Lovely allnurses, please help me!!! (Long)

  1. Hello Everyone,
    First off, I you all! I don't know what I would do without this thread With that being said, I could really use advise/opinions/suggestions/WWYD, etc.

    I am married with a 21 month old daughter. My husband and I live in a different state than both sets of our families, so we do not have any help with childcare. Currently my husband works for a University making $14/hour (with his degree!) and I am in school. I was pre-nursing, but I just want to finish with my Bachelor's and I do not want to do the University program for Nursing because I cannot do the schedule, and I have heard poor things about it. Anyways...I do online, hybrid classes, and have minimal care for our daughter. I am studying a combination of Health Education and Psychology, but have completed all Nursing pre-requisites aside from Biomedical Ethics.

    I am very interested in women's health, particularly preconception, pregnancy, and childbirth..newborn care also. I originally wanted to be an RE or OBGYN, but Med School is just not an option. Eventually I want to pursue CNM or WHNP. Currently I am working on my Doula certification through Childbirth International. Through some inquiries and being blessed with meeting folks, I spoke to a manager of one of our local Doula hospital programs. She *seemed* to like me on the phone. I called just for general info on hospital doulas vs. private doulas and she told me they are hiring right now, that the current posting does require experience (which I do not have) but that they will soon have an opening for a Labor Support Specialist level 1 which does NOT require experience. She told me she is going to pass my name on to the hiring manager, told me to touch base with her in a few weeks and let her know if I don't see a posting for an opening soon. She explained they are establishing Labor Support Specialists levels 2 & 3, and than if I grow with the program I could earn my IBCLC through them. I don't know if she was just being nice, but she said this last week and so far no postings for a level 1 yet...but it can take time.

    NOW (sorry this is SO long!) my SIL is in nursing school in Colorado (Regis University) and I love hearing about her clinicals, what she is doing, etc. And yes, I have to admit I am a little jealous She does not think she will have any problem getting a job. She plans to find a CNA job and is confident she will be hired soon after graduating. She also wants to pursue L&D. However, after my research I have learned that it is very hard to find a job.

    I can go to the community nursing program here probably next year, and it is a very good program. But these are my concerns:

    1.) My daughter. Nursing school is vigorous, and a lot of time/effort/work. I want to enjoy her while she is young, because I will never get these years back. My SIL (same one in school) lives with her parents, my MIL takes care of her daughter, so she can afford school...but she also gets little time with her 3 year old and my neice does call my MIL "mom" sometimes. I feel that if I wait just a few years, perhaps the economy/market will improve and I can go to school when my daughter is in school

    2.) The economy. I would hate to go through all the stress and work, only to be unable to find a job and watch my skills go downhill. Of course I could land a job, but the reality is that it is not guaranteed and even if I do get a job, it will probably be in an area that I don't love.

    3.) If I am right that I do have a chance of working for this hospital as a Doula (maybe the lady on the phone was just being nice, I don't know) than I could work part-time (it is a PRN job, I understand the Doulas take shifts of being "on call") and I would be doing something I love. I can work my way up to IBCLC, the hospital may pay (at least partly) for nursing school when I do decide to go, and I would have the Doula experience and get to know several of the nurses, docs, etc.

    Of course, I may not get the Doula job and so I can finish my BA in HealthEd, maybe get a job as a CNA or tech (I am CNA already but am hoping to get into pregnancy/labor stuff) and than just decide from there. I am 23, 24 in April, so I have time..

    Whew, this is long...but what would you suggest? Would you just go for the nursing school full steam ahead? Would you go the Doula route? Am I delusional in thinking this manager liked me and may help me get my foot in the door? And if I do work, our neighbor will watch our daughter. I just feel working part time would allow me much more time with her than full time nursing school. I don't want my fear of unemployment to hold me back, but I want to be realistic. And I want to do something I love. Doula work would allow that, but just not with a very good salary. (I honestly don't even know how they are paid)

    If you made it through my novel, thanks so much. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!!!
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  3. by   somedaypeds
    I read your novel and I may not be the best person to respond, but so nobody else has yet, here is my 2 cents:

    1. I thought a doula had to have a master's degree?
    2. If this actually is an opportunity for you - and it is something you really want, why would you pass it up? It is like it is handed to you on a silver platter.
  4. by   ukstudent
    OP, take this time with your child, it won't come back. Take the part time job if you can, it will give you an "in" when the economy hopefully changes and your daughter is more grown. You can always go back to school later.

