Well I am doing it--I am returning to my old unit after seven years of being away from most bedside nursing. The staff has changed quite a bit--but some of the old gang is still there.
Wherein lies my dilemma. Several of these nurses are chronic complainers (bit**ers is more appropriate). There were times when I became sucked into the depths of their unhappiness with everything. I was able to find ways out of the cycle of complaining. I have been in several different areas since I left this unit, and the conditions on this floor are better than most other units I worked in. I never realized how horrible this one nurse c/o until I saw her after 5 years and she had the same gripes she had when I worked with her.
I have found life is too short to spend complaining all the time. What have others found that works to keep from being sucked into the 'grumpy- never satisfied whiners club'??(GNSWC)
It takes more time to complain about what needs to be done than just doing it...........
Mar 19, '02
You know something, I worked with a lot of complainers in my time, but I never gave them an opportunity to become chronic complainers around me. I always made it a point to be strictly professional in a professionally friendly manner the entire time I was on duty. I ate my lunch in the cafeteria, or outside the hospital -- often alone by choice as I used this time as my "down time/quite time".
I rarely spent time in the nurses lounge where many of the chronic complainers hung out. If I had a minute or two to sit down, I would spend those few blessed minutes in the bathroom on the commode. :chuckle From the time I clocked in, to the time I clocked out, I was far too into my patients and their family members, checking orders, passing meds, doing wound care, pre/post op teaching, ambulating patients, offering my nursing services to those who were extremely busy in between caring for my own patients, keeping my charting up to date so I could go home "on time" every day.... WHEN does someone have time to even listen to the chronic complainers go yakkity-yak?
I didn't believe in getting too friendly with the people I worked with because on the days I had to be Charge, I didn't have time to play favorites. Business was business that way!
I kept my personal business to myself, and when I got on the elevator to go home after work, my mind automatically clicked into "home, here I come" mode...leaving all the work issues behind me until I stepped off the elevator on the unit the next time I was on duty.
Easy on/easy off...that was my motto!
Last edit by live4today on Mar 19, '02