RN as Inpatient, horrible and looong rant

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On top of everything I have been unable to log into the site. Here I am , minus a UTERUS!!!! Believe me when I tell you that in my situation it is better to be an ordinary citizen than to be "found out" as I was, as a nurse.

Deep breath, and sooo happy to tell this story:

2002, still suffering from heavy periods, cramping, bloating etc. Found a female OBG I could relate to who reassurred me that she would persue every avenue to help me thru this, did a D & C, tried the vivelle patch. I am 48 years old, always been underweight and anemic, no ther health problems. Finally had a bout of break thru bleeding that left me with a low crit, did an US, found numerous fibroids which had imbedded and were close to the cervical os, had hubby in exam room for options, she said a TVH scheduled for the 13th. No ther explaination given. Had a preop appt. on the 12th, she said "you need to come in early for an IV ATB for your CARDIAC INSUFFICIENCY" I said "WHAT?" she said "yes, it was diagnosed back in 2005 during an echo" I was nervous and upset but all systems were a go. Sorry guys, you have no idea what I have been thru....

So day of surgery, I shower, shave and had done the bowel prep the afternoon before (nasty stuff, don't advise) and packed up to go down the street. Whisked me off right under my husbands nose into the ROOM. The preop nurse says to me as I am following her, "OH! I see that you are a nurse, that makes my job easy! You already know what to expect!" She leads me into a room and says, there is your gown, your teds and sequentials, go ahead and get yourself ready and we will be back to take you to surgery!!!!

I am SCREAMING inside, I have no idea what to expect but do as I am told, no help even though I am shaking an nervous. Soon the nurse comes back, sits at the bedside and initiates a chat about WHERE I WORK, THE MONEY I MAKE and how I can refer her to a registry!!!! You guys would not believe the bruising on my forearms from when they tried to start the IV, at 1 point the nurse handed me the IV start kit and said, "Well, your a nurse, you can most likely find a vein". I wanted to VOMIT. I kept telling them that I was a patient just like anyone else but I felt like Alice falling thru the rabbit hole.

By now the anesthetist comes in, repeahs the same thing, shoots me up and the next thing I remember is being in a bed on the unit with 02, IV and FC. Hubby there looking totally flustared and hearing the staffer sya "Good thing your wife is a nurse, you don't need us anymore, see you in the morning!" . I was on an MS drip and so uncomfortable, with a gut like I was 9months pregnant, I could play taps on my abd. That and the floppy FC it was MISERABLE. The nursing staff IGNORED me, my MD has not spoken with me except to poke her head in the door the following day for all of 60 seconds, sent me home with no meds, no F/U UGH.

Sorry, long rant, hubby grabs a WC , get's me to the car, home, tucked up in bed, my H& H was low per AM RN, I am shivering, running a temp 99.8 per tempadot, not much spotting, aching now I'm off MS, took some advil, taking fluids, scanty urine OP but no pain, hell I've been on MS right?

Finally the pain begins. I call at 4:30 to my MD, some guy answers, I tell him I need to speak to my doc, HE TELLS ME TO TAKE SOME ADVIL AND CALL BACK TOMORROW!!!! I explain to him exactely what I had done!

You guys are great! Thanks for hanging in! About 15 minutes later a person from the med group calls to confirm a scrip for vicodin, which my darling picked up within a few hours. So as far as pain issues, I'm OK, however, I did not know that my ovaries would GO INTO SHOCK and I had hot flashes and crying jags at the drop of a hat. I called and spoke with a nurse at this med center who said it was OK to allpy the vivelle patch which has helped.

Today, I am finally coherent yet not resting, I check my bank account to find that this group took money out of my account in duplicate as a co payment for the procedure!!!! I called the business office and ONLY then did the business manager spend a few minutes on the phone explaining the post op instructions, namely that I am OFF WORK FOR 6 WEEKS!!!! I was breathless with exasperation and totally annoyed at this point when she said " YOUR A NURSE, I THOUGHT YOU WOULD HAVE KNOWN THAT"

So, here I am in testosterone heaven, my darling husband has no idea how to take care of me, my sister just took off my a much needed vacation in Kauii, Mother and Dad are in Palm Springs, I need some feed back from my beloved peers as to any experiences you have had as an inpatient. I am really concerned about the lack of follow up from this MD, I have gotten a follow up phone call from my dentist when I had a root canal, am I being over sensitive here? I am a bedside RN who does mostly med surg, my original posting is Haunted but I can't log in, your feed back would be appreciated. I may not be able to log back in to reply but I can read if you respond and I value your opinions, as always, Haunted aka Laurie Again, thanks so much for being there.

Thanks for sharing that, Haunted. I'm an RN student and after reading your post, I can promise that I will never make the mistake of assuming an RN doesn't need the same quality and quantity of care as any other patient.

