Family not supportive

nursebae96 · May 25, 2015

I know this thread is old but I need to vent. Okay so I'm starting the PCA Program June 8, 2015 at a local technical college on my area and I have no support from my family. I am so excited and everyday I get good news I always share it with my family and they seem like they don't care to hear it. The PCA program is 2months long and I start the ASN program at a local community college in August 2015. My mother always have a flip modes and threatens to put me out the house because I don't clean up her house everyday and I get very fustrated. Besides, this isn't the first time..she has said it before... and she have put me out her house in the past even when I was younger and I got really depressed and I'm always covering everything up so that I won't get her into any trouble. I have ran away from home when I was a minor because my mother used to beat the crap out of me and I was always on punishment and I could never do anything with my friends.

nursebae96 · May 25, 2015

At this point I don't know what to do? I am really upset and hurt...I'm just ready to move out here for good because it's always negativity...what should I do?

windsurfer8, BSN, RN · May 25, 2015

There are always "barriers". It is ultimately up to you to do what you want in life. Go into any nursing school classroom and there will be all kinds of people who are doing it with many challenges. There is absolutely no reason as an adult you need your mommys approval to do what you want to do. Go and DO IT. My parents threw me out at 16. I went into the military and then went on to get my BSN. I could care less what my parents think of what I did. I did what I needed to do. I expect nothing from anyone except what I earn.

nursebae96 · May 25, 2015

I don't need her approval but when you're considered a dependent for Financial and your parent do not want to give you their tax info. To pay for school it becomes very exhausting and stressful but one thing about me I am not a quitter I always strive for excellence.

nursebae96 · May 25, 2015

That's why I'm paying for this CNA Program out of my own pockets to work and get my own place and pay for things on my own. I don't ask my mother for Financial support just important info that's going to better my life in the future.

ajohn2015 · May 25, 2015

There are always "barriers". It is ultimately up to you to do what you want in life. Go into any nursing school classroom and there will be all kinds of people who are doing it with many challenges. There is absolutely no reason as an adult you need your mommys approval to do what you want to do. Go and DO IT. My parents threw me out at 16. I went into the military and then went on to get my BSN. I could care less what my parents think of what I did. I did what I needed to do. I expect nothing from anyone except what I earn.

Wow! Sounds a lot like my upbringing! Only I have been out now for two years and just got accepted into a BSN program. Leaving home for the military was the best thing I ever did because it showed me I could do anything!

windsurfer8, BSN, RN · May 25, 2015

Good. If your mommy isn't supportive tell her you love her, but time to do your thing. And SHE is an adult and if you are over 18 you are also an adult. If your mommy doesn't want to give you her tax info she doesn't have to. You asked. She won't. Move on. Find solutions. Adapt. Yeah it sucks, but the option is quit. So do whatever you feel is best for you.

Red Kryptonite · May 25, 2015

I don't need her approval but when you're considered a dependent for Financial and your parent do not want to give you their tax info. To pay for school it becomes very exhausting and stressful but one thing about me I am not a quitter I always strive for excellence.

Go to a legal aid office and find out what you need to do to become an emancipated minor.

Or, where's dad? Is he any help? Grandparents? Aunts or uncles? Older siblings? Is there anyone?

Miss Infermiera2b, BSN, RN · Jun 1, 2015

I completely understand your frustrations. My family has recently come around (at least my parents have) but my uncles and aunts would constantly pepper me with mean-spirited jokes about how my purpose will be a bedpan cleaner and a glorified waitress. I told them I wanted to be an FNP eventually and they thought it was laughable that a nurse could ever have an advanced practice degree.

but you know what? This is your life. YOU know what an incredible responsibility and purpose nurses have. YOU know this is what you want and feel drawn to do. YOU know the good you could do as a nurse. I say, show the naysayers how incredibly wrong they are and rise above that. That's what I plan to do.

LadyFree28, BSN, LPN, RN · Jun 1, 2015

I don't need her approval but when you're considered a dependent for Financial and your parent do not want to give you their tax info. To pay for school it becomes very exhausting and stressful but one thing about me I am not a quitter I always strive for excellence.

Move out and become an independent student; at this point you have to rely in YOU in order to get yourself out of your situation; do not let even your own flesh and blood rent space in your head.

Also seek out counseling at the CC or look into getting free counseling in your area to help establish boundaries and coping mechanisms in order to move forward.

Best wishes.

Red Kryptonite · Jun 1, 2015

I told them I wanted to be an FNP eventually and they thought it was laughable that a nurse could ever have an advanced practice degree.

This is all you need to know to judge the value of the feedback you get from these people. They're so obviously ignorant, so really, their feedback is useless. They don't even know what they don't know.

nurseprnRN, BSN, RN · Jun 1, 2015

Move out and become an independent student; at this point you have to rely in YOU in order to get yourself out of your situation; do not let even your own flesh and blood rent space in your head.
Also seek out counseling at the CC or look into getting free counseling in your area to help establish boundaries and coping mechanisms in order to move forward.
Best wishes.

To expand on this, every college has seen this before and has somebody who knows how to access resources. It will be work, and, as you already know, the rewards of the accomplishment are huge. And think of the great example you'll be to others in your family, cousins or nieces and nephews.

Good luck! Stay in touch!