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fellas what yall think i should do

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Ok, I'm in a PN program I'm one of two males out of a class of 33.....the women in my class have takin intrest in me good intrest we are only two months into the program. And I'm not the type of person to try to **** where I eat, but some have been really throwing it at me and truthfully I'm buckling under the peer pressure. is this career really like this where women are throwing themselves at you left and right? What y'all think should I go ahead and mess around with one of em, or just be cool and keep it friendly. its a really good feeling to be this sought after and all this attention thrown at me tho any one have any similar exp.

agldragonRN

Specializes in Wound Care, LTC, Sub-Acute, Vents. Has 5 years experience.

*i'm mobile so excuse any typos*

ok, i'm in a pn program i'm one of two males out of a class of 33.....the women in my class have takin intrest in me good intrest we are only two months into the program. and i'm not the type of person to try to **** where i eat, but some have been really throwing it at me and truthfully i'm buckling under the peer pressure. is this career really like this where women are throwing themselves at you left and right? what y'all think should i go ahead and mess around with one of em, or just be cool and keep it friendly. its a really good feeling to be this sought after and all this attention thrown at me tho any one have any similar exp.

i would discourage it because nursing school itself is full of drama already because of all the women there. i messed around once with one of the girls in the class but i stopped it because the "mess" was interfering with my studying (this was during lpn school as well). this girl ended up failing two classes and was kicked out of the program. that's another story though.

but hey you can try and see where it takes you but remember your main goal why you enrolled in the pn program. you have to do everything to achieve this goal because lpn school is very tough. lpn school was harder for me than my rn program. and you will lose several/a lot of the students in the first/2nd semesters so be sure you are one of the ones that make it.

good luck dude! this profession is awesome.

angel, rn

Thanks, for the advice I have a lot of motivation to make it through....but I will keep what you said in mind women come women go, bt my career will last a lifetime right.....besides when I graduate ill have just turned 21 I knw for a fact there will be a schmorgeshboard (sp) of women then anyway.....thnx for the advice again tho

nurse2033, MSN, RN

Specializes in ER, ICU.

There is always the possiblity of anything like that ending in disaster (I mean for you, not just the relationship). What, if to spite you, someone accuses you of sexual harassment? True or not it could end your career. Just keep it professional, but I know we guys don't have a lot of practice in saying "no". It is a lot easier in the professional world as there is a greater range of woman from all ages and relationship status (i.e. fewer available hotties). Don't jeopardize your future, there is enough to deal with in school without throwing that into the mix. Good luck.

Bob_N_VA

Specializes in Cardiac, Rehab. Has 2 years experience.

I'm the only guy in my program and I can tell you, nobody is throwing themselves at me. So if they all seem to be clamoring for you, enjoy it while it lasts. This subject has been brought up before and the general consensus is as you stated it, there is just too much chance for drama gone bad.

I just wonder though, if they are that obvious about it, are they playing with you a bit, trying to have some fun at your expense?

stressednurse70

Specializes in Orthopaedics, Med/Surg Acute Care.

OK, some advice from a nurse of 13 years and 40 years old - yes, old enough to be your mother, so take it like motherly advice. Don't. Period.

My advice isn't to put a kink in your love life, but only to help you. Like others have said there is enough drama in school plus you really need to be spending that time studying to make yourself a good nurse. Also when you get a job my advice is to not date someone you work with. It will be tempting, but when things go sour they can really make your life miserable. You need your fellow students and co-workers to have your back, not cause problems. Don't forget also when things go sour (and they always do at some time) you aren't going to be dealing with just her, but all of her friends too. There are plenty of other women out there in the world for you to date (or just scratch an itch as they say) but keep it professional where and when you need to and you won't regret it.

Also another thought, you could be wrongly accused of something with a female patient someday and your fellow students or co-workers could help make or break the situation with the police. Something to think about.

That Guy, BSN, RN, EMT-B

Specializes in Emergency/Cath Lab. Has 6 years experience.

