The sob story, I went to nursing school the day after my son was born a premie, had an 18 month old and 4yr. old. The premie ate every two hours for 45 minutes each time. Never slept through the night until he was 4. Two years later, my mother in law had raised my kids
Talk about GUILT, but I had to, to help provide a future for my family. We retook control of the family, I had to work 3-11, first job... hardly saw the kids or husband for a year, but we had a college fund and savings started. Moved and made enough for the hubby to stay at home for a year, felt guilty to be away, jealous he was there.
Now, we're financially free with $4000 a month in savings or a slush fund, the oldest is 20. I've had to find and utilize even 5 minute intervals to make a difference over the years as I still work nights, but we're all close, kids are good and I preach going to college NOW, before the family comes so that they don't live like we did.
I hope they learn, but I no longer have guilt, we did the best we could for them. I wish I would have done different at times, but the guilt doesn't exist, now that were secure.
The path to get here was VERY hard, guilt at every turn, I slept less, talked to the kids in the car on the way to school, had "dates" with the husband and kids scheduled on the caledar. but the marriage is strong and despite some usual teen issues we are too, it was just so MUCH HARD work to get here, well worth it.
We'd still be struggling now, if we didn't struggle then.