It's wrong that you had to endure that experience, but since over 1000 people have read your post, you've probably helped to keep several thousands of health care professional from having to go thru the same thing.:rolleyes:

Specializes in Emergency.

wow Haunted, i'm so sorry you had to experience all of this.

I would probably be very scared. Yeah i'm a nurse, but I only know general "stuff" about gyn surgeries. I would need everything explained to me, maybe even twice just because having surgery isn't an everyday thing for me.

I'm glad you finally got to talk to someone at the office, and got your pain under control. That sucks about them double charging your co-pay.

Get some rest over the next 6 weeks.

Reading over your thoughtful and informed replies, I need to share an epiphany pertaining to this "region" of disease. I am 48 years old. I am saying "goodby" to a way of life I have held onto for almost 40 years.

I believe this fits into the"body image disturbance" issue of a nursing dx. Even though you cannot see a scar, the physical pain and emotional and hormonal trauma remain. If your patient is remarkably quiet during pre op or post op teaching, please do not assume that they are absorbing everything.

There should be a method for follow up and continuim of care. Hand outs are helpful, a print out of resources and publications is invaluable. I remember when Mr. Haunted had a vasectomy I was handed a 2 pound stack of booklets on what to expect, limitations to activity etc. Is surgery biased towards men, probably. Thanks to you all for being with me, if I could I would group hug you all. Nursing rocks and I am honored to be a part of this exclusive group, even though I am having a set back. Please continue with your wise and kind words of advice for my recuperation, I am in wonderful company with the wonderful men and women of nursing. FYI, I declined to name names or direct a nasty gram at this time to the DON of this medical center. On another note, just found out my Mom has been in ICU since the day of my surgery due to complications of diabetes, she was on a ventilator and my Dad was tap dancing all over the phone trying to not tell me. Well!

hi, there is no way the treatment you got is acceptable. it is true that nurses and even doctors expect you to "heal thyself" almost, sometimes if they get even a suspicion you have nursing training. they seem to forget the human asapect of nursing and the need for assistance and reassurance when you are on the receiving end with health problems. whether it is embarrassing and/uncomfortable tests or, as in your case surgery, anxiety levels the playing field to a place where we often do not think like a nurse. it is situations such as these that difines a truely compassionate nurse from a career nurse with tunnel vision.

i had a tah a few years back and having witnessed similar situations during my career i gave specific instructions to the staff in advance. on the first day postop i was in the shower when my surgeon came to see me and wrote a discharge order for the same day. when i was informed i instructed the nurse to contact him and say i would not leave until the following day and i needed instructions from him personally before i left as it was the first time i had had an hysterectomy. i did get my request as i felt it was his responsibility to me. don't be afraid to insist on getting your questions answered and demand to get the care the nurse is responsible for. it is your right as a human being and her responsibility as a nurse. let all of us who read such horror stories endeaver to be more understanding and compassionate especially to our peers. let us remember we are human beings first and nurses second. we have all the emotions, fears, and concerns the lay public has, and from time to time need to draw on the compassion of our peers.

Write a letter and as calmly as you can let them know about your awful experience in detail. Hopefully it will shake them up and get them to think about what they are doing. I can't believe they wanted you to find a vein and sent you home w/o a script for pain meds. The whole thing is a horror show. How could you "know what to expect"? How many LVHs could you have had before?

Specializes in Hospice, OR, Home Health, Orthopedics.

I also had a similar experience. Checked into my hospital, of which I am a current employee. They of course knew this, and my staus as an RN. I was checked in nicely into the outpatient area for a laparacopic gallbladder removal. After returning from surgery, no attention. NO ONE came to check on me. After 2 hours and no one, blood from puncture wounds, not even a cup of ice, I asked for a wheelchair and an escort to the door. My husband took me home and with no nursing care I was given better care than in the hospital.

It happens, sad to say, and I don't know how you can keep your status a secret if you are employed where your insurance forces you to go for medical care.

I'm so sorry that happened to you.

Specializes in med surg.

I work as a nurse's aid on a med surg floor, and when we get patients who are nurses, the nurse's cringe. They can be the most demanding of people! But when you think about it, they spend all of their time caring for really sick people--now that they are really sick, they want to be cared for! I try to give them everything they want. I saw a thread on here about things patient say that annoy you concerning labor and delivery and needy new mothers...they feel it's time that someone cared for them knowing they are going to have to go home and give and give and give!

It's hardest to have patients who aren't nurses but have nurses in the family. They make sure the patient gets pain meds every 4 hours to the minute and are turn q2h, but that's their job. That patient, knowing they have someone who has an 'insider's look' to the situation is expecting to make sure they have the best care possible. I don't want to say harder, but there is more compassion and understanding needed for families with nurses. I have learned being patient and asking for what they are looking for helps. I wish so much that this had happened for you.