Pssh, dont listen to them.

Bend it and send it man

Eghoosier2

Specializes in critical care. Has 15 years experience.

Keep it friendly and just focus on your studies. Once you graduate and pass your boards, you will have all kinds of time and options to mess around. And can you really afford the UNNECESSARY potential for drama while trying to make it through a very difficult course of study??? If you can, go for it....but if you can't, LEAVE IT ALONE!!!

During nursing school? I wouldn't worry too much about it. There are two things, conflict of interest , and drama. The former is not relevant unless we are talking about your instructors, and the latter is nearly inevitable, and life goes on. People move far and wide. Once you are working, you might want to check it though, for reasons mentioned above.

Like they said...you'll be stuck with these women for years. Don't do it.

Murse901, MSN, RN

Specializes in Emergency, Case Management, Informatics. Has 13 years experience.

Honestly, you should probably be studying right now instead of posting about possibly banging your classmates. I got plenty of this type of attention during LPN school. While it was a welcomed ego boost, I didn't pursue anything. I had waaaay too much on my plate just trying to make the grade.

Also, if you do hook up with someone, and they happen to be doing poorly in the program, they may bring you down with them. Or if they're academically challenged and you're doing well, they may expect you to let them cheat off of you during exams, which is going to get your *** sent right out the door. Is it really worth possibly throwing away your time spent in school just to get some poon?

I mean, unless they're really, REALLY hot. :jester::clown::jester::clown::jester:

But seriously, there's going to be plenty of time for this after you're done with school.

DolceVita, BSN, RN

Specializes in IMCU. Has 10 years experience.

Pssh, dont listen to them.

Bend it and send it man

Holy cow that gave me a good laugh. Never heard that expression before.

Dude, i am normally all for doing what feels good now and worrying about consequences later. I started working at a hospital right before i started nursing school. i had a ton of women, both single and married, flirting constantly. My sis and mom both work at the hospital, so i was able to sorta weed some out. I however did start dating one, and it was an awful misstake. our breakup wasnt bad(to me at least), but now i am regretting the whole thing. dirty looks, gossiping, all sorts of other chick behavior.

I have dated coworkers before, and this is the worst its ever been. my mom tried to warn me, and so did a few others. Females nurses(for all their "compasssion") are not to be dated if you work anywhere near them. Maybe i should rephrase that, they are not to be broken up with.

School is no different, except most of the chicks are younger. I am 30, a former Marine, and have a 19 and 22 year old essentially dry humping my leg all day in class. while it is flattering, it is waaaaay more trouble than its worth.

One more thing, the reason the saying "hell hath no fury, like a woman scorned" is so true and common, is because women dont tend to think about consequences when angered. they could care less about your future or anything else if you **** them off. So, error on the side of caution, and stay away from fellow students. your career is more important that that. she can always make the rest of your school time so miserable you quit or lose focus. and there isnt really anything you can do to stop it, cuz, well, your a guy and people arent sympathetic to guys.

Just my two cents. take it or leave it

I'm into a nursing assistant program. 2 males (I'm one of them) out of 30 students. But the other male is into his 40's. There are more older women than younger which is good. I am shy anyways... may not even make friends.. probably yeah because we're going to be together for 8 months. I am glad that they aren't too many young girls...because I wouldn't want some of them to talk to me.. I want to focus on the teacher and do good.

MikeFromMT

Specializes in Med Surg, Ortho/Neuro, Hospice.. Has 5 years experience.

In order to give you an informed decision I'll need to see pictures of these women. :D

One day as I walked into school with my wife (also a student) several of the girls in my class yelled out my name, my wife commented “are those your little groupies?” I said “ya, they think I'm a stud” just then they started asking me if I'd done my homework and could they compare answers with me...so much for me being a stud.

As an older guy who's been around, I offer you this little piece of advice: Don't be dipping your pen in the company ink. :nono:

Good luck in school, I'm right there with you.