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Frustrated!!!!!!! Am I alone on this?

I have wanted to be a nurse my whole life. I love people and want to care for them. I feel like it's something I'm meant to be! I am a CNA and a Pre-Nursing student, and I work hard. I feel like it's going to be a long road before I can reach my goal of being a RN. I just get frustrated when I meet people who get into nursing only for the money!! I know someone who just randomly decided to do nursing for the money aspect, and got into a Nursing program right away! I hate thinking about how I want to be a nurse with all my heart, and people who just want the good salary can get into programs, and become a nurse when I can't. :( I don't know if this is ridiculous for me to be frustrated over, but I needed to vent!! Am I alone??

What do you mean when you say that "you cant"? If you work hard enough at it, I am sure you will get in somewhere. And even if those people are only in it for the money right now, they've obviously worked hard enough to get in. And who knows, they might actually discover that they love nursing once the program starts. I remember signing up for a medical assisting program only because I wanted a better job. I found out that I loved taking care of patients and now I cant wait to start my program in the fall. So I say, let it go and just focus on reaching your own goal.

Don't be so quick to judge people. Admission saw something of merrit to accept this person into nursing school. Don't let the success of others get you so flustered, you won't get anywhere, and keep applying, obviously you've been doing a lot to make yourself stand out. Good luck.

I understand that it's frustrating, and I agree that getting into something, anything, for the wrong reasons will ultimately end in failure. Whether it's appropriate or not, the people that got into nursing school made it there based on their own merits. As a whole, I have found students to all be intelligent, bright, mostly extroverted, and ambitious. If they have these qualities, it's probably why admissions chose them to enter the program. Now, if the only, singular reason they want to get into nursing is money, well they most likely won't last. There's plenty of traits a student nurse, and RN need that can't be taught in a school. I firmly believe you either have it or you don't. Everything happens for a reason.

Our school accepts strictly by a point system when accepting people. They look at nothing else. You can easily have the points and not the passion. I don't think she's judging. At least it doesn't seem that way to me. she just seems frustrated. Which is understandable.

Don't be so quick to judge people. Admission saw something of merrit to accept this person into nursing school.

Don't get frustrated. Everything works out in its own time. You are where you are meant tone right now. I know someone who went to NS for the money and dropped out the last semester because it was not what they thought. People who do it just for money don't last long! Stay strong and motivated! You will get there! : )

QuarterLife88, MSN, RN, NP

Specializes in Neuroscience.

No it doesn't bother me if people go into nursing for more money from a previous job or first career. People have to eat and put a roof over their head. Dare I say these people might last longer than those who were originally people loving with high expectations. They can only go up from here.

If you work hard, I'm sure you'll get in as well. Life is not a competition.

People have all sorts of reasons for doing things and we will never truly know a persons intentions. Whether it be for selfish reasons, or good reasons, you just gotta accept it and move on. Plus you never know, that person that wants to be a nurse for the money might just turn out to be a damn good nurse.

veggie530

Specializes in CCRN, ED, Unit Manager.

One of the first things you'll learn in actual nursing school is being tolerant of other people and leaving your judgmental side at home. So what if they got into nursing for the money? The money is good and they may go on to be a great nurse or nurse manager or who knows what.

I got into nursing (from criminal justice) because of economic motivations largely, and then found out how much I really enjoy nursing. Don't bring down others to lift up yourself!!

malamud69, ADN, BSN, EMT-B

Specializes in Emergency.

What do you truly want to do? Do you know? You will always be surrounded by idiots. It is the nature of human existence...like somebody once said..."Democracy is great but people are just too stupid to understand it". Go with your gut...good luck!

Seas

Specializes in Telemetry, OB, NICU.

I don't care about the reason why people choose nursing.

The bottom line is, if they are accepted, they have worked hard for it and they have the smarts to be accepted, period. The passion doesn't help by itself. I am not talking for you as I don't know you, but the world is full of people who think they could be the best nurses, because they want it more than anybody. However, they don't even have the required intelligence to get in the programs and they just blame the others who get in.

How are you doing with your grades?

Honestly, and I don't mean this negatively.. I don't care what anyones reasons are for going to nursing school or being a nurse. People have children to feed, bills to pay- and since they can't come live at my house, I can't judge. I also don't agree that nursing requires or should require "passion". My father has been a fireman for 25 years. Does he like running into burning buildings? No. He did it to provide for his family. Meanwhile he has medals and awards and you'd never know how he felt unless you asked. Fake it to you make it. It's possible to do your job well without it being a passion. Being able to pursue your passion is a luxury some people just don't have. Some people just need to pay their bills.

