My inability to brown nose is holding me back in my nursing career - page 4

Basically, I'm my own worst enemy. I'm too proud to brown nose, and brown nosing is vital in my work place to get ahead. I'm frustrated with myself. I'm able to be a phoney with the patients and... Read More

  1. by   CHATSDALE
    sometimes you can get what you want without compromising principles
    if this job, dm educator, is what you want think about how would be the best way to get it
    perhaps you could make a formal application in a written letter, i find that i think first much more when i am writing than when i am talking
    outline your experience, your training, verbal skills, specialized knowledge
    one thing once you have the job you will probably have much less contact with the ptb you can go ahead and do yur job w/o feedbacl
  2. by   VivaLasViejas
    I used to take a fierce pride in being a nonconformist, until I realized that it was getting in the way of things I wanted from my career. But compromising on principles doesn't cut it either, as I later learned to my sorrow (and a nasty case of insomnia on top of it). Nowadays, I find myself walking a tightrope most of the time at work; sometimes I have to give up something to gain something else, scratch some other department's back in order to get what I want for my own, and so on. While there are certain principles I would NEVER compromise, others are a little more fluid---you can fudge those a bit. And I often find that my management position is more like politics than nursing: there's the deal-making, the wrangling, the B.S., the negotiations, the diplomacy, and then sometimes it's all-out war!

    But as unhappy as all this makes me at times, I have to say there is an art to it that I'm finally beginning to learn, and even appreciate as I become just a little more adept at it. I can't say I've never compromised on something I felt was important, but I can at least live with myself, and I don't kiss ANYONE'S butt. I have one staff member whose nose needs to be surgically removed from my back cheeks, and I hate it---she has zero credibility with me, and even less respect because she talks a great game, but doesn't play it. Everybody in the facility, including the residents, can see this a mile away........but this employee is totally clueless. (I keep her on only because I feel sort of sorry for her, and because she hasn't screwed up quite badly enough to be fired............yet.)

    So, in essence, there are ways to move up the career ladder without selling out, but it's not for the faint of heart, and it's VERY easy to overbalance and fall off! One must proceed with caution and grow a fondness for complex interpersonal skills and, above all, learn how to be tactful when you'd gleefully strangle the next person who whines that you're blowing the budget with your staff training program................grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr~~
  3. by   FireStarterRN
    Thanks for all the great imput. I worked today and I'm still toying with my options. I'm feeling more positive. Thanks everyone!
  4. by   caliotter3

    Your posts have great insight. I am thankful that I will never rise to the ranks of middle or high management so that I have to acquire the finesse that you are acquiring on the job. Thanks so much for your thought provoking and informative input.
    Last edit by caliotter3 on Sep 25, '07