a studying with others problem, opinions needed

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    Last edit by hollyberry678 on May 15, '07
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  3. by   Bigsky4me2
    I think I'd be offended too. But you can't make people be curteous in their dealings with you. If you get the chance, you might could tell them you felt their behavior was inconsderate. It's likely it won't do any good. You may have to just mark them as undependable.

    I am sorry you went through that.
  4. by   CHATSDALE
    cross it off your list of things to worry about..they aren't worth your time it takes to worry
  5. by   carolinapooh
    Stuff like that annoys me greatly. And I have to remind myself that I can't control the actions of another, no matter how wrong I think their handling of the situation was.

    I do feel bad that you went through that. But the other poster is right - they're not worth your consideration. Try to vent and move on from it.
  6. by   llg
    Move on. It's not worth getting all upset about it. There are more important things (and people) in life to invest your energy in.
  7. by   caliotter3
    They sound immature and their behavior was junior high school level. Not worth your time to worry. Go out of your way to be nice to somebody and you will feel better.
  8. by   smk1
    Quote from hollyberry678
    I am in my last semester. I am taking my theory course online. IT is highly rec. to study with others.

    One person in the class I know (as we dont see others, except online) I have called at various times throughout the semester, as well, we live near each other.

    It is common practice for others to get together to study in this class.

    She has been studying with one other person all semester- not inviting me. I didn't think too much of it at the time. She invited me yesterday to join them today. I met with them at a cafe (in which I had studied ith this same person previously for another class).

    When I got there today, they 'uninvited' me. They said they weren't ready to have a 'threesome'. They said they study my rote memory, as they were nervously flipping through cards, and said they were stressed.

    This person I know said, ell, it's my fault, I am sorry- we are all human.
    I said hat about a call? She said I didnt have your number (after I have been calling her all semester...

    I said it's fine, I just think it is weird and unkind to say that to me, after I have come here, and that I am offended...
    I am really upset...and don't know what to think.
    Don't waste anymore of your precious time on them. It probably isn't necessary to have a study group anyway, so just rely on yourself.
  9. by   nj1grlcrus
    while a study group might help, a study group with them would be a disaster, but I do fell your pain, it sucks to be excluded, its just a normal, human reaction to feel pain after an encounter like this. Please try and put this out of your mind as soon as possible, you don't need it. Me, personally, I hope they fail, because they suck as friends, and more importantly, they would suck as nurses. Peace, Donna
  10. by   jemommyRN
    Wow, I have never heard of such foolishness. They are very rude and I'm sorry you had to experience it. Just try to move on and I would never allow them the priveledge of your presence again!
  11. by   WDWpixieRN
    People truly never cease to amaze me. I would immediately lose HER number...you don't need grief or "misunderstandings" like this again....what a waste of YOUR valuable study time!! Best wishes!!
  12. by   gonzo1
    What horrible excuses for human beings those "children" are. They have the maturity of 10 year olds. I was always told that you should study in a group too, but I never did. I tried a couple of groups and there was always too much goofing around and chatting. So I always studied alone. When you study make sure you use several sources, and try to involve as many senses as possilbe to help your memory. Draw pictures, color, use a doll as a practice prop, use family members as practice props, look up stuff online, come here for help.
    This is what I did and I passed with flying colors. You don't need to hang around with hoodlums like them. I shudder to think that they might pass and be my nurse some day.
    God Bless and keep you.
  13. by   hollyberry678
    Last edit by hollyberry678 on May 15, '07
  14. by   Daytonite
    More than selfish, she's irresponsible. She's proved that to you. Don't ever take her up on any other offers. If she's irresponsible about this, she's irresponsible about other things as well. This is not your fault. There's no way you could have predicted she was going to do this to you. In calling you later she was mending a broken bridge which means she's not all that stupid, but the damage is done. A broken bridge is never the same. Something about this sounded fishy to me anyway. I'm thinking that it wasn't her, but maybe the other person that didn't want you at the study. Is that possible? If so, that means she's also a weak person who can't stand up for herself and lets others dictate her actions. Boy! Is she in for a rude awakening when she graduates.