My husband said...

  1. My husband said that he doesn't think nursing school is going to be as hard as I think it will be.

    This was said after I told him come this fall he'd have to help with laundry/cooking dinner/taking kids to school.

    Sink or swim, husband. Sink or swim.
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  3. by   HouTx
    LOL - hang in there!

    Each time I returned to school, I had the same conversation with hubs. Handed over a lot of childcare duties when I returned for BSN. When I went for MSN, he took over laundry & most grocery shopping.... and I never took it back . Turns out he (purchasing agent) was much better organized and systematic ... a vast improvement from my technique.

    Of course, there were incentives. With the increased income, "we" bought a ski boat & other nice man-toys.
  4. by   mmw90
    Your husband too? Sheesh must be in the water!
  5. by   nurseprnRN
    My husband is retired and does all the house stuff because I work full-time (except for the time I spend here on AN....). There is nothing inherently male or female about running a machine of any kind-- lawn mower, washing, sewing, or any other machine. And he's much better at laundry than I am, too.

    There are ways to do positive reinforcement, too.
  6. by   NightNerd
    Haha. Oh men. Stephanie, your husband will learn with time - like when suddenly there's no food or clean clothes, and he realizes the kids haven't been to school in three weeks. :-P

    My darling boyfriend would normally tell me the same thing, but luckily, he studied mechanical engineering, so he gets the trading-your-life-for-your-schoolin' thing. And THANK ALL THAT IS HOLY, he told me he would be more than happy to cook, clean the bathroom, and other crap while I'm in school - mind you, we don't even live together right now. Definite keeper.
  7. by   stephanie.
    Sadly I've given my hubs the impression that my schooling hasn't been tough these past 2.5 years Ive managed to get my homework and studies done along with the everyday life stuff before he gets home. Maybe I'm over thinking how much time NS will consume but I don't plan on going through it barely getting by.
  8. by   dsb_fam
    Oh my dear husband has no idea of all that I do in a given day. We have 5 children (4, 5, 6, 9 and 12) and he thinks it's going to be a break to stay home and take care of the family during the summer(he's a teacher). BWAHAHAHAHAHA!
  9. by   AnAppleGirl
    Oh husbands! I just had this conversation with my husband. When I mentioned to him that he is going to have to step up and fold some laundry, help kids with homework, or god forbid cook dinner, he kind of just smiled and nodded When he worked fewer hours than he does now he was great with housework, but I think he forgot what helping out feels like.

    They don't realize how great they have it with a wife that stays at home! Come September its either step up, or don't complain about no clean socks and sandwiches for dinner
  10. by   Jcgirl
    husbands sure are silly
  11. by   douxmusique
    Lol yup. When I have this conversation with my husband he nods and says sure sure I know. Ya ya, I got ya. It sort of amuses me to think about what it's going to end up being like.
  12. by   itsnowornever
    Mine always said that too---but he meantime in terms of "you're smart, it will be easier than you think" perhaps that's what yours means too? Granted mine picked up the household chores without batting an eye, and his laundry method drives me nuts!!! I find MANY of my underwear in my daughters drawers and mine in hers! Her shirts in my closet and visa versa but, it's all clean.

    Posting from my phone, ease forgive my fat thumbs!
  13. by   Tinker88
    Yall could alternate cooking and cleaning. That's what my husband and I do! We simply discuss what we will cook on what nights. It keeps us from making extra trips to the grocery store too! I personally plan to use the crockpot a lot more when I start in Aug! There are so many easy meals on youtube. Who knew you could make lasagna in a crock pot!!! I like this channel YouTube
  14. by   EaglesWings21
    I have been in your situation and here is my advice: Keep politely reminding your husband, put school first (when your husband realizes the kitchen is a wreck, no laundry is done, and dinner isn't being cooked he will get the picture), if you have kids and they are old enough set apart special time for you and them but encourage them to be independent, clean enough for your home to be functional but don't deep clean unless you have enough time in your schedule, and try your best not to get too stressed out. Stress will only make your life worse and you definitely won't be able to concentrate on school when you are stressed. Hope that helps andgood luck!! I just finished my first semester of nursing school. I was so overwhelmed at first but I just took my last final today and have come sooooo far from that first week... Good luck!