent/weeding me out. It is common for them to do that and it hurts me to see that. :crying2:
I know that you are thinking, I am just a failing student and I am a casuality but you know failing students do try to be a nurse but it just does not happen for some reason...In the Fall 2004 semester, I gave it my best vert best effort and still failed...This semester, I tried also but things did not work out right..
Good bye all.. :crying2: :crying2: :crying2: And when you seeing missing students in your class, think well of them because some of them gave it their best effort like me but it just did not work out.. :crying2:

Hi. Sad. It's obvious to me, at least, that you are trying to come to some closure about a dream that didn't work out and I, for one, won't criticize you. It's hard to let go of a dream sometimes. Did you do your very best? If so, that's good enough for me! And for a lot of other people, too! That doesn't mean you can't dream again.

Take a deep breath, now. Pull up your socks, blow your nose, and look around. Guess what? You have a tableau rasa, clean slate now. Some might even call it "square one". A wonderful place to start over, don't you think? No constraints, nothing to confine you. Lots of freedom, for sure. What's so bad about that? Nothing that I can see.

Now think carefully and when you are ready to create again, you will. Pick up that paint brush called life and create a masterpiece that's beautiful, wonderful and unique. One that's just for you! Favorite colors and all. Build it layer by layer until its just the way you like it. Take a step back. Look at it from top to bottom. Ah. Now, isn't that marvelous?

Yes, even a bit grand, I'd say. :rolleyes:

Okay, here's your brush.

I'm going to go and, I ,for, one can't wait to see what you come up with. Whatever it is, it will be marvelous, you'll see, because its uniquely you. Not what an instructor says. Not what some people on a bulletin board say. It will be yours. Now, THAT'S what I call interesting!

What am I trying to tell you? If you have to start over, dear, there's no better place than square one. Now get to it and give THAT your best effort.

Justmeandmycat · Jan 25, 2005

In the Fall 2004 semester, I failed my hospital clinical site and recieved a failing grade. I was in the first semester. In the Spring 2005 semester, I went to a new nursing school hoping for a fresh start. In the past 2 weeks I did extremly well in my theory exams. I am one of the top 3 students in grades BUT in my lab check offs, I am behind too much and I am just too far gone to catch up. :crying2: :crying2: :crying2: Instructors are looking at me as incompetent/weeding me out. It is common for them to do that and it hurts me to see that. :crying2:
I know that you are thinking, I am just a failing student and I am a casuality but you know failing students do try to be a nurse but it just does not happen for some reason...In the Fall 2004 semester, I gave it my best vert best effort and still failed...This semester, I tried also but things did not work out right..
Good bye all.. :crying2: :crying2: :crying2: And when you seeing missing students in your class, think well of them because some of them gave it their best effort like me but it just did not work out.. :crying2:

Hi. Sad. It's obvious to me, at least, that you are trying to come to some closure about a dream that didn't work out and I, for one, won't criticize you. It's hard to let go of a dream sometimes. Did you do your very best? If so, that's good enough for me! And for a lot of other people, too! That doesn't mean you can't dream again.

Take a deep breath, now. Pull up your socks, blow your nose, and look around. Guess what? You have a tableau rasa, clean slate now. Some might even call it "square one". A wonderful place to start over, don't you think? No constraints, nothing to confine you. Lots of freedom, for sure. What's so bad about that? Nothing that I can see.

Now think carefully and when you are ready to create again, you will. Pick up that paint brush called life and create a masterpiece that's beautiful, wonderful and unique. One that's just for you! Favorite colors and all. Build it layer by layer until its just the way you like it. Take a step back. Look at it from top to bottom. Ah. Now, isn't that marvelous?

Yes, even a bit grand, I'd say. :rolleyes:

Okay, here's your brush.

I'm going to go and, I ,for, one can't wait to see what you come up with. Whatever it is, it will be marvelous, you'll see, because its uniquely you. Not what an instructor says. Not what some people on a bulletin board say. It will be yours. Now, THAT'S what I call interesting!

What am I trying to tell you? If you have to start over, dear, there's no better place than square one. Now get to it and give THAT your best effort.

mishayla96 · Jan 25, 2005

]Sad--Hey sweetie! I am so sorry to hear about what you have been through. It probably doesn't mean much coming from me, since I have not even begun the journey yet, but as someone else mentioned, just try to keep your chin up, change that name of yours, and go speak to a councelor at your school about your options. I to be honest am going to do that if I do not make it into the nursing program when I apply, or if I feel it is not cut out for me when I start. I am a medical assistant right now and I am sure that RN is a lot different, a lot more responsibility than an MA has thats for sure! At my CC there are lots of other stuff, like cardiovascular technology, dental hygiene, radiography, resperatory care, dental assisting, surgical tech, etc), I am hoping you have other options too! CHIN UP, SMILE, and KEEP US POSTED on your progress!!

