Quote from missmollie
When speaking to co-workers, try to use polite phrases such as "please" and "Thank you", and don't make demands.
I get the feeling you'd hate working with me
After many years of working in law enforcement where you often
get to tell grown-ups how they can (or more often how they can't
) behave and expect to be obeyed, my communication style is very direct and eerrr.. utilitarian. Most of the time it's not tempered/softened by polite niceties. In my defense, I don't bristle when someone asks me to do something in an equally direct manner. And I always
say thank you after
a person did what I asked them to do
Since I started my nursing career I've been told by female coworkers on more than one occasion that I have a very "masculine" style of communication (whatever that
), which is something I never heard in my previous career (well, at least not from coworkers
). Probably because we all
communicated that way and no one thought it was odd.
Quote from missmollie
TLDR: Another nurse really made me fume when she stated I had to do something. I never have to do anything unless I make the decision to do it. That is the basis of nursing. We don't do something because the doctor said do it, we make educated decisions. Request, don't demand.
I guess this really shows how we all interpret things differently. For me personally, if another nurse had called and said "You have to come down here and pick up this item"
, I wouldn't really view that as a demand, but rather a neutral statement that something needs to happen. I wouldn't feel like s/he was bossing me around and it wouldn't be important to me that they said please. Depending on my work situation at the time I'd either reply that I'd do it, or if I didn't have the time or disagreed with the request, I'd either explain that now doesn't work for me or why I think it's the wrong move and instead try to find an alternative solution to the problem that works for both of us.
I guess my attitude is that I'm at work to get the job done (whatever it entails) and so are my coworkers. If someone asks me to do something that has to do with work I don't feel that I need a "please", because I don't view it as doing someone a favor. I'm just doing my job. The same goes if I'm asking someone to do something. It's not a personal favor to me, it's just something that needs to be done (ultimately for the benefit of a patient/patients). And as I said, if I have issues with the request itself, I will voice my objection, but I really couldn't care less if I'm asked in a "sweet" way or not.