Topic: Venting in Private? - page 2

It's been awhile since I've been on, just thought I would say Hi to everyone. I've been going through some tough times lately, and thought I would come in and say hello. Just a thought too....I... Read More

  1. by   Tweety
    Yes you should be upset. That was very cruel to share personal feelings like that. That person should have come to you to talk with you about it if they had concerns.

    No, they are not a friend.
  2. by   Krissy NY
    How awful. Sounds exactly like some of the evil ones I have to work with. I have been pretty descripive too. Somehow, though, I doubt the ones who are giving me trouble are much into learning more about this field or into finding solutions to things going on. THey are more into creating problems and learning more about new co-workers so they can create problems for them...just like the desperate x-co-worker who did this to you. Shame on them!

    but..what goes around comes around

    Can you imagine if they responded to your post!

  3. by   camay1221_RN
    Wow, how incredibly pathetic that the individual who did this to you has absolutely nothing better in his/her life to do than drag your name through the mud!! You have every right to be angry about this!

    ((((((Hugs))))) and prayers to you!
  4. by   VickyRN
    There are two instances that I can recall in which nurses who shared on this bb suffered professional harm. One was an OB nurse (this was about 4-5 yrs ago, if I remember correctly) who was VERY vocal about work concerns at her hospital and was blackballed after coworkers "discovered" her postings on this bb. She changed her username after the fact, but it was too late. Another more recent incident involved a med surg nurse who was transferring to an ICU unit and was sharing about some of her experiences there. Again, her posts were "discovered" by not-so-supportive coworkers and she was severely chastised for "breach of patient confidentiality."
    Both posters suffered severe professional repercussions.
    I know it is not right, but it is a cold cruel world out there and nurses can be some of the cruelest.
    Again (and I am speaking to myself foremost), beware.
  5. by   Nursie30
    Thanks again for all of the support and prayers that I knew I would find here. I wanted to get the message to her, as well as just suggest to be more careful. I looked at all of my posts, I never have mentioned any particulars about anyone from this job, or about myself, but as I said I did vent a whole page worth of information about the day I walked out and how I had felt I was wronged.
    The main thing is, I have accepted the fact, after all this time that I was partly to blame for the events that lead up to my leaving. I think I had probably gotten "too big for my britches" so to speak, and maybe a little full of myself. When I walked out I fully expected them to beg me back, and that didn't happen. I guess I thought I couldn't be replaced. I miss working, I miss being a nurse and loved doing MDS's and Careplans. After 7 months and no return calls from resumes and applications, I am beginning to feel as though I will never be a nurse again. People are telling me to just apply at Wal-Mart, or wherever, just to get some money coming in, and I hate to even think of that, not that its beneath me, but just because of what nursing means to me. I got into this profession because of my oldest sister. She was an LPN, and was so caring and so patient, she was just a wonderful person. I would see her with her residents, and just be amazed at how wonderful she was, and what wonderful things she was doing. She taught me everything that I know, my first job was working right along side of her, and I felt I couldn't have learned from anyone better. (She also taught me that if there is drainage, its prulent drainage, not ***** drainage as I once charted right after graduation lol) She is no longer with us, she passed away in June of 2001, from a 2 yr battle with breast cancer, and I miss her dearly. I am the baby of the family and she was the oldest and was like mother to me. And in some silly way, I feel like I would be letting her down, if I never return to nursing again, I feel that a part of her is with me when I am out there with those patients and sharing compassion with them. God I miss her so much....I"m sorry, just a bit emotional after all of this has taken place. The loss of my job has really put a hurt on my family, and sent me into depression, for a long time after I had quit, I would have dreams of them calling me and asking me to come back, and I would hope that one day the phone would ring and they would say, "Well, we miss you, its been long enough, why don't you come on back. It was the best place I had ever worked, the relationship with the co-workers was wonderful, I looked forward to going to work, and new that my sister would be proud of me that I had an office, and a desk and a phone, and all that silly stuff that goes with it. I don't know what went wrong. I had my daughter in February, and my panic attacks got worse. I was afraid to bond with her because I had a horrible fear that she was going to die. I was put on medication, Effexor and Xanax. It seemed to help, but I didn't realize until reading an article about these drugs that they could cause irrational behavior. I had tons of withdrawal symptoms and was again miserable. I don't think I would have walked out of my job if I hadn't been on this medication. (Boy I'm really putting it all out there now huh? Oh well, they know who I am now, so it doesn't matter huh? LOL)I live in a small town, I because of my panic attacks and am terrified to drive on the highways, so I limit myself to the few surrounding towns, to look for employment and nothing is happening. I just didn't need this right now, I was even thinking of humbling myself and going to ask my former manager if I could be rehired. (Just be nice to the girls working in the drive thru windows at MC Donald's you never know it might be me, lol. )
    Its just ridiculous that this had to happen at this time. Someone mentioned, trying to talk to my old manager about it, I guess after the person copied it and took it to work, the manager was the one that was letting everyone read there you go there...
    I'm not a vengeful person, so I wouldn't try legal action. With all that I am going through I still try to remain upbeat, keep my sense of humor, and trust in God that we will make it through this trying time. I just want to be a nurse, do what I Love, make people laugh and be able to provide for my family. Sorry to VENT so much, its just that finding this out, has set my therapy back a few months
    I have a tendancy to only come to this BB when I have a problem, and even though I'm not a REG, I still feel so welcome, and I appreciate that so much right now, you just don't even know. Instead of playing that silly Roller Coaster Tycoone game I"m hooked on, I"m gonna spend more time in here. It's definately a place for healing, thanks for those broad shoulders.......
  6. by   J Lynn
    [/quote]i had my daughter in february, and my panic attacks got worse. i was afraid to bond with her because i had a horrible fear that she was going to die. i was put on medication, effexor and xanax. it seemed to help, but i didn't realize until reading an article about these drugs that they could cause irrational behavior. i had tons of withdrawal symptoms and was again miserable. i don't think i would have walked out of my job if i hadn't been on this medication. (boy i'm really putting it all out there now huh? oh well, they know who i am now, so it doesn't matter huh? lol)i live in a small town, i because of my panic attacks and am terrified to drive on the highways, so i limit myself to the few surrounding towns, to look for employment and nothing is happening.

