So Very Sad

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I am feeling so low today. Trouble on the job, boss soooo :devil:. Thinking I will just get out of Nursing altogether - if I ever regain the energy to figure out what else to do, LOL. Ever had this happen to you? How do you handle bosses who are so unfair, so cruel?

Specializes in Trauma,ER,CCU/OHU/Nsg Ed/Nsg Research.

I can empathize with you. I had a manager that harassed me constantly, yelling at me in front of others, etc. My own remedy was to transfer to a unit that I knew would prevent me from ever being pulled to one of her units. I am in the same bldg, but as far away from her as I could get. I am still suffering from the depression that resulted from the way she treated me. It was a shock to my system, because I had a perfect record before I went to work for her.

You may not want to transfer to another unit, but it would be one way to keep your benefits. Hang in there, and don't let her push your buttons if you can help it.

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Specializes in Brain injury,vent,peds ,geriatrics,home.

TRudyRn,sorry you have to deal with an unfair,cruel supervisor.Im sure youre a valuable nurse.If youre feeling burned out,find another area of nursing.There are so many options.Every once in a while you might run across persons that we genuinely dont get along with.dont let it ruin your career.Maybe find another area of nursing.Ya wont have any trouble finding another position.Good Luck Allantiques.

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Hang in there, take a deep a breath and decide what you want to do. Maybe a new job is in order. Don't let the sup. get the best of you. I've seen posts by you before on this site. You seem very sensable and caring. Hope things work out for you soon. Consider yourself cyber huged. :redpinkhe

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"kill them with kindness."

does that ever work?

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Does that ever work?

haha. I was wondering the same thing. :D

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Specializes in Utilization Management.

I just made two moves in 8 months to get away from (1) a toxic environment, and (2) a unit that was genuinely a bad match for me.

I was starting to get depressed for awhile there, when I was stuck and feeling like I couldn't do anything right.

What a difference it makes to be where you want to be with people who are not trying to do you in!

Trudy, maybe you should change units? Or change areas?

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Huge shortage of nurses out there - shouldn't have any problem. I say walk (I just did...). Good luck !

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Benefits can be frozen. Get some advice on money picture from someone you trust, weight the options, make the decision best for you and go forward with that decision. I would suggest some counselling for stress and a little prayer too. Seems like we older workers need to more and more of that these days. Good luck.

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Just checking in on you to see if things are any better with a new day ?

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Thanks for all the understanding and encouragement, guys! I have thought about leaving but really am trying to hang in and get that pension. I'm really close to achieving it. I am trying to figure out whether to reply or not to the ridiculous allegations leveled against me and what to say if I do. I fear making it worse but I should probably reply in some way, no matter what.

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Many people in many diverse careers who are getting closer to retirement are reporting this kind of treatment. The public perception of the beloved older employee getting a retirement party and a gold watch was probably never accurate. Closer to the truth is that there benefits and pay scale is viewed with resentment by a employer who really does not want to pay them. In many cases they are just shown the door. If the employer fears age discrimination suits false charges and accusations will be leveled. Harassement and mental cruelity will be engaged in until employee quits. I am baby boomer and as many of my life long aquaintences and I approach a certain age we are starting to experience this. I got bad news for them, baby boomers never took anything laying down and we won't do it in retirement either.

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Many people in many diverse careers who are getting closer to retirement are reporting this kind of treatment. The public perception of the beloved older employee getting a retirement party and a gold watch was probably never accurate. Closer to the truth is that there benefits and pay scale is viewed with resentment by a employer who really does not want to pay them. In many cases they are just shown the door. If the employer fears age discrimination suits false charges and accusations will be leveled. Harassement and mental cruelity will be engaged in until employee quits. I am baby boomer and as many of my life long aquaintences and I approach a certain age we are starting to experience this. I got bad news for them, baby boomers never took anything laying down and we won't do it in retirement either.

This happens very frequently in hospital nursing. I experienced it to a degree, enough that I did leave, and at least 4 other experienced 'older' nurses I know personally left for the above mentioned reasons. Often it will follow a medical leave or similar time off, when the person returns, "there is just no position left for you, sorry". Very sad. Interestingly enough there was a drive on to get magnet status at the time. Maybe the two weren't linked but the timing was interesting....

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This happens very frequently in hospital nursing. I experienced it to a degree, enough that I did leave, and at least 4 other experienced 'older' nurses I know personally left for the above mentioned reasons. Often it will follow a medical leave or similar time off, when the person returns, "there is just no position left for you, sorry". Very sad. Interestingly enough there was a drive on to get magnet status at the time. Maybe the two weren't linked but the timing was interesting....
I came upon a very good NA with 30 years in institution and she was sobbing. This is what had her upset. Her unit had been shut down and all staff had to apply for other positions. She interviewed with a certain manager and she claimed he said, "You have 4 weeks vacation and many hours sick time due to your senority. Also, your years of service would put you in position to have first dibs on vacation slots, that would cause a revolt with my current staff. I can't offer you a position". They nurse aid was forced to go into float pool.
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