Quote from chevswife
Reason for Leaving:
Basically I was forced out because I was not willing to lower my standards in the care of the elderly. I spoke up to my Don several times, I was bullied with no results. I was loved by the girls I taught (students learning) & hated by the ones who didnt like having to work as my partner because I did thing correctly. Like using machines to lift instead of throwing them over my shoulder. Or actually taking the time to wash and treat people correctly instead of just a quick slap over the groin & face. What did my Don say when I asked why she allowed her residents to be treated so poorly in such an exspensive establishment, she said " maybe your in the wrong industry & shouldnt be a nurse, thier are no points for good nursing".
As a result of that meeting & due to a heavy study load to become an RN I asked for two months off to complete my course. I handed in my licence two months later & after 3 years of working for them over 40 hours a week. I was told they had nothing available for them. (I got them 6 girls trained for free by the govt & that was the thanks I got).
I thought that was the end of it.. Until I went job hunting.
I had great marks and good reports yet failed to be accepted for the next 3 job interviews. Eventually I was told. you may want to change your reference as your previous DON .. has nothing nice to say about you.
WHERE AM I NOW.... Un employed and heartbroken.
Anyone got any clues as to how I get around this one??
This is exactly why I started this thread.
I've seen too many good nurses blackballed on a whim. It stinks because one person should simply not have that much power, and it stinks because another person gives it to them by believing that person and acting on that belief.
Honey, think about it. Do you want to work for people who would believe that stuff without investigating it themselves? Do you want to work for people who would not know that the DON simply doesn't like you and has given you a bad reference due to a personality conflict, not bad job performance?
Trust me: No, you don't.
Thank God for the Internet and for this nursing board where we can share experiences and ideas. I've never felt so alone sometimes as when I began nursing; never felt so relieved to find that I'm not alone, that these situations are quite commonplace.
My suggestion: don't use that job for a reference at all.
And why should you? You were not an RN while you worked there; you were in school. You would like a job now as a new grad RN, and you are looking to broaden your clinical base.
There are many positives that you bring as a new RN--you can say that you're very detail-oriented clinically, you feel responsible for your patients and to your professional ethic, you have a strong desire to be that excellent RN, but you need training. You need experience.
You can say that you are willing to learn new skills, you are able to come to work each day and be on time, professional, well-groomed, courteous and respectful to your co-workers, your bosses, your patients and their families.
I think you could emphasize those strong points, and also be willing to bend on your shift preferences. Just get your foot in the door to prove what you can do.
The trick to being successful is to turn a negative on its ear and keep moving forward. It might sound like a cliche, but I personally think that leaving that LTC job might be a real blessing in disguise for you.
I hope I've given you some ideas about how to handle what you say in the next job interview. Let us know what happens.