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Skips, MSN, RN

517 Posts

Specializes in L&D.
you have to understand, your classmates (and everybody on this forum, actually) is your competition... you're not in this to make friends.

i sound like an ***, but that is the reality of it. this is coming from somebody who volunteers their weekend in the emergency room... i am not here for the **** pay.

I'm not in nursing school to make friends. I'm there to get a degree. If I make friends, great. If not, it doesn't hurt my feelings. People in my school tend to be competitive, because we had to competitive to get into the school itself. I don't really mind.

Edit: I quoted the wrong person. x___x I actually agree with you. haha.

rubato, ASN, RN

1,111 Posts

Specializes in Oncology/hematology.
Why are they competition? Once you are in nursing school, it seems to me that the competition is over. Unless your school grades on a curve. Mine doesn't

Job market. We all graduate and then fight against each other for those few measly new grad jobs.

i♥words

561 Posts

"I slept with my notes under my pillow and made a 95!"

"I made a 78 but I had so much going on this week. I had to take my dog to the vet for a broken leg, stage an intervention for my alcoholic grandmother, and mop up my flooded basement."

:rolleyes:

The only time I hate hearing about grades is when people do everything they can to qualify their grades. When I'm asked, I look at the person with mild distraction and say the number, then move on. The story behind the grade is my business.

phuretrotr

292 Posts

I'm all for the smarties in my class not telling me what they got because I sure am not one and I would be jealous, haha.

BUT! If you do always obtain high grades, do not go around asking what other people got and make a remark about not to worry about when they they ask what you got... I only say this because it happened to me the other day when one of the smartest girls in my class asked me what I got and I said an 82 and I asked her how she did. She rolled her eyes and said don't worry about and I laughed and said that you probably got better than me and then she glared at me.

So if you ask and get a score, prepared to get asked back and not make a remark like that.

Side note: I hate it when I get an average grade (that I am proud of) and someone with a higher score says, "Oh you did good!" but when they score the same score as me on the next test, they go on and on about how stupid that test was and that they should have done better. It's like a slap in the face when you praise my score when you do better but knock it when you do that same.

Moral: if you're you are gonna ask or tell, don't be mad with the outcome.

NICU Guy, BSN, RN

4,161 Posts

Specializes in NICU.

People ask "How did you do?" to determine how they are doing in the class as compared to other students. If they get a 75 and other people have similar grades then they are not feeling too bad. But, when you tell them 95, the reaction on their face is not towards you but themselves. They are thinking "**** I am not doing to well in this class."

Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.

Job market. We all graduate and then fight against each other for those few measly new grad jobs.

If that was the case, then I should wait in the middle of the line with my 2.8 while the cum lade group gets to go first??? LOL...um, no, grades don't matter. Ask those who have those accolades and is STILL looking for work while O get a pay check in two weeks...

rubato, ASN, RN

1,111 Posts

Specializes in Oncology/hematology.
If that was the case, then I should wait in the middle of the line with my 2.8 while the cum lade group gets to go first??? LOL...um, no, grades don't matter. Ask those who have those accolades and is STILL looking for work while O get a pay check in two weeks...

Yes, grades don't matter. That was not the point being made. The point being made was that these are the same people you will be competing against for jobs (with your resume, interview skills, and education/job history). So, why worry about being best buds? Neither I, nor the original person who mentioned it, talked about our grades.

Stephalump

2,723 Posts

Specializes in Forensic Psych.

If that was the case, then I should wait in the middle of the line with my 2.8 while the cum lade group gets to go first??? LOL...um, no, grades don't matter. Ask those who have those accolades and is STILL looking for work while O get a pay check in two weeks...

Depends on who you ask. There isn't a GN internship around that will take a student with less than a 3.0, and it's competitive from that point forward.

Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.

Depends on who you ask. There isn't a GN internship around that will take a student with less than a 3.0, and it's competitive from that point forward.

I still beg to differ in regards to that as well. There are plenty of new grads who have that GPA and yet can't get a job. Internship does not equal job. It's about presentation, interview, and how the organization perceives you to be a good fit. And that's how I got my job. Most places will allow people in after 6 months into a residency program who don't have the minimum GPA if you are lucky to get that first job, and I found this out when I sought out a nurse recruiter at a Magnet Hospital during a career fair. Her tips landed me a job with another Magnet Hospital that does not have a GPA requirement for their nurse residency. I speaking on experience...The GPA doesn't matter if you can not be competent in terms of delivering nursing care, or present yourself where they feel as though a candidate can cope with being a nurse in the unit or the organization...no one will ever compete with that...either you are competent or competent enough to deliver nursing care. That's what counts, all day long.

Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.

Yes, grades don't matter. That was not the point being made. The point being made was that these are the same people you will be competing against for jobs (with your resume, interview skills, and education/job history). So, why worry about being best buds? Neither I, nor the original person who mentioned it, talked about our grades.

I am aware you are not the OP...read what my first response was...not necessarily going to be competing for skills, education...job history/significant history perhaps...it turns into "how much money YOU make???" Rather than the competition...I've had that experience as much as I had with the "what grade" ballyhoo...some people need the feel of "worth" instead of or in addition to the investment.

I never felt my classmates were competition. The core people that were in my class, we didn't feel compelled to compete against each other. If anything, our program emphasized that each of us were our colleagues, and giving each other a level of respect was paramount if we were to become safe, competent nurses. Another campus that had a class had that atmosphere, though. I'm glad I did not go there. Maybe it's my philosophy of karma...I personally think the more you focus on "completion" in a career where you are a part of a team, whether you are teaming up with a family, your unit, the multidisciplinary team, you're asking for trouble. Those type of attitudes contribute to med errors, ethical mistakes, near misses, etc...But that's just what I've seen over the 12 years in being in health care.

The less "compete" attitudes against others and more of a "motivate" attitude goes a long way. I will always believe that nursing is similar to the military (my classmate would agree...he was a veteran in the Iraq War)...you are in the trenches when you are doing this program, and when you are out there on the floors and in the communities...It serves people well to have a "team" approach...for those who want to compete, the best thing to do is assist them in maneuvering to compete against themselves, lol...by some of the comments, there may be some successful maneuvering! ;)

rubato, ASN, RN

1,111 Posts

Specializes in Oncology/hematology.

Apparently, you aren't understanding what I am getting at. That's fine. :)

DawnJ

312 Posts

"If that was the case, then I should wait in the middle of the line with my 2.8 while the cum lade group gets to go first??? LOL...um, no, grades don't matter. Ask those who have those accolades and is STILL looking for work while O get a pay check in two weeks... "

Gotta say I agree. Once you have your license, it is about experience and intangibles. They don't ask after your nursing school grades.

I never ask anyone how they did. That is their business. If I'm asked "how did you do" I generally reply either "I did OK" or "I didn't do as well as I'd hoped to". Then I get pressed for a number. I've found if I don't answer, I get more razzing about being a know it all than if I just answer. Then there is the gal who sits in front of me and just turns around and grabs my graded paper off my desk. Yes, I've learned to turn it over and lean my elbows on it now!

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