    i had panic attacks after i had my second daughter also. i got on prozac and it has helped me get through school and manage my household. i too counldn't get in my car and drive on an interstate highway because i feared that i would break down or get a flat tire and i had my baby with me and no one would stop to help. you must get back on something to help you get your life back so you can drive further if you have to. you will die in that small town and the problem with small towns (i live in one too) is that everybody knows everybody and you just feel smothered by all the same surrondings.
    stay with us, the support here is really great.
  7. by   Katnip
    It is awful that someone would do such a thing. Unfortunately, I've also seen cases where people put 2 and 2 together and come up with 5.

    I mean I've seen people so SURE that what they heard and read had to be related to themselves in some way and were totally wrong. They just THINK they have all the background they need.
  8. by   Shed13911
    Wow, thanks for the words of warning. I guess I thought we were all anonomous here and felt safe in talking about past experience and concerns. How very sad that your coworkers were not on the honor system as we all feel we are. I would never resort to taking someones words and using them that way. I hope and pray you find what you are looking for. There has to be a job that needs someone like you. I pray God places it in your past very soon. ((((((((((((((HUGS to you))))))))))))))))).
  9. by   caroladybelle
    This has been an issue on this BB. I know of at least one person that was fired when someone from her workplace, identified her posts on this BB.

    Nothing on the Internet is ever private and don't expect it to be.
  10. by   Town & Country
    Nursie30, you're a nurse.
    That is not a state of employment, but a state of being.

    That CANNOT be taken away from you.

    Get out of that small town. I once thought I would never get another nursing job, also; for different reasons, but I have had jobs all over the country offered to me.
    It's a big, bright world out there.
  11. by   RN~in~CT
    Nursie30 ~ I am so sorry this happened to you. {{{hugs}}}
  12. by   Agnus
    So very true. I have found out there are those who lurk and never ever post. That lurker could be your boss or the person whom you are talking about.
  13. by   Energizer Bunny
    I am very sorry that this happened but glad that you brought it to my attention so that I will think before I post anything that could come back to bite me in the butt.

    I too am in a small town with only one hospital so if that is where I end up after school (we only have one school too so I'd better watch it now) it is likely others would know who I am. I definately will be careful!