I am so sorry to hear about your situation, Haunted, I think that is awful that they skipped out like that on you. Though I've been lucky enough to have not be admitted to a hospital, I come home wanting to be comforted by my SO because I'm just exhausted from taking care of others!

Those nurses were so wrong to have done what they did. Even if you were their co-worker or even their boss, you should not have been left hanging like that. It doesn't matter that you are a nurse or not. You could be an L&D nurse in for surgery--that does NOT by any means allow the nurses to stop providing you the best care they can give. It appauls me that they thought they had an 'easy' night because they didn't have to treat you like a patient. This is one of the best times when the nurses should be patient advocates.

Specializes in med surg.

I also wanted to add one more thing. (Sorry, I didn't realize my last one was so long!)

I will be done with nurse's training this may. I've been sick with abd pain and nausea for a while, and I took a hidascan (sp?) a couple days ago to rule out my gall bladder. The moment I walked in the room, the person performing the test asked if i was a nurse because i wore clogs...i said i was in training.

Now, I do look a lot younger then I am (I hear it EVERYDAY) like, i look 14 instead of 18, so maybe it was because i looked so young that he took such good care of me, even knowing I was in nurses training. When I started to feel nauseated, he held the trashcan for me and gently rubbed my arm until the pain and nausea caused from the test went away. I was scared and anxious and it helped so much that he didn't dismiss me as knowing what was going on, as I had feared (because i know that happens).

I am so sorry for your experience. I hope that you let someone know your experience so that no one ever has to go through that again! I hope that you don't have to encounter something like that again.

Specializes in PICU, Nurse Educator, Clinical Research.
I also had a similar experience. Checked into my hospital, of which I am a current employee. They of course knew this, and my staus as an RN. I was checked in nicely into the outpatient area for a laparacopic gallbladder removal. After returning from surgery, no attention. NO ONE came to check on me. After 2 hours and no one, blood from puncture wounds, not even a cup of ice, I asked for a wheelchair and an escort to the door. My husband took me home and with no nursing care I was given better care than in the hospital.

It happens, sad to say, and I don't know how you can keep your status a secret if you are employed where your insurance forces you to go for medical care.

I'm so sorry that happened to you.

WHOA!

Did you report the unit for negligence? This is unreal.

I had a PACU nurse, after my hip surgery, prop an unlocked WC next to my bed, tell me to get out of bed and into the chair, then left and closed the curtain- i was 1 hour post-op, and she left the bed in the high position. I yelled through the curtain that I needed her full name so I could report her for negligence.

Another nurse came in within 10 seconds.

Horrible experience that you had. :( So sorry.

This might make the other psych nurses in here mad but... from now on, if I have to have a procedure and the nurses find out I'm an RN, I'll be sure to tell them "I work in PSYCH!" ;)

(Never mind that I WAS a med surge nurse for three years)

:nono:

IMBC, "I work in PSYCH" but that doesn't make me stupid.

Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

I second others who say:

REPORT THIS, ALL OF IT

and take care of and nurture yourself.

Intersesting follow up, now this MD is leaving messages on my phone which sound a lot like CYA, "Gee you know I am always here for you, almost 24 hours a day, it was Judy's fault that she didn't follow up with you A FEW DAYS AFTER SUGERY (Judy is a secretary) and you can always call me, I am here to fix whatever is wrong ....beep" . Well, this MD billed my insurance for an ablation when all she did was a D&C ( I found out about 18 months ago because she was evaporated after the procedure, ) she discovered a cardiac insufficiancy during an echo back in 2005 and informed me the day before surgery. Finally, here NP did a procedure which required here to do a dilation of my cervix and remove endouterine tissue for biopsy, which was performed without anesthesia OUCH and I just discovered that they were unable to use the tissue obtained due to CONTAMINATION of the sample!!!!!!!

I think, hands down, I will look for another PMD for follow up but I am in a terrible position, I do need to be seen ASAP for my elevated temp, which was high when I was discharged, my cramping pain, extreme fatigue, my H was I am now told at 9, dropped from 13 the day of surgery so this blood loss is going SOMEWHERe, sheesh, where do I start? I never need a GYNO, how do I begin to find one and what, if anything do I tell him or her regarding my reasons for not continuing care with this current MD. You guys are wonderful and I can't wait to get back on my feet and figure all this out, today was a very bad day with pain and fatigue. Did I tell you that the secretary from this office told me yesterday that I would be off work for at least 6 weeks? I need to file for disability and they only charge 25 bucks to fill out the forms. Should I have been told this BEFORE THIS SURGERY????? OK deep breath.....

just a thought - does the doc office send out notice via mail re test results - i know ours started doing that a few yrs back and i have at times not gotten the results so i have had to call and they say oh well we sent that out blah blah - perhaps they sent you something and it gotlost in the mail. not that that is an excuse but is it a possibility?

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