Family member RN asked for resignation yesterday

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A family member of mine is also an RN. She just graduated this past May. In October, she started working on an adolescent psych unit. (the same unit I used to work on before moving) Yesterday HR and her nurse manager asked for her resignation. She knew it was coming since they spoke to her before. They think that acute care isn't for her. She had problems with documentation and keeping the teens under control. It is a 14 bed unit and the last night she worked 3 wound up in locked seclusion and 2 in full restraints. She did offer redirection. She offered prn meds to those who had meds ordered and they did take them. However, she failed to call and ask for orders for the kids flipping out who did not have any prn's ordered. Obviously, this was a problem. I asked her why she didn't call for orders and she said that no one ever told her she was to call and ask for orders if someone needed something. She is now wondering where she can work. I know that she is not good mechanically or using fine skills. She hid throughout clinicals and took easy patients so she didn't get in trouble for not being able to do skills. She had average grades. So basically, she never inserted a foley, ng tube, did trach care, suctioning, start an iv, only did a few dressings. She only hung a few ivpb meds and had trouble with doing that. She does not think or move fast so med/surg is obviously out. She thought she would try psych since she knew she wouldn't have to do any physical skills. She is terrified of skills. She also does not want to be a charge nurse or supervisor. She worked in an office her whole adult life. She doesn't want to throw away her nursing education, but I don't know what to suggest to her to do. She likes the idea of being a nurse. She has a very good full time day shift (college office) job that she is not going to leave. It is a very good paying job with good benefits and lots of time off. So she isn't going to trade it in for a full time nursing job. She is in her 50's and in good health. She is looking for mostly weekend or occassional evening work. Do you guys have any suggestions what may be a fit for her? Do you think she should forget nursing all together? I really can't think of anywhere for her to work. Please help me with idea's for her. Thanks in advance.

This is not a nurse I would want taking care of me or mine....not even as a med passer. If she hid during clinicals and can't do basic nursing skills, how would I know she knows her meds? I don't mean to sound harsh, but why on Earth did she go to nursing school if she was afraid of it and couldn't get past her fears enough to achieve her goal? She will not be able to hold a job anywhere in nursing unless she gets those skills under her belt and will be able to pull her own weight. Her coworkers might help out in the beginning but that will get old really fast.

Specializes in Psych, Med/Surg, LTC.

Thank you so much for your replies. To be honest, I think she just wanted the title of "RN". She wasn't sure what to go to school for when she was younger, computers or nursing. She choose computers and later had regrets. When I went to nursing school, it resparked (if thats a word, haha) an interest. She likes to say that she is a nurse, but to be honest, I question if she really wants to do the work. She does not like doing skills, charge duties, having responsibility, or even doing ADL's. I know she gets very frustrated with alzheimer pts. She would not work as a CNA for some of these reasons. She does not mind passing medications as long as they are PO and the patients are compliant. I really think she likes the "prestige" of saying she is a Registered Nurse, but doesn't want the responsibility and work load to go along with it. I am very close to this person so I have been trying to help with finding her a new job. I just cant come up with much based on what she is looking for. It just seems like nursing is all wrong for her. I will suggest forking for an HMO or insurance company. That is an excellent suggestion. Thank you for all who replyed.

Whatever she does, she needs to get orientation time and education in

that area, whether it is skills or whatever. She is going to have to

try to get overher fears by doing the skills and practicing. Hiding will

only get her into more problems...she will feel much better for having

the training.

she offered prn meds to those who had meds ordered and they did take them. however, she failed to call and ask for orders for the kids flipping out who did not have any prn's ordered. obviously, this was a problem. i asked her why she didn't call for orders and she said that no one ever told her she was to call and ask for orders if someone needed something. she is now wondering where she can work.

she hid throughout clinicals and took easy patients so she didn't get in trouble for not being able to do skills. she had average grades. so basically, she never inserted a foley, ng tube, did trach care, suctioning, start an iv, only did a few dressings. she only hung a few ivpb meds and had trouble with doing that.

