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:( Ok, well im 18 years old and along with 3 other girls in my class, we are the youngest. The four of us sit together with another student and she is in her 30's. Well....first off, this woman has been trying my patience since the first day i met her. We were all sitting together talking and she asked a very personal question ( i feel it was just plain RUDE ) She said, "Do you have sex in your parents house?!" (we were talking about our parents and rules that we have since we are still living at home). Keep in mind that this was one of the FIRST times that i had ever spoken to the woman. I feel that she thought it was ok to ask such an INAPPROPRIATE question because of my age, therefore showing me no respect. I mean i dont think she would've asked a woman her age about there sex life! I feel i was disrespected because I am so young.

Well, TODAY...we were learning how to feed a patient, so we paired up and fed eachother ( it was real funny!)...well, the woman turns to me and another one of the 18 year old students and says, " Doesnt this bring you back, way back when, you know like 2 years ago...hahahaha". WELL...i turned right to the B*T*H, and said..."At least Im not OLD" ( shes always saying how old she feels) the other girls looked at me like " OHMAGOD!" i really wanted to TELL HER OFF tho!!! im gonna stand up for myself, im not gonna let her think shes better than me just because she got some years on me. im mean WHERE DOES SHE GET OFF!?!?!?!!

...well thanks for listening to me complain, and if anybody has any advice or comments about this...let me know..thanks

Originally posted by researchrabbit

...school is NOT the same as work. Avoid the stressors of disagreeable people when you can!

Very well said:)

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Specializes in ICU.

When someone asks you a very personal or inappropriate question this is what you can say. "Why do you want to know?" It turns it around on them and makes them uncomfortable. You could just say that that is a topic that you find highly personal and do not wish to answer.

You will encounter lots of personality differences in the medical field. You will encounter people who are rude to you. For example I am taking my prerequisites and working as a cna. I am a big girl and nightly I have some elderly person commenting on my weight. Asking me what I am going to do with all that fat, or telling me I need to lose weight. Or I am described to coworkers by residents as the big girl with the big stomach or the big chest. Just the other night a female resident ,who doesn't like me because when she yelled at me last week I told her not to yell at me and that I was just trying to help her. She is very set in her ways and is very particular about how she is put to bed. I was not used to her routine. Anyway, she says to a coworker,"Don't let that big woman who sticks out her chest put me to bed." The coworker actually repeated this to me in front of other coworkers I was embarrassed. Sometimes you just got to suck it up, though. I just felt sorry for them because some people do not have compassion or good sense. That will not serve them well in their futures. People may not always remember what you say, but they always remember how you made them feel. Just try and stay away from the rude lady.

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I think that since you are just getting to know each other, maybe it was a little too strong of a question to ask, but most people, young women in particular, talk about sex freely these days. Right then, you should have said, "I tink that's too personal." then went on. That would have earned you respect right there! Something tells me that you would have been talking about this kind of thing with your younger friends anyway even if she wasn't there. It's not like she asked you what your favorite position is.

Being second oldest in my class, 36, if she has commented about feeling old, she may have been wanting you to think she was young and hip like you. You will find out that until you're about 25, you will not get respect from most people, men or women. Granted, you deserve respect just for being human, but you have not earned it in the real world yet. But it will come, you will find your niche in life, have a family and career and just as you're feeling good about your life, someone will call you old because you're 30 something. I guarantee you that you will not understand why they think that because you will look and feel just about the same as you did when you were 18, only smarter, more mature, and not as sensative.

I have a classmate who just turned 21 and she acts like a teen shooting her mouth off at many turns. Snapping back at people and kicking them where it hurts the most is just as childish as what she said. PLUS...It's wrong.

Take this as lesson learned and go on.

Jill

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"the four of us sit together with another student and she is in her 30's. well....first off, this woman has been trying my patience since the first day i met her. we were all sitting together talking and she asked a very personal question ( i feel it was just plain rude ) she said, "do you have sex in your parents house?!" my question is, since you said the four of you were talking, did you leave the door open for her to ask the question? i am trying to understand why anyone would ask such a question to another but especially if said parties just met.

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EEEKKKK!!! When did 30 become OLD??? :eek:

I am 29...trying to run from 30...:D Not too old to run!

I am not the oldest in my class, yet it is filled with younger people. And YES it is so hard to speak with them. Younger folks develop cliques (been there before) and it is hard to worm your way in. I think with age you lose that "group" comraderey (sp?). I just crave a genuine person to talk to in class...I don't want to feel the competiton of being accepted.

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I am 37 years on this earth and have never had a problem meeting anyone. I have no problem talking to anyone. I don't care if there is a clique or not.If I have a wuestion I ask. If I want to speak to ahyone I do. I guess I have become bolder. I know I would never ask anyone about sex or anything else personal. That is just me. I would suggest that you keep your distance she obviously rubbed you the wrong way and I have a feeling you do the same for her. Happy schooling and please feel free to continue to share your feelings about your school experiences.(both good and bad)

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AGE IS IRRELEVANT

Both of the comments made by this woman were rude and uncalled for. If it were me, i would have probably had a few choice words for her as well.:)

Leigh

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Leigh

your right it was uncalled for and the retaliation was also uncalled for. remember two wrongs don't make it right!

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Originally posted by shabookitty

EEEKKKK!!! When did 30 become OLD??? :eek:

But it's not! Just ask anyone who's 40...

I never ask my adult patients how old they are...I always ask "how young are you?" :)

Since I will be 46 in November, I have been practicing for 50 (when someone asks my age, I say "50" so that when it gets here I have already been doing it for several years and it won't surprise me!).

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Specializes in med/surg.

Geeesch, now you all are making me feel really, really old! I'm 20 years older than the next oldest student, and he is 34 (do the math)

But I sure can't imagine asking such a question of anyone, regardless of circumstances.

Kathy

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Age is irrelevant and rudeness calls for patience. Not that I think the question was appropriate but I wonder why she would ask it.

My first instinct was to say that sort of confrontation was very childish on everyone's part. However, one must defend themselves. I think with time and with the suggestions you have read on here, you might agree that there are other things you might have said that were more gracious and less cruel which would have strongly made your point. Sometimes this type of experience helps us learn to practice the skills taught in nursing in all avenues of life, not just in the clinical arena.

Just for the record, not as a criticism,why is the word "disrespected" used? There is not such word but I hear it a lot. Is this slang common among the people in nursing now?

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Originally posted by researchrabbit

But it's not! Just ask anyone who's 40...

I never ask my adult patients how old they are...I always ask "how young are you?" :)

Since I will be 46 in November, I have been practicing for 50 (when someone asks my age, I say "50" so that when it gets here I have already been doing it for several years and it won't surprise me!).

LOL...l thought l was the only one who did this!:roll

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