Nurses General Nursing
Published Dec 16, 2005
Just wondering how breakfast with your co-worker went...thinking of you both.
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Wen83
60 Posts
Bipley, I thought you handled the situation very well since it is a sensitive topic to approach someone with :yelclap: I'm glad things didn't end on a sour note... whew no brawl, no waffles :chuckle
Bipley
845 Posts
I think you did the best you could have done, considering the sensitive nature of the topic. It is natural for her to initially be in denial and angry. I think you opened a door for her. She now has someone to confide in and to help her with her problem. Brava, Bipley!
Might even be better if I hadn't referred to it as a "movement" (as in a BM) vs. her "move"!!!!!
Yes, I agree. It is natural for her to deny anything. That is why I handled it as I would have had she been my patient. I just held her hand and didn't argue.
I still feel bad about the entire conversation. Wish it was never necessary. She was totally humiliated. Sincerely, I'm not sure of any other approach to prevent her feelings, but it was true and I AM willing to help.
:roll :roll :roll OMG yer BOTH killing me!!!!!!! On that note, I really am going to bed this time LMAO.
OMG yer BOTH killing me!!!!!!! On that note, I really am going to bed this time LMAO.
Liar.
Nope, no brawl. But a "Denny's Grand Slam" was to be expected!
Crap, I'm LOL tooooooo much about this.
Whoever wrote that this is a nurses way to deal with stress, I do believe I love you!
Of course, you ARE male, right? RIGHT?????
Lisa CCU RN, RN
1,531 Posts
You know, I stayed up till 1:00 am waiting for the answer and Bipley gets on right after I gave up. I'm glad it turned out ok.
monkcat
12 Posts
I have been avidly awaiting the results. So glad everything turned out okay. Bipley, that took courage, tact (you must possess more than you give yourself credit for) and compassion. I'm sure the impact you will have on her life in being such a friend, will be beyond expression in words.
Congrats on the happy ending/beginning.
Tweety, BSN, RN
34,358 Posts
Seriously Bipley, this women is suffering emotionally and you reached out beyond the pettiness and are helping. I'm sure above anything else she needs a friend that isn't petty, judgemental, or thinking she's a nasty girl.
That says a lot about you.
tencat
1,350 Posts
Good job, Bipley! I don't think I would have the guts to do what you did. I'm glad you did have the guts!
TweetiePieRN
582 Posts
WOW! Thanks for letting us know what finally happened there!!
jnette, ASN, EMT-I
4,388 Posts
I must agree wholeheartedly. I'm certain that even for HER, it is a weight off her shoulders as well. Just knowing that she now has SOMEONE she can trust, confide in, and that this person is on her side. What a comforting feeling that must be to her.
The initial anger, hurt, and denial was certainly to be expected, and Bipley, you did the right thing in being still and allowing her to work through her initial reaction before you progressed. Good for you.
Again, I compliment you for your your concern for this shunned coworker, that you took the time to CARE, and offered your friendship and assistance.
This will stay with this person forever.. she will be eternally grateful, I'm sure.
Thank you for truly being a caring and compassionate human being, unafraid to step into the fray.. reachig out to another in all honesty and concern.
You are an example to be followed and a friend I would be proud to have. :kiss
SmilingBluEyes
20,964 Posts
I agree with those saying you did the right thing, Bipley. Letting a person know this, in private and compassionately is NOT easy but is the kindest thing to do.
Simba&NalasMom, LPN
631 Posts
LMAO no, I really did go to bed believe it or not! Now I have to catch up on this crazy thread.