Feeling sad.....

Rapheal · Feb 3, 2004

Hope you feel better Snoop. Sometimes you just gotta call off. If you don't take care of yourself who will? Now get some rest and don't worry about it. We love ya. Take care. Beth

SmilingBluEyes · Feb 3, 2004

I hear you. I can relate. (((((((((((((((((((((((((((SNOOPY))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

vent away hon.

frann · Feb 3, 2004

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Here's some articles I found to help you. Have you ever heard of

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You don't have to live with this pain. and know your rights.

Good luck

jnette, ASN, EMT-I · Feb 3, 2004

I can understand your sentiments, Snoop.

Actually, your post describes exactly how my own daughter feels much of the time.

She is a good employee, and excells at what she does... yet she has numerous medical issues, many like those you have decscribed. She, too, gets really depressed at times .. feeling like she isn't "adequate", or that her employers tire of her having to take time off. Yet all of them are legit, and I hate that she has to go through all this.

Hope you (and she) find some resolution to these concerns and just remember that until they have walked in your shoes, they cannot understand.

Hugs to you. ((( :kiss )))

pghfoxfan · Feb 3, 2004

People that abuse calling off ruin it for those of us who only use it when we are sick. If you think about it, do we really want someone who has the flu at work infecting patients or fellow staff? Nursing is a very stressful and strenuous job. There are many days that I feel burned out or even sore from a typical day on the unit. Is it wrong to take an occasional "mental health day"? I don't think so. Again, it's the abusers or the system that has ruined the system. How can you be expected to give 100% when you are working with a migraine, etc? Nurses are givers and most of the time forget about their own needs and health, to care for others.

IloveSnoopy · Feb 3, 2004

Thanks everyone,

You all have helped me to feel much better!!! Jnette...it sounds like your daughter and I are carved from the same mold!!!....your description of her, sounds just like me!! Well..I go back tonight....I'm feeling quite a bit better but still a little weak. I can see why the flu is responsible for so many deaths each year....I felt so crappy...I thought about writing out my will...LOL. Well..thanks again everyone...I guess I just needed y'all to back me on this. I do what I can do, and that's all I can do!! Ok..luv ya all...

Snoop'

purplemania, BSN, RN · Feb 3, 2004

It's not so much that people do not understand chronic illness, it is just that your problem has become their problem. They are faced with having to make staffing changes at the last minute and, at the very least, are inconvenienced. At the most, the facility is paying someone overtime or not letting them stay home with a sick kid because you are out. I feel for you because I sense that you are feeling guilty about the situation. The best thing you can do is be there when you can, do the best job possible and follow MDs instructions on how to take care of yourself. Your situation points out that we are all dependant on one another and when one person is out, well, we all suffer.

zumalong · Feb 3, 2004

(((((Snoopy))))))))))) Vent away. Been there, experienced that. I too have severe health problems with my asthma--when I feel good i feel very very good and when I feel sick I feel HORRID!!! :eek: I always tried to give 110% when I felt good cuz I knew at some point I would be out sick again. I tried to be first one to volunteer if someone was sick to cover unit. Best I could do. Spent a couple of shifts doing resp. tx on my breaks and finally figured that my health was more important and switched to area where I was not exposed to so much resp. inf. all the time.

Take care of yourself:kiss :kiss Research info on internet and in med library re your condition--stop feeling so guilty and enjoy the times when you feel healthy:D

nurseygrrl, LPN · Feb 3, 2004

{{{{{Snoopy}}}}}

We have a CNA where I work who has various health problems and is always calling in. She also has a son who is ill and sometimes he needs her. I totally understand because when I was younger I had a ton of medical things going on and after a while you think you're going crazy and you want to yell "WHY AM I SICK ALL THE TIME?!?!" Don't you worry about it. YOU are your first priority. I hope you feel much much better very soon.:kiss

trustmee · Feb 4, 2004

Hi Snoopy,

Hope your fully recovered from the Flu.

To feel such a high level of guilt indicates that you know how your team cope with staff shortages/agency cover. You have most likely been in that position yourself. But would you have expected a person to turn up when they weren't able to? No, I expect not.....so don't be so hard on yourself!

I've taken loads of calls from workmates phoning in sick. Although it's a 'downer' having to figure out how to cover the shift (knowing that I may have to stay on or cover more than one ward etc) I always try to empathise with the person on the other end.

Managers usually know who the 'lead swingers' are but even then it doesn't entitle them to make scathing, hurtful remarks!

I'd be the first one to send someone home from shift if they were showing up with an illness. Far better they rest up than spread it to the rest of the staff and clients.

Take care.

seanymph · Feb 4, 2004

Snoop,

I can totally relate from you are saying. I suffer from migraines, have since I was 18yrs old, and I know alot a people don't understand the crippling effect they can have a person's life.

I have always tried to pick up overtime shifts when I can and help when I can, but I have to keep in mind that the added stress and overtime and lack of sleep play into my migraines.

I know coworkers think I use them as an excuse for calling in, but I would be more than happy to trade places with them or have them come sit in my darkened bedroom (quietly) and hold my head as I vomit or sit with me in the ED when I have to go for stronger medication because my home medication doesn't work and see the way the ED staff treats you like you are their for your a "drug fix".

I have been to doctors, specialists...had test after test, am on preventative medication. It is something I have to live and the added guilt of calling in when I have a migraine is something else that adds to the migraine and its frustration.

Hang in there, Snoop.