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:( Ok, well im 18 years old and along with 3 other girls in my class, we are the youngest. The four of us sit together with another student and she is in her 30's. Well....first off, this woman has been trying my patience since the first day i met her. We were all sitting together talking and she asked a very personal question ( i feel it was just plain RUDE ) She said, "Do you have sex in your parents house?!" (we were talking about our parents and rules that we have since we are still living at home). Keep in mind that this was one of the FIRST times that i had ever spoken to the woman. I feel that she thought it was ok to ask such an INAPPROPRIATE question because of my age, therefore showing me no respect. I mean i dont think she would've asked a woman her age about there sex life! I feel i was disrespected because I am so young.

Well, TODAY...we were learning how to feed a patient, so we paired up and fed eachother ( it was real funny!)...well, the woman turns to me and another one of the 18 year old students and says, " Doesnt this bring you back, way back when, you know like 2 years ago...hahahaha". WELL...i turned right to the B*T*H, and said..."At least Im not OLD" ( shes always saying how old she feels) the other girls looked at me like " OHMAGOD!" i really wanted to TELL HER OFF tho!!! im gonna stand up for myself, im not gonna let her think shes better than me just because she got some years on me. im mean WHERE DOES SHE GET OFF!?!?!?!!

...well thanks for listening to me complain, and if anybody has any advice or comments about this...let me know..thanks

Just makes my joints ache, thinking about how OLD I am.... :)

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Originally posted by Michigan Nurse

Just makes my joints ache, thinking about how OLD I am.... :)

:chuckle
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Nurseleigh and Rhona......I think that unless we were flies upon the wall for this entire confrontation from beginning to end we will not know what really happened....and before I get jumped for my comment....there are always 3 sides to a story.....it is just that people view things so differently. If you take 3 people and have them view the same confrontation and then ask them questions about it you may get three different things as to what happened or three different opinions as to what or who was wrong or right. We don't know what was discussed to make this question come up or what made this woman think she could ask this question.....we don't know so many variables of this story that I feel all of us(myself included) have made unfair judgements about this woman and Melisita......so I guess what I am saying is we weren't there and many things could have happened that we weren't aware of or not.....there are too many things to just make snap decisions so I say now......just try to get along because nursing school is long and hard....you may need the help sometime......good luck to you..........

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ON 2nd thought...Maybe the woman was being "Mother Superior Older and Wiser". If there wasn't a hint of just trying to fit in but just not knowing how...Take her to the edge of the city and stone her.

:D....Just kidding....

The different views posted are real interesting. I would've never thought she could've been probing in an attempt to find out more info on her own teenagers. Nevertheless, if she was offensive, it's best to tactfully let her know, at least for her to explain or fix it. If she doesn't "come clean", leave her alone. It's not worth adding more stress on top of the stress endured while going through school.

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I forgot to add...i agree. The question was a little absurd. And age is irrelevant. But there are cliques where I attend. And yes, I do ask them Q's. I am the most friendliest person ya meet. But! Ya still can't penetrate a clique! And lord knows, it isn't just with younger folks either. In micro lab, it is like the "group"will pair off with folks "within their group." So now they are mini-groups! hee!

I just thought it was funny how ya thought 30 was old :D

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Maybe you's started off on the wrong foot, try again and let her know that you would appreciate it if she didn't ask such personal questions and kept her own thoughts to herself... of course in a professional manner.

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kudos to her for going back to nursing school. i'm not being rude, but when you get out in the nursing world, most of your co-workers will be older. it's very hard to get through nursing school right out of high school. but the best of luck to you.

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ok, just to clear things up...I dont think that 30 is OLD!!!! Honestly the only reason I said that to her was because I really wanted to get her where it hurts, like she did to me. Yeah, I know thats immature, and many of you think that I am a "whiny, rude teenager", but what she said about MY age seriously hurt me. I want to thank many of you for your good advice, because next time I think I will just say, "why do you want to know that", or "I dont care to share that with you". The only reason I posted this thread was to get some advice as to how to handle the situation, because it really bothered me. I could not understand why she would chose to sit with us, the youngest in the class, if she felt she didnt fit in. She is NOT the oldest in the class, everyone else is about the same age as her. SHe could easliy go sit with any of the other 30 year old woman in class. The 18 year olds are the real outcasts here. I feel that it is harder for us to be in nursing school, with all these older women, some of them really intimadate me! They have all finished the required courses for our program, they have been in college now for years already, and some of them are already LPN's and HHA's, and we are just starting this. When she made that comment about my age, it just really hurt me. I just want to be treated like any other student would. Is that so bad? :confused:

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No, it's not so bad. It's natural. Unfortunately, sometimes the older person isn't always the adult. Sometimes, the younger is. Just because you're old enough to know better, doesn't mean you'll do it. Chin up. Chalk it up to experience and remember it if a similar situation arises. That's all you can do now. :)

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Don't let "one" bad apple" older student form your opinion for all of us "older students" .

If I was sitting in your class I would probably gravitate toward someone more my age BUT I would certainly speak with the younger students also.. Believe me, I think that the majority of older students WOULD NOT ask about your sex life !

If a youger student asked me about my sex life, I would reply something like. "well you wouldn't want to know" or " I choose not to discuss that information".. period.. something like that.

This would be a "red flag" to avoid that student in the future.

Don't let the older students intimidate you.. I think that in time you will meet many classy, intelligent and polite older students :)

I hope so :) :wink2: :nurse:

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I am 27 years old and one of the youngest in my class. We dont have any problems getting along, and there are no "cliques". I think this woman's insecurities just caused her to behave badly towards you. The best way to handle it is to go out of your way to be nice to her. She is probably already jealous to some degree, don't give her a reason to hate you. I am admitedly jealous of the 18 year old size 3 in our class! Just kill her with kindness and she will stop patronizing you. You could end up friends, who knows.

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Oh boy! I bet shes sorry she ever told anyone about this incident! haha! I undrstand both sides and good points taken on both sides. She probobly is lonely, and Melisita is young...so we have to give them both the benifit of the doubt. But nursing is about caring, carry it through not only on the floor, but everywhere.......thats what we're about. Good luck to Melisita and to the lady....I hope you both do well........without each other.

Nicole

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