Threatened by Patient Family - page 4
While helping a co-worker (so she could eat lunch) I was threatened by a patient's family; they made specific, violent treats towards me. I immediately reported this to my supervisor and one of our... Read More
May 18, '09Occupation: Paramedic/LPN Specialty: EMS, ER, GI, PCU/Telemetry ; From: US ; Joined: Jul '07; Posts: 2,287; Likes: 4,694Quote from caliotter3it's a sad state of affairs, isn't it?I was also told by another attorney that I had to become a statistic before I could take action against one of my attackers. I was told the same thing by law enforcement. Thus, weapon of choice. I've slept with it for years now.
i was stalked and harrassed by an ex boyfriend and the cops said they couldn't do anything for me until he actually put his hands on me. i was like thanks guys, i'll call you back when i'm bleeding to death.
May 18, '09Occupation: ICU, RN/BSN Specialty: ICU, telemetry ; From: US ; Joined: Sep '06; Posts: 2,115; Likes: 8,405A good friend of mine was stalked by a guy she'd went out with twice. He broke in to her apartment, she'd come home and find her underwear spread all over the bed with "presents" on them, and her cat disappeared. She went to the cops, and the guy told them they'd been living together for years and she was just having PMS and acting crazy. She ended up moving out of state to get away from the guy. In our society, we are NOT protected.
Personally, I'm a big believer in bringing a gun to a knife fight....
May 18, '09Joined: Aug '02; Posts: 38,000; Likes: 37,183It is not unrealistic for the OP to fear these family members when the patient does pass away. That event gives them the perfect excuse to take their frustrations out on her and the employer will be oh, so empathetic with them and throw her to the dogs, if she is still alive. No hypocrisy around the workplace. No, none at all.
May 18, '09Occupation: RN Joined: Apr '07; Posts: 211; Likes: 316I did specifically tell the management that I'm afraid of what these people will do when the child dies. Management still maintains that we have nothing to fear physically from this family. I have no idea what makes them so sure, but I sure wish they'd share it with the rest of us. Because everyone I've talked to is freaked out and thinks security should have at least been notified.
May 18, '09Joined: Apr '00; Posts: 24,611; Likes: 35,448susan, do be careful.
i work inpatient hospice, and we did a stint of peds hospice.
sometimes parent(s) DO lose control.
as someone who has buried her 6yo dtr, i am too familiar w/the feelings that penetrate your soul, and can/will make you into a very crazy, unstable person.
you may want to consider mace...
if i wasn't so wary of some of my pts families, i'd be the first to give them a great big bear hug.
sometimes insanity walks a very narrow line.
May 18, '09Specialty: 19 year(s) of experience ; Joined: Dec '07; Posts: 2,366; Likes: 4,417Quote from debanamThis is why we need nursing unions. (effective ones).It upsets me that our supervisors seem to think that workplace violence is ok - just this past week, a tech had her thumb dislocated to where she needs surgery and a MRI tech was bitten. There is no excuse for this. The answer is to threaten to take our jobs instead of holding the responsible parties, well, responsible.
I would document what went on in a notebook and keep it safe. Also, look for another job. Enough is enough, and if you were frightened, than that is enough reason to leave.
May 18, '09Occupation: RN Joined: Apr '07; Posts: 211; Likes: 316This is why we need nursing unions. (effective ones).
May 18, '09Occupation: RN Joined: Jun '02; Posts: 2,030; Likes: 5,933In response to the nurse in Texas- the NNOC has already organized nurses at at least one hospital in Texas. Contact them ASAP, and talk to a union organizer. Keep the faith!
Lindarn, RN, BSN, CCRN
May 18, '09Occupation: RN Specialty: 13 year(s) of experience in ICU ; From: US ; Joined: Oct '06; Posts: 1,261; Likes: 1,702It was very difficult for that ONE hospital to bring in NNOC.... it is difficult for nurses to have unions in Texas... although I do believe it would benefit us,, especially in a situation like this one...
May 19, '09Occupation: RN BSN Specialty: 8 year(s) of experience in Peds Hem Onc/bloodless med and surg ; Joined: Oct '08; Posts: 1,018; Likes: 1,169Make sure security walks you to your car and do everything you can to be safe.
They are no harm my butt. Last time I heard that, the nurse that the phrase was directed to got her tooth kicked out.
Stay safe and don't become a victim.