she worked in an office her whole adult life. she doesn't want to throw away her nursing education, but i don't know what to suggest to her to do. she likes the idea of being a nurse. she has a very good full time day shift (college office) job that she is not going to leave. it is a very good paying job with good benefits and lots of time off. so she isn't going to trade it in for a full time nursing job. she is in her 50's and in good health.

to be honest, i think she just wanted the title of "rn". she likes to say that she is a nurse, but to be honest, i question if she really wants to do the work. i really think she likes the "prestige" of saying she is a registered nurse, but doesn't want the responsibility and work load to go along with it.

this is one of the most troubling posts i have read to date. i also don't mean to be harsh but i would not want your relative taking care of me.

even if she were not in bedside nursing, the positions that were suggested in previous posts require critical thinking. based on the above examples, she needs to improve her ability to critically think. she may be functioning out of fear or anxiety. suggestions for having more theoretical ce classes may help. it sounds to me that her "heart" truly isn't in nursing and the care and comfort of others. not tyring to be humorous but tell her, "don't quit your day job."

She likes the idea of being a nurse.

That right there should point you to the answer.

She does not mind passing medications as long as they are PO and the patients are compliant.

I think that pretty much excludes LTC.

Specializes in Cath Lab, OR, CPHN/SN, ER.
This is not a nurse I would want taking care of me or mine....not even as a med passer. If she hid during clinicals and can't do basic nursing skills, how would I know she knows her meds? I don't mean to sound harsh, but why on Earth did she go to nursing school if she was afraid of it and couldn't get past her fears enough to achieve her goal? She will not be able to hold a job anywhere in nursing unless she gets those skills under her belt and will be able to pull her own weight. Her coworkers might help out in the beginning but that will get old really fast.

I hated to say it, but I agree with this poster.

In nursing school, after a rough test, I remember we would joke about a C grade earning the same RN as an A grade. As true as is it, there are several people who barely made it thru that I wouldn't trust caring for me, much less caring for my child.

I don't think a job as a med passer is the answer. You still need critical knowledge. What if something happens to one of those patients? Would she know the parameters to give/not give the med? If they had a horrible reaction, would she know what to do? :uhoh21:

I don't mean to step on anyone's toes but how in the world did she get through the lab classes without having to 'get checked off' on some of these skills? How could she hide during clinicals ?? Weird!!

Specializes in Psych, Med/Surg, LTC.

I thank all of you for being so honest. That is what I am looking for. I am leaning towards suggesting she enjoy her weekends and holidays since you don't get them off being a nurse. I know she was mad about working over the holidays. I know she gets upset when she doesn't have time to do the things she wants to do in her personal life. She gets really mad when I have to work holidays and weekends and it messes with her holiday plans. I will gently suggest she not get another nursing job. She does not need it for financial reasons. Just something to do. You all told me what my gut said. Thanks.

I thank all of you for being so honest. That is what I am looking for. I am leaning towards suggesting she enjoy her weekends and holidays since you don't get them off being a nurse. I know she was mad about working over the holidays. I know she gets upset when she doesn't have time to do the things she wants to do in her personal life. She gets really mad when I have to work holidays and weekends and it messes with her holiday plans. I will gently suggest she not get another nursing job. She does not need it for financial reasons. Just something to do. You all told me what my gut said. Thanks.

If she loves computers and has an RN license, why not look into telemedicine? An HMO (as previously suggested) or research facility might have something for her.

I would hate to have that nurse caring for me or my family. There were no "easy" patients in school and no one chose their patients. Long after school is over, learning goes on and on, but the learner has to be an active and willing participant. If she doesn't want to do the work to bring herself up to snuff in nursing, she doesn't belong in nursing. She is very fortunate to have another well-paying, well-benefitted position. I hope she gets out now before she hurts a patient. I know that there are places that will hire her. It doesn't mean that they should.

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