RN as Inpatient, horrible and looong rant

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On top of everything I have been unable to log into the site. Here I am , minus a UTERUS!!!! Believe me when I tell you that in my situation it is better to be an ordinary citizen than to be "found out" as I was, as a nurse.

Deep breath, and sooo happy to tell this story:

2002, still suffering from heavy periods, cramping, bloating etc. Found a female OBG I could relate to who reassurred me that she would persue every avenue to help me thru this, did a D & C, tried the vivelle patch. I am 48 years old, always been underweight and anemic, no ther health problems. Finally had a bout of break thru bleeding that left me with a low crit, did an US, found numerous fibroids which had imbedded and were close to the cervical os, had hubby in exam room for options, she said a TVH scheduled for the 13th. No ther explaination given. Had a preop appt. on the 12th, she said "you need to come in early for an IV ATB for your CARDIAC INSUFFICIENCY" I said "WHAT?" she said "yes, it was diagnosed back in 2005 during an echo" I was nervous and upset but all systems were a go. Sorry guys, you have no idea what I have been thru....

So day of surgery, I shower, shave and had done the bowel prep the afternoon before (nasty stuff, don't advise) and packed up to go down the street. Whisked me off right under my husbands nose into the ROOM. The preop nurse says to me as I am following her, "OH! I see that you are a nurse, that makes my job easy! You already know what to expect!" She leads me into a room and says, there is your gown, your teds and sequentials, go ahead and get yourself ready and we will be back to take you to surgery!!!!

I am SCREAMING inside, I have no idea what to expect but do as I am told, no help even though I am shaking an nervous. Soon the nurse comes back, sits at the bedside and initiates a chat about WHERE I WORK, THE MONEY I MAKE and how I can refer her to a registry!!!! You guys would not believe the bruising on my forearms from when they tried to start the IV, at 1 point the nurse handed me the IV start kit and said, "Well, your a nurse, you can most likely find a vein". I wanted to VOMIT. I kept telling them that I was a patient just like anyone else but I felt like Alice falling thru the rabbit hole.

By now the anesthetist comes in, repeahs the same thing, shoots me up and the next thing I remember is being in a bed on the unit with 02, IV and FC. Hubby there looking totally flustared and hearing the staffer sya "Good thing your wife is a nurse, you don't need us anymore, see you in the morning!" . I was on an MS drip and so uncomfortable, with a gut like I was 9months pregnant, I could play taps on my abd. That and the floppy FC it was MISERABLE. The nursing staff IGNORED me, my MD has not spoken with me except to poke her head in the door the following day for all of 60 seconds, sent me home with no meds, no F/U UGH.

Sorry, long rant, hubby grabs a WC , get's me to the car, home, tucked up in bed, my H& H was low per AM RN, I am shivering, running a temp 99.8 per tempadot, not much spotting, aching now I'm off MS, took some advil, taking fluids, scanty urine OP but no pain, hell I've been on MS right?

Finally the pain begins. I call at 4:30 to my MD, some guy answers, I tell him I need to speak to my doc, HE TELLS ME TO TAKE SOME ADVIL AND CALL BACK TOMORROW!!!! I explain to him exactely what I had done!

You guys are great! Thanks for hanging in! About 15 minutes later a person from the med group calls to confirm a scrip for vicodin, which my darling picked up within a few hours. So as far as pain issues, I'm OK, however, I did not know that my ovaries would GO INTO SHOCK and I had hot flashes and crying jags at the drop of a hat. I called and spoke with a nurse at this med center who said it was OK to allpy the vivelle patch which has helped.

Today, I am finally coherent yet not resting, I check my bank account to find that this group took money out of my account in duplicate as a co payment for the procedure!!!! I called the business office and ONLY then did the business manager spend a few minutes on the phone explaining the post op instructions, namely that I am OFF WORK FOR 6 WEEKS!!!! I was breathless with exasperation and totally annoyed at this point when she said " YOUR A NURSE, I THOUGHT YOU WOULD HAVE KNOWN THAT"

So, here I am in testosterone heaven, my darling husband has no idea how to take care of me, my sister just took off my a much needed vacation in Kauii, Mother and Dad are in Palm Springs, I need some feed back from my beloved peers as to any experiences you have had as an inpatient. I am really concerned about the lack of follow up from this MD, I have gotten a follow up phone call from my dentist when I had a root canal, am I being over sensitive here? I am a bedside RN who does mostly med surg, my original posting is Haunted but I can't log in, your feed back would be appreciated. I may not be able to log back in to reply but I can read if you respond and I value your opinions, as always, Haunted aka Laurie Again, thanks so much for being there.

I would definatly find a new ob. This doctor sounds horrible. I would also request a complete copy of your medical chart just in case there is anything else this doctor has "forgot" to tell you. Good Luck and Get Well Soon!!!!!!!!

Haunted-

What a nightmare! My heart goes out to you. Please do contact someone at the hospital who handles patient complaints, and please write and call and notify them in detail what you told us here, but also be sure to name all docs and nurses involved. How you were treated was unbelievable. I pray that those docs & nurses get some counseling and are held accountable for their insensitive and frankly crappy care. Whatever happened to compassion and assessment of patient and bedside teaching, etc? We all know nursing is highly specialized, and RNs can't be expected to know everything about everything.Even if you were placed on your home unit with a dx you were familiar with, that behavior was absolutely sub standard and shoddy. They failed you on so many levels.

I have to say that the one time I had a procedure as a patient last year at my own hospital where I work, they all knew I was an RN, but were kind enough to explain everything to me and treat me with the same dignity as any other patient who is scared, in pain, etc. My d/c instructions were clear, written and reinforced verbally. I felt cared for and safe. That's how you should have been treated too!!!