mishayla96 · Jan 25, 2005

]Sad--Hey sweetie! I am so sorry to hear about what you have been through. It probably doesn't mean much coming from me, since I have not even begun the journey yet, but as someone else mentioned, just try to keep your chin up, change that name of yours, and go speak to a councelor at your school about your options. I to be honest am going to do that if I do not make it into the nursing program when I apply, or if I feel it is not cut out for me when I start. I am a medical assistant right now and I am sure that RN is a lot different, a lot more responsibility than an MA has thats for sure! At my CC there are lots of other stuff, like cardiovascular technology, dental hygiene, radiography, resperatory care, dental assisting, surgical tech, etc), I am hoping you have other options too! CHIN UP, SMILE, and KEEP US POSTED on your progress!!

angelac1978 · Jan 25, 2005

perhaps nursing is not for you? Maybe something else in the healthcare field would work? You probably have more than enough prereqs for most programs so look into other areas, such as dental hygiene, respiratory therapy, radiology tech, etc.. or perhaps you can take a break, or maybe health administration is for you. Good luck and get some counseling for yourself. You are always so down on yourself in your posts and you need to talk to a professional about your outlook, it can't be healthy for you to sounds so depressed so often.

Honestly, I think the OP needs to look at some other field than healthcare. All allied health fields are very demanding. I am in my second semester of a rad tech program and I am in class and clinic close to 40 hrs per week. We have check offs and skills we have to comp in clinic and we have to keep up with our stuff. There's no room for someone who plays the victim when something doesn't go their way.

Sad, I think that you should go to the career center at your school and get their input. Many career centers have interest and aptitude tests you can take that will tell you what you would be good at given your interests. That way, you can find a field that you like quickly, instead of bouncing from program to program.

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angelac1978 · Jan 25, 2005

perhaps nursing is not for you? Maybe something else in the healthcare field would work? You probably have more than enough prereqs for most programs so look into other areas, such as dental hygiene, respiratory therapy, radiology tech, etc.. or perhaps you can take a break, or maybe health administration is for you. Good luck and get some counseling for yourself. You are always so down on yourself in your posts and you need to talk to a professional about your outlook, it can't be healthy for you to sounds so depressed so often.

Honestly, I think the OP needs to look at some other field than healthcare. All allied health fields are very demanding. I am in my second semester of a rad tech program and I am in class and clinic close to 40 hrs per week. We have check offs and skills we have to comp in clinic and we have to keep up with our stuff. There's no room for someone who plays the victim when something doesn't go their way.

Sad, I think that you should go to the career center at your school and get their input. Many career centers have interest and aptitude tests you can take that will tell you what you would be good at given your interests. That way, you can find a field that you like quickly, instead of bouncing from program to program.

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SmilingBluEyes · Jan 26, 2005

I am sorry. I know how you feel. My first attempt at college out of high school ended in miserable failure. So did my 2nd attempt at 22. I went back to school after a long time with a GPA of 1.6. Can you imagine? How humiliating and difficult to overcome. But over come I did. I even failed my first attempt at entry to nursing school. The rejection letter was hurtful and deflating. But I overcame it......

Maybe,my first attempts at schooling were not at the right times or right places for me. I finally did find the right time/place and did well. I managed a 4.0 GPA in nursing school because I finally found what I was meant to do and did it well.

Is nursing really a good fit for you? I dont' know, maybe you need to ask yourself that. Obviously computer science and psychology majors were not for me....I felt deflated at the time, but I took time out to think what to do....and mature a bit. Maybe what you need now is time to step back, take a breath and decide what's next. Maybe you need to examine if nursing is for you, or not. Take your time. Really look into your heart and see what you think is right.

I am sorry about this----------- but remember, we all fail at one time or another. Sometimes failure can be turned around to success, when we find our true "niche". Hang in there and stay strong. I am sorry it did not work out. Maybe another time. Or another place. Or another program of study. Hugs.

SmilingBluEyes · Jan 26, 2005

I am sorry. I know how you feel. My first attempt at college out of high school ended in miserable failure. So did my 2nd attempt at 22. I went back to school after a long time with a GPA of 1.6. Can you imagine? How humiliating and difficult to overcome. But over come I did. I even failed my first attempt at entry to nursing school. The rejection letter was hurtful and deflating. But I overcame it......

Maybe,my first attempts at schooling were not at the right times or right places for me. I finally did find the right time/place and did well. I managed a 4.0 GPA in nursing school because I finally found what I was meant to do and did it well.

Is nursing really a good fit for you? I dont' know, maybe you need to ask yourself that. Obviously computer science and psychology majors were not for me....I felt deflated at the time, but I took time out to think what to do....and mature a bit. Maybe what you need now is time to step back, take a breath and decide what's next. Maybe you need to examine if nursing is for you, or not. Take your time. Really look into your heart and see what you think is right.

