Topic: Venting in Private? - page 3
It's been awhile since I've been on, just thought I would say Hi to everyone. I've been going through some tough times lately, and thought I would come in and say hello. Just a thought too....I... Read More
Apr 12, '04Occupation: icu nurse Joined: Jul '02; Posts: 10,260; Likes: 233I am a bit like Jnette - I just owned up at work as to who I was and what I was doing - they know and I do not abuse that trust in me that I will not denigrate the hospital or staff I work with and I trust them not to twist my words.
Also, though, like Jnette I sort of hide myself within the 5000+ posts. If anyone wants to wade through that they are welcome!!
Apr 12, '04Occupation: RN - College Health Specialty: Geriatrics/Oncology/Psych/College Health ; Joined: Jun '02; Posts: 6,584; Likes: 70My attitude is, prove it's me... I change relevant identifying info whenever I discuss a pt case. I liken it to that episode of the Brady Bunch where the kids each think one of the parents wrote a Dear Abby advice columnist about them. It's a big world out there, and I am constantly amazed at how many times I think this or that poster MUST be working at my hospital. Then I realize it's just that we all deal with the same crap all over :chuckle.
Apr 12, '04Joined: Apr '02; Posts: 38,763; Likes: 16,343I am so sorry to hear this. I just posted a venting thread....sure hope no one uses it against me in some way...sheesh. I am really sorry about what happened to you
Apr 12, '04Joined: Mar '03; Posts: 719; Likes: 1Isn't it a shame that we live in a world where truth, honesty and feelings have to be hidden behind anonimity for fear of reproach.
Apr 13, '04Joined: Mar '04; Posts: 5,926; Likes: 15Quote from scrubs70Isn't it though? Unless using real, actual names of co-workers etc, it shouldn't make a different what we say here. Sad. I sooo thought this would be a great place to spend all my years as a nurse, partly of course, to vent whatever I needed to!Isn't it a shame that we live in a world where truth, honesty and feelings have to be hidden behind anonimity for fear of reproach.
Apr 13, '04Joined: Mar '03; Posts: 719; Likes: 1Well I am me and I will say what I feel and if it comes back to bite me Cest La Vie.
I have enough other things to worry about.
I would have been lost yesterday if I could not have vented to my friends on here. Thanks everyone.Last edit by scrubs70 on Apr 13, '04
Apr 13, '04Joined: Mar '02; Posts: 1,843; Likes: 1,237It makes me sick! I know this is a "public" forum, but we are also afforded some "anonymity" here to. What the H*!! kind of person takes what is said off the job w/o details (names, etc., so no breech of privacy) and prints it out at work for God's sake??? Someone who has a few nuts-n-bolts missing upstairs for sure! Maybe this person is some sort of brown-noser who wants a personal pat on the tooshy from the boss. It says something about HER NOT ABOUT YOU! I suppose she never gets upset and says something she doesn't mean. I am so very very sad that you had to go through this. I hope you will feel better soon and things will improve for you. Best of luck and take care!
Apr 13, '04Occupation: SAHM, for now. From: WI, US ; Joined: Feb '04; Posts: 2,574; Likes: 322Since my current line of work is a little different (a doula), I will ask permission from the parents before I share information. I had experienced a wonderful birth and I posted about it - with the parents permission.
Although I don't currently know anyone from my area, once I get into clinicals and on the floor I will be more careful. You know, HIPPA and all that.
I'm sorry this happened to you, Rosie. Sometimes the saying that "nurses eat their young" might have a bit of truth.
Apr 13, '04Occupation: Pre-nursing Student Joined: Jan '04; Posts: 382; Likes: 10So sorry this happened to you. ((((((Nursie30)))))) Sending lots of hugs your way.
Apr 13, '04Joined: Apr '02; Posts: 264; Likes: 7Thanks again to all that posted with words of kindness, I'm feeling much better now, its just the point of taking so long to get over not having that job, and then 7 mos later, this happening. It's like I said, it set my therapy back a bit, but I know I'll bounce back, and I know everything happens for a reason, and God has a plan for me......but thanx everyone....
Apr 13, '04Occupation: RN Clinician-United Biosource Specialty: 30 year(s) of experience in Pediatrics, Geriatrics ; From: US ; Joined: Feb '03; Posts: 1,237; Likes: 16I'm sorry you are going through this. That is really crappy. But in a way you should be flattered, that eventhough it is something you have gotten over and moved on with, you impressed them so much that they still talk about you. It sounds like those people have too much time on their hands. Most places I have worked, I couldn't tell you the nurses that were there 6 months ago. Why not look into some of the bigger cities?? I wish you good luck on finding a good job, and good coworkers that are worthy of you.