    To somedaypeds, I think you are confusing a doula with a midwife. A midwife is a masters prepared nurse, doulas are not required to have a master degree in anything and do not have to be nurses either.
  5. by   carolmaccas66
    Hang on. I needed to read ur post twice.
    You say you can't go to nursing school as u don't have anyone to care for ur daughter. Can't the neighbour help out with that?
    I don't know what a doula is or any of the abbreviations so can't help u with that sorry.
    The economy is only something people can tell you about if they have a crystal ball. Put it this way, even if u didn't get a job as a RN after fin N/S, you will still have ur degree & can do something else.
    I would say: welcome to the real world of study and all the problems surrounding it. What about looking at local colleges for child care students to care for ur daughter, who need to get experience? Sometimes they don't charge anything, or charge very little (ie: people going thru nanny school).
    If you really want to be a RN you will have to find a way to do it. I would suggest:
    - going to N/S part-time then you can care for ur daughter, OR
    - look for an external course where u can study from home (but would need to do shiftwork for clinicals), then u can care more for ur daugher.
    Sorry can't think of anything else at the mo. Hope this helps a wee bit.
  6. by   cacentralvalley
    I'm not sure where you live but I would check all the programs you can. In California we have online/hybrid, part time, full time, and accelerated programs.

    I'm a single mother and when I decided to go back to school (for nursing) I told my daughter it would be difficult but that school is only temporary (she's obviously older than your daughter). I kept reminding her that I am trying to secure our future and school is temporary.

    Anyway, I wish you luck. Please explore all your options and give long, careful consideration to your decision.
  7. by   Devie06
    I am in NM, very Doula/midwife/natural birth friendly. Doulas are labor support specialists and help with breastfeeding. Like a labor coach Yes my neighbor can watch my daughter for a low fee, but the BSN program is long days + clinicals, there is a community college program but also fulltime. There are no part time or online/hybrid programs here. I would rather be away from my daughter a few days a week instead of 40 hours plus study/homework time. I hope this Doula position opens soon! I have not seen an opening posted yet. But I also hope I am not being foolish postponing school.
  8. by   Devie06
    IBCLC is International Board Certified Lactation Consultant.
  9. by   CapeCodMermaid
    You're only 24. Your child will only be a baby for a short while. If you can afford to stay home with her, I'd vote for that.
  10. by   brandy1017
    If you become a nurse you are going to end up missing out on alot of your child's life. Weekends and holidays for starters, being mandated and held hostage to the job when they are "short" staffed because they refuse to spend the money to have adequate staffing.

    I would enjoy the time with your daughter while you can, as you said, you can't get those years back. When she is older if you still want to go to nursing school and don't mind losing out on weekends and holidays, that might be a better plan for you.
  11. by   lapoRtaN
    If you want to be a nurse go for. Anytime you want to start there will be 100 reasons not to. I started school when my son was 8 weeks and my daughter was 9. I made it and the kids are fine. Let go of the excuses and find a way if nursing is what you truly want. Doula is a great option too but it is a very specific job. If down the line you decide you want to branch out it maybe a little harder. Good Luck. You can do it!!
  12. by   leslie :-D
    if you can find an online nsg program part-time, i'd research that route.
    i wouldn't recommend full time now, at this point in your dtr's life.
    you only get one shot at that.

    best of luck.

  13. by   Isitpossible
    As an older adult with two children ages 17 and 11, I wish that I had gone to nursing school while they were YOUNGER...they need me more NOW than when they were just four and thats something to consider...also can you find a part time program anywhere in your vicinity?
  14. by   GHGoonette
    I agree with those who recommend making the most of your daughter's childhood; at this point, you have absolutely NO idea how quickly it flies past, but take it from those of us with grown-up children - if you blink, you miss it!

    Go full steam ahead for the doula position, and if you don't get it, and need the extra money, look for something else part time. You don't want someone else having all the pleasure of watching your daughter grow up, do you?