Nurses: Who came from a dysfuntional family? - page 6

I am just curious as to how many of us came from a dysfunctional family. When I say dysfunctional, I mean children of alcholics, drug addicts, mental illness, child abuse whether it be physical or... Read More

  1. by   Multicollinearity
    Even so - people are more likely to respond if it's related to pain (dysfunction).
  2. by   Dreamer-RN
    I am not a nurse yet (soon to be nursing student).

    Yes, this holds true for me. My father abused alcohol and used drugs while I was a child. In addition to this, he emotionally and physically abused my mother. He still abuses alcohol to this day. Fortunately, my mother finally divorced him (11 years ago). I told her I would not put with someone treating me like that for 23 years! Yikes!

    I find this topic interesting.
  3. by   Pretty in Ink
    Quote from TazziRN
    Beer comes in cartons?
    You interested?
  4. by   blueheaven
    Most of us have come from dysfunctional families. Mine included!! Just because a parent sobered up or got clean doesn't mean the emotional baggage stopped. If they didn't get appropriate counseling or involved in a 12 step group, they passed the behaviors on to their kids. I am a adult child of an alcoholic and a very co-dependant mother. I worked very hard both with counseling and Al-anon (Nar-anon is good too) to deal with those behaviors.
  5. by   lpnhell
    true here
  6. by   EmerNurse
    Yep here too!

    I got into nursing late in life. I doubt I'd have been able to handle it before I'd wrestled down most of my demons.

    My 40+ yo brother is serious ETOH and psych all the way and has been since his teen years. Dad was buku ETOH until he died but it was mom that was abusive. HER family wasn't much of a peach either.

    Interestingly, my brother and I were adopted as infants. So our dysfunctional upbringing is NOT biological to us. That said, I still had to wrestle the demons and probably swung too far the other way in not putting my foot down with my kids as much as I should have. Still, they're all good kids (mine), and the grown-up adult ones aren't at my door every 15 minutes needing something.

    Like many others said, most folks do seem to grow up in a dysfunctional family. Then again, my DH is from a VERY functional family (to which, my poor mind wonders "umm. what's with these people?" LOL).
  7. by   RNOTODAY
    Dysfunctional family member here too
    dad was alcoholic, actually HIS whole family was/is, mom's family has "ways" that border on borderline......
  8. by   eligrace
    You could say that. My mother diagnosed with bipolar, however, today she would also be diagnosed with severe PTSD. She committed suicide when I was 6 (she was 22). I continued to live with my step-father (who is the one who found her). He has been a "happy drunk" for as long as I can remember. I could tell when he was drinking to forget. He would get this look in his eyes and shudder. Like he was seeing it all over again. When I was 7 1/2 he remarried to a woman with severe untreated depression. She tried but spent a lot of time in her room with "headaches". She is better now too.
    I guess I became a nurse because I know how damaging pain can be. Noone should go through that alone.
  9. by   aggieamy5
    Quote from tutored
    Does anyone know a family that ISN"T dysfunctional? I don't
    I guess I should consider my husband and myself to be very lucky. My husband is a new RN and comes from a very loving, nurturing family. Although I am not a nurse, I too come from a fabulous family. I see my parents and sister about 2 to 3 times per week and love spending time with them. I could not have asked for a better family even if I was able to hand pick them myself!!

    What's interesting is that in my area of expertise, many come from extremely dysfunctional families as well. My graduate training is in Clinical Psychology, and I have noticed that a large amount of the students came from extremely difficult circumstances and/or did not get along with their families. I've observed the same to also be true of numerous colleagues.
  10. by   SaraO'Hara
    Divorced parents; mother who swung between lax parenting and pulling me down the hall by my hair; stepfather abused ETOH and would turn bookshelves, chairs, etc, over if the room wasn't clean; raised on welfare, in public housing, etc. Dealt with clinical depression myself.

    Now I live away from my parents, have own car, etc, good relationship, and started LPN school yesterday.
  11. by   jackson145
    My father was an alcoholic until five years before he died. Also a long history of depression in my family (including me).
  12. by   SuesquatchRN
    There's a family somewhere that isn't dysfunctional?
  13. by   Cattitude
    I'm jumping in here late but still dysfunctional!!
    Mom is an addict and with mental illness.
    Father deceased but I belive had some depression.
    I'm in recovery for addiction!
    Yep, very dysfunctional but individually strong and feeling great.