May 7, '04Joined: May '04; Posts: 2Well, I am here to defend myself. I am not the "evil" person or someone with "zero class" as I was made to sound. First of all, I was not even a member of this forum until just about five minutes ago. I did, however, read a lot of the posts on here because, let's face it - I'm a nurse. Yes, I did put two and two together and figure out who Nursie 30 was. My intent was never to hurt her...EVER!! She should know me well enough to know that...obviously not. Yes, I did copy the letter, but the reason I did was because I have worried about Nursie since the day she quit her job. Yes, I did show the letter to the boss because the boss has also worried about Nursie. Yes, she was venting, and in retrospect, I do see her point - we DO say things when we are upset that we probably would not otherwise say. People at work did not laugh about it. People were still concerned about Nursie (and still are). Everyone there loved Nursie and respected her. (Still do.) Did I print out the post below that Nursie wrote? Yes I did - so I can show it to only one person - the person that I am pretty confident told Nursie that the printed "vent" was passed around to co-workers. Obviously it was told to Nursie that I set out to hurt her. That just wasn't the case. There were maybe four people total that even saw what had been printed out - ALL OF THEM VERY CONCERNED FOR HER! Nursie was amazing at her job. She was just awesome - a VERY hard act for me to follow. Nursie, I'm sure you probably hate me at this point, and that makes me so sad. But if it's any consolation, it's not a real treat to always hear, "Well, "Nursie" did it this way or that way." I'm not you, Nursie, nor will I ever be as proficient at this job as you were, but I just keep trying. I'm so sorry you felt you had to leave your job. You are truely missed. I just hope you believe me when I say I NEVER meant to hurt you, even though I did hurt you by copying that darned post. If I could turn back time, I wouldn't have done it. And I do hope you can forgive me for it. I know things have been rough for you, and I keep you and your family in my prayers. Maybe it will make you feel a little better to know that my life is not exactly a bowl of cherries right now. We, too, are living on only one income since my husband is trying to get disability SS on his Crohn's disease. We've recently lost our insurance benefits which were through the Division of Family Services. I make too much money. Yeah right. We live paycheck to paycheck. I have about $100 left out of each check to run me for two weeks. I'm now trying to figure out how we are going to pay for $685 worth of medication each month and $2000 every eight weeks to pay for my husband's Remicade that keeps him halfway in remission from the Crohn's. Oh, and do you wanna know this weeks saga? I've found out my daughter is a "cutter". Hmmm...wonder how I'm gonna pay for all that counceling. Like I said, Nursie, perhaps it will make you see that my life is in as much turmoil as yours is right now. Ok...it's midnight - I'm tired. All I can do is say, "I'm sorry." Hell, maybe I deserve all that turmoil - who knows?
Quote from Nursie30It's been awhile since I've been on, just thought I would say Hi to everyone.
I've been going through some tough times lately, and thought I would come in and say hello.
Just a thought too....I know that we have ALL vented on occasion, and sometimes this is the only place that you can get someone to listen, or find someone that understands what you may be going through. Seems harmless enough, bad day at work, come home, vent online to your online friends, good way to get your feelings out, and before you know it, you've taken up a whole page, mostly because it feels good to get your feelings out, just by typing them on the keyboard. Vent about co-workers, pts, families, whatever the case may be. Using a Username, we don't really identify ourselves. But maybe someone looks at all of your posts, and puts the information together, that one time you say your from Missouri, then one time you say you have 3 kids, well you get the picture. Fellow co-workers could actually find a post on here, such as the one that I posted in September when I walked out of my job, they could copy it, and then take it to work with them, and share it with your old comrads, maybe even have a laugh about it. Your personal feelings, sharing them with your fellow nurses online that understand what you are going through, taken back to your previous place of employment to be viewed by all, refeuling a fire that should have been out so long ago.
Oh it could happen, and it did, just recently. After not working at this place for 7 months, my original post, my venting, was recently copied and taken there for all to see.
Sometimes when you vent, you don't even mean half of what you say, or later.............MAYBE 7 months later, your feelings have changed, your heart is not as hardened, you've gone through some really crappy times, especially since being unemployed for so long, and pounding the pavement for a job, just to be turned down time and time again, getting ready to lose your home, losing your heat in your house, going to food pantries and other places getting assistance just to stay alive, so different from the world you knew before. Maybe after someone has been through these things, maybe the stop holding grudges and just try to survive.
It sickens me that anything I ever posted here has ended up there. It just sickens me. I know its a public board, I know complete strangers read what I post, but to be sought out, especially after so long, well it just makes no since to me. A fellow co-worker that I thought of as a friend, has been doing her math, put 2 and 2 together and came up with ME. Little ole me all the way out here in Cyber nursing world. Am I wrong to be so upset? Am I just venting? I guess I just don't like being the topic of their conversations, again. I hope that if your reading this, and you know who you are, that you feel ashamed of what you have done, and think before doing next time.