Elder abuse is WAAY too common. I hear posters say REPORT- well, BTDT. Until the agencies that investigate this have more teeth and laws changed, it really doesnt do much good. First really obvious case I had as a caregiver was really blatant. I was doing homecare, the assignment was respite for a cranky 92 year old Portuguese speaking lady...bathe, feed and general supervision. Lady was basically independent except for bathing. Well, lady starts refusing to bath (the reason Im there) I let the family know. Loving daughter
comes over and the fight is on: lots of shouting in Portuguese and daughter threw Mom out of bed, strips her nude and yanks her into the tub. I was a new caregiver and reported to my agency what had happened and that I had personally witnessed all of the above and that the dtr had struck her mother in front of me. Agency calls in APS and the police get involved, I was interviewed, the family called the agency and accused me of making up my report. Anyway........no charges were pressed because the elderly lady admitted my account was true, but said she would NOT testify against her dtr. Nothing happened, no APS supervision, Mom went back to the same environment. My opinion......APS is a worthless toothless entity. I do still report things on occasion, but only to cover my ***, not becuase I think anything else will be done.
Second particularly egregious case: a loving familt
was going on vacation and needed temporary help to "look in on" Mom 4 hours a day. Mom was confused, got lost trying to find the front door to let me in to her mobile home, an extreme fall risk, there were several of us working for this lady, and we each had to get her off the floor, had no soap or cleaning products in a home that was extremely filthy (could not see the pattern of the lino floor in the kitchen) very little food in the house (appeared malnourished) very little bedding or clothing on the premises either. The poor lady had not been bathed in who knows how long,either. She was incontinent and could not stand in the shower. She apppeared to have advanced CHF, dementia and some sort of chronic pain problem. Anyway, we all complained to the agency that it wasa unsafe to leave this woman alone. The agency tried to negotiate with the family to increase the time we were there: no dice/too expensive. This is from a family that owns a beachfront condo in Calif :angryfire Anyway, the inevitable happened, the lady fell and couldnt get up, we dont know how long she was down. The aide on that day had her taken to the ER for evaluation. The doc was hip to the situation, and wrote orders that she could not be returned home until she had 24/7 care :chuckle The family was pi**ed off and returned home, put Mom in a nursing home. The clincher: about 6 months later I pick up the local paper and surprise! here is this family. Our local paper has a section each week where they feature amateurs and their hobby cars. This family was featured, and the amount they had in this hobby car would have paid my agency fees for 24/7 care for 6 months. :angryfire I still ask myself HOW DO THESE PEOPLE SLEEP AT NIGHT!!!