I still can't get over the "cardiac insuffiency" not being told to you until several years later. I would be pissed! That's grounds for firing your doc I say.I hope you can find a better OB, but in the meanwhile please let all those involved how unhappy you were with their service and care (or lack of care I should say). Getting a copy of your medical records is a good idea, as the previous poster mentioned.

Take care Haunted!!!:icon_hug: Hope you feel better soon!

Haunted, I would write a letter to the people in charge of patient complaints, definitely. But, I'm not sure how much good that would do, personally. If I were you, I would call and ask to speak to the nurse manager of the units (the floor you were on, the OR, and any other place you had problems) and let THEM know what you experienced, even the problem with the anesthesiologist.

I've only been a nurse for 2 years, but I can't remember seeing anyone get reprimanded personally because of a patient survey. But I HAVE seen the nurse manager personally get involved and pull people aside and speak to them due to patient complaints. It won't help the situation at large, but at least those people you were personally inolved with might be a little more aware of their actions. If you write them a letter explaining your situation, they may post it for the staff to read.

Why is it that people, even other nurses, think that just because you're a nurse you know everything there is to know about every type of procedure?

I'm sorry you had such a horrible experience as a patient. You should write a letter to the CEO or CNO telling your story. Not to excuse those nurses caring for you for their unprofessional behavior; but I'd like to know what the nurse/patient ratios are at that hospital. I wish you a speedy recovery.

Specializes in Education, Medical/Surgical.

Just a thought here. You may want to consider changing the type of primary care provider to an Internist. That way your medical records would be transferred to a "probably neutral" (?) party. You have pretty much identified your remaining problems as-anemia, hx heart failure, fever etc. This is what I did and have been quite pleased. I'd identify myself to her/him as a nurse and request that information be kept confidential.

As far as the fever: cough and deep breathe! The docs will tell you there is no such documented thing as atalectasis causing fever HAH! It really helps.

Keep us posted. Love.

Specializes in med/surg.

This is no way to treat a patient - nurse or not - & that's the bottom line!

Specializes in cardiac med-surg.

wishing you a speedy recovery

I admit I have only read the first page of posts. It makes me think it that happens to me perhaps I say, "yes I am an RN, so I will expect especially good care from you and everyone else." I'll soon be able to add to that, that "I am a Certified Legal Nurse Consultant." Perhaps that will put the fear of God into them. How very very sad I might have to resort to such tactics.\\

Hind site is 20/20, perhaps the op would have fared better if she had been a squeeky wheel. Again it is sad that would even be necessary

HauntedRN, I'm sorry you had such a horrible experience. I do hope that you are feeling better and continue to be on the mend. Take care...

Recently my mom had to go into the ED for treatment at the hospital she worked at for 14 years an RN. She didn't tell anyone in ED that she was a former RN as she didn't want to appear to be a know-it-all, and there were some areas in which she wasn't as familiar with.

When she got up to the room, one of her former colleagues called out to her, "It's so great to see you, what happened blah blah no one told us we'd be getting a former RN" Keep in mind my mom had just spent the last 12 hours or so puking her guts up. At first she didn't recognize who the woman was, and then she remembered her... well, this RN decides that it's a great time for a little catch up session, despite the fact that my mom was very ill. Mom hold her that we'll catch up later when I'm not so ill. After that, every RN assigned to mom had an RN who knew her (and this wasn't even the floor she had worked on!!) My mom barely had time to call ME because she was so sick, but everyone else thought it would be a grand time for a catch up/old gossip session.

I guess she had pretty good reason not to mention to the ED people she wasn't an RN.

BTW, mom is home now and doing better... and is getting more rest. :p

Specializes in A myriad of specialties.

So sorry this has happened! Exactly how long ago did you have this done? When I had my TAH in 2002, I was told recovery would be 6-8 weeks. I returned to work one day shy of 6 weeks. DON'T PUSH RETURNING TO WORK early! I doubted my surgeon when he said I'd tire easily; found out he was right when within 5 days of getting home I tried mopping my kitchen floor (I'm one who likes to keep busy even when recuperating!) and was amazed at how exhausted I became! My hospital stay was due to be 3-5 days but when nurses/CNAs weren't washing their hands upon entering OR leaving the room, my husband said "I'm doing most of your care and can do it just as well at home" and was ok'd to be discharged on the 3rd day.

I'm in agreement with others---WRITE A LETTER TO THE ADMINISTRATOR/DIRECTOR OF NURSING and complain. There is absoutely NO reason for you to have been treated that way.

Hi Laurie,

I hope you can get over this quickly and without any more complications. I totally agree that you need to write letters - to the hospital administrator, to your doc and if possible, HIS boss. Go to the top whenever possible. Also, I know you won't want to hear this, but I'm sure you've already learned you HAVE to say "NO, in this case, I'm NOT a nurse, I'm a patient!" I was nearly in your shoes a few years ago. Luckily, my doc asked me if I had questions and I said "Yes, lots!" The people taking care (?) of you were obviously unprofessional, lazy, insensitive, and inconsiderate to have put you in that position. It sounds like they thought they could get an easier job with your care and they got away with it. Good luck on both your recovery and on your follow-up with this. Hopefully, no other nurse will have this awful experience after you finish with these people. (nursing all over x 24 yrs) Linda

Here's book(s) you might enjoy while you're recuperating:

"What your Doctor may Not Tell You About Premenopause"

by John Lee MD, Jesse Hanley, and Virginia Hopkins.

or "What your Doctor may Not Tell You About Menopause"

by John Lee MD.

It covers the history and politics of the medical and drug establishment, the biochemistry and dynamics of hormones and how they get out of balance, and how to prevent hormone imbalance and stay healthy.

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