I am sorry about this----------- but remember, we all fail at one time or another. Sometimes failure can be turned around to success, when we find our true "niche". Hang in there and stay strong. I am sorry it did not work out. Maybe another time. Or another place. Or another program of study. Hugs.

wannabemw · Jan 26, 2005

Sad,

I too failed out of my 1st BSN program. I am now well on my way to re-applying. I had always struggled w/school and decided that I would finally go and get tested for LD's. And yes, I do have them. I decided intially to forgo the ADD testing. BUT: I mentioned to my Neurologist 8m later that I thought I might be ADD. He went down the list of symptoms and I couldn't believe it! I had nearly all of them :0 ! Have u considered this possibility? I would study for hours and fail my exams, terribly. I had no idea why. What I didn't realize is that I was not studying and retaining much, b/c I was so distracted and had no idea I was!

I have learned so much about myself in the last 2 yrs. I wouldn't trade it for anything. I cried...oh how I cried. Then I began fighting for what I really want. I grad this spring w/my BS in Health Ed. My GPA went from a 2.8 up to a 3.5! What a difference medication makes! I am applying for BSN school this fall. Wish me luck! I know it will be hard, but I can do it! Have u went and talked to your prof about what u r going through? She/he may have some insight for you! Perhaps you may just need to go at a slower pace (schools offer this option if they see a need). You can do this!

Above all: remember: You can be in the medical field in some way, shape size or form. Perhaps u could become a CNA? I like the other suggestions too. But, being that I have been where u have been follow your heart, pray and ask guidence, and know that we r all here for you! PM me if u need to vent!

God Bless You,

MJ

lil' girl, LPN · Jan 26, 2005

It felt very bad when an instructor passed me up from a check off because I did not perform a skill right on the first attempt. :crying2: :crying2: Also, a different instructor told me today, that I am struggling. The funny thing about it, is that I know I can do these skills competently if it was in a different environment...I could not take how the instructors were treating me so I decided to throw in the towel to save my dignity.. :crying2: :crying2: I hope I made the right choice.. :crying2: I was behind in two check offs and everyone else was finished..

Sad thank you for this post. I hope it makes us nursing students realize that the instructors are only responsible for instructing us and that it is up to US to get the skills and theory right. Also not to blame someone else because we failed. As far as dignity, I would feel like a heel if I threw in the towel if I knew that nursing was what I wanted to do. Again thanks for the post makes me want to bust my butt, no matter what!

Nikki730 · Feb 2, 2005

Sad, I'm sorry that you've had this painful experience. I don't know if this will comfort you any, but I've had my own experiences with finding out things just wouldn't work out with some plan I had.

For one thing, I found it very hard to learn to drive. (I know, sounds weird!) and it got in the way of so many things I needed...I went to a school that's reknowned for "friendliness" but in reality, it wasn'tl...so when you took a class that had meetings off campus, you better drive and have your own car. Even if I had my license, it wouldn't have helped since I had no $$ for a car. I finally did learn to drive, when I was 22 1/2. It took a lot of practice, and I had to take the test more than once (more like 3 times.) LOL.

I took many classes in college thinking that I would be a biology teacher. Until I finally had to admit to myself that I just didn't want to be/wasn't cut out for teaching. Which worsened an already bad depression I was going through.

You might want to focus on working for a while. There are many temp. services. If you know how to type, that's certainly a good skill. You can meet many people this way. (Hey, you're bound to find some more friends that way!) You might find a job you love, and co-workers that like and respect your abilities and work ethic. Then you will have some "positives" in your life...increased self-esteem, time to think about what you want, new friends, $$ to buy what you want. I'm not sure about how old you are, so if your parents are pressuring you, you might need to have a serious heart to heart talk about not pushing you to do things you aren't ready for/not sure you want. You might be able to compromise, such as taking a gen. ed class or two, while working part time or something. That way you're still "in school" but yet not completely immersed in an atmosphere that brought you pain.

Please be well, and I hope that you come back to tell us what you decided to do. Take Care. :kiss

Purple Princess · Feb 2, 2005

I too graduated from high school and began my journey at the local community college to be an RN. I did good in my pre reqs. Then came the tough part, the actual nursing classes. I understood the material but boy was there alot of reading, the tests were hard, I hated lab, and clinical was a nightmare. Needless to say the first time I attempted fundamentals I failed because I was so nervous, poor time management, and I couldn't even get the nerve to talk to my patient. I was re admitted to the program and the next year I passed fundamentals but failed again in medical surgical nursing. That being the second time I was kicked out for good. I did manage to get an associates degree in general studies and graduated in december of 2004. I have my cna and have been doing that since may. It is very stressful, hard work but it has taught me basic patient care, people skills, time management, assessment skills, and how to deal with certain clients who are scared, confused, just plain difficult, or have alzheimers/psych problems. I will resume my nursing education next month at LPN school. The two skills that got me the most were blood pressure and injections. I know I spent alot of time practicing in the nursing lab. I still think nursing is right for me now but I just wasn't ready two years ago.

When there is a beginning, there is always an end *sob*

When there is a beginning, there is always an end sob