I hope things work out for you.

KelRN215, BSN, RN

Specializes in Pedi.

I have wanted to be a nurse my whole life. I love people and want to care for them. I feel like it's something I'm meant to be! I am a CNA and a Pre-Nursing student, and I work hard. I feel like it's going to be a long road before I can reach my goal of being a RN. I just get frustrated when I meet people who get into nursing only for the money!! I know someone who just randomly decided to do nursing for the money aspect, and got into a Nursing program right away! I hate thinking about how I want to be a nurse with all my heart, and people who just want the good salary can get into programs, and become a nurse when I can't. :( I don't know if this is ridiculous for me to be frustrated over, but I needed to vent!! Am I alone??

I'm having a hard time believing that someone just randomly decided to be a nurse one day for the money and immediately got accepted into a nursing program. This person would have had to take the same steps any applicant has to- fulfilling the pre-reqs and entrance exams at the very least. No offense, but there is some reason why this person was accepted to the program before you. And not to be mean, but "wanting it with all your heart" is not a determining factor for acceptance into nursing programs or for nursing jobs in the future. You can want it more, but someone else may still be the more qualified candidate.

And if these people really are going into nursing for the money, they'll be in for a rude awakening as in this economy with the current influx of nurses, the average new grad's salary is $0 as most of them have considerable difficulty landing a job after graduation.

DOn't worry about someone else..it will burn you out. Concentrate on yourself. If you want it bad, you will finish too with hard work. Passion alone will not be enough for nursing school. You probably need to reassess why you feel it will take you a while to finish?

Pay no mind to others,just do your thing work on your grades. Have you considered applying to RT programs if you can't get into nursing programs? We work with a lot of RTs,no it is NOT the same thing but you do get a LOT of experience. The reason I mention this is bc I know an RT who wanted to be an RN but got accepted in RT program first now he is in one of those nursing track programs because many of the credits are the same.

Don't be so naive.

Most people choose their jobs for practical reasons. Where I live, nursing offers job security and decent pay. You don't deserve to be a nurse more than the guy who just got laid off from the factory just because you have more "passion". I if I were an employer, I wouldn't care less if an applicant had "wanted to be a nurse all their life". All that mattters is that a nurse is competent at what he does.

JenniferS_CNA, I understand where you are coming from.

You just cannot compare yourself to others. I know how hard this can be, but you just can't beat yourself up.

It is a long road (I am on it now...) but one way or the other you WILL get there. And when you do get there, think how happy your patients will be to have a nurse who truly cares!

Don't give up! :hug:

Stcroix, ASN, RN

Specializes in cardiac-telemetry, hospice, ICU.

No reflection on you, but I have known nursing students that felt they were destined to be nurses who ended up hating the reality once they got into it. One's motivation contributes to their future success or failure, but no one can tell that until the time comes. Study hard, get in and do your best, that's all that matters.

Stephalump

Specializes in Forensic Psych.

I do understand where you're coming from, and I'm sure it can be frustrating feeling like people who don't want it as badly are ahead of you in line.

But the idealistic world of dreams isn't reality. Nether schools, nor hospitals, nor patients care if a nurse has dreamt of the job her entire life. Schools care about performance. Employers care about performance. And patients care about performance. If you know someone in it just for the money, they will STILL have to perform well in pre-reqs, nursing courses, and clinical skills or they won't be any competition anyway. If they do well at all of the above and enjoy the work enough to stick around, they deserve it. If you work just as hard, you'll get there, hopefully love it, and deserve it as well.

Keep your chin up! Your passion is awesome, but it's yours. Don't compare yourself to others or you'll just frustrate yourself.

I sincerely wish you luck. If your admission essay/statement of purpose sounds anything like your post, though, you need to rethink your pitch. Passion is important but being clear about why you will be more successful than other applicants --grades, experience in and out of work, personality, communication, critical thinking, drive, focus etc makes a more compelling essay. Just because you've always wanted something doesn't mean you deserve it more than others. I understand your frustration and wish you the best-- but consider pitching your story a little differently.

OnlybyHisgraceRN, ASN, RN

Specializes in LTC and School Health.

I used to get frustrated too, but people that is in it for the money will not last long... trust me.

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