Every Nurse Should Give Birth

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My prayer is that every doctor, every nurse, every anyone who stands in judgment of others when it comes to things like pain would experience exactly what their patient is experiencing.

There used to be a popular saying back when nurses were mostly female - "Every nurse should give birth" to know how excruciating childbirth can be. And for doctors, who were mostly male, you used to hear, "Every doctor should have a kidney stone".

Well, my cousin is experiencing severe pain issues lately and has seen, to almost no avail, chiropractor, internist, surgeon, neurologist, and now a Pain Management doctor. He is on Percocet, which gives maybe 3 hours of relief. He is allowed 2 Percocet per day. Huh? Isn't this serious underdosing? What is he supposed to do the other 18 hours per day? He had to request the Percocet, too; doctor did not bring up the issue of pain med and was content to give only injections of steroid/'caine, which did only a little good - and only the first shot helped. Subsequent shots have been worthless.

Now, Cuz is on oxycontin and only after requesting, at my suggestion, pain relief that would be more steady. Had I not coached him on this, he would not have known to ask for it. Do you think anyone at the pain clinic has talked to him about constipation as a side effect of narcotics? No. Cousin Vito brought up that he needs to increase water and fiber. Also avoid driving and knives, lawnmowers, etc. when under the influence of these powerful meds. The nurse also did no teaching about this.

The doctor did not talk about the fact that there is a lag of between 3 and 7 days for the oxycontin to reach a therapeutic level and that Cuz should continue the Percocet BID PRN for the first few days. In fact, doctor Torture lowered the Percocet to one per day PRN. To me, this is not merely incompetence, it is cruel. I guess he thought maybe the shot would help more than it did, therefore the Percocet could be decreased. Cuz was very scared, thinking that the doctor would not help him with the pain, should the current regimen be inadequate.

When the doctor told him that he found him unbelievable, that he thought he was exaggerating the pain in order to evoke sympathy from the doctor, that was the last straw. Cuz has severe, unbearable pain with certain movements and these cause him to grunt or scream sometimes. Other times, he is, thankfully, pretty much ok. While arising from the table after the shots, he screamed twice. The idiot doctor apparently forgot that such pain is diagnostic of Cuz's condition. At least, that's what he told him originally - that, with his particular condition, pain upon rising is the worst. Also, Cuz is having killer muscle cramps, which can also be very, very awful, as any of you athletes out there know. To not be believed was really an insult - and the doubter is supposed to be someone who specializes in this specialty.

I really feel like filing a complaint with the licensing Board, the specialty Board, JCAHO, the facility Administrator and Risk Manager, and anyone else who will listen. This doctor sounds like a real jerk. There are other issues - he has kept Cuz waiting an hour or more for every appointment. He is not available after hours. No one covers for him on holidays, weekends, vacations and he does not answer his pager. There is no other contact way, per the nurse.

Cuz has begun seeing a physical therapist who is skilled in trigger point therapy and primal reflex release technique or something like that. She has done more for him, he says, than all the others combined. Naturally, his insurance doesn't cover her.

Just because one person didn't receive adequate care does not mean all healthcare professional/ workers treat there patients and clients with disregard for there pain and concerns. And also childbirth its not an accurate comparsion to someones pain. In fact my labor and pushing the whole process overall was less painful then my full blown kidney infection. And yes I had a lady partsl birth and I labored at home for 2 days. Thats my perspective and I apologize for your bad experience.

2 days? Wow, I admire your perseverance and hope all turned out well.

No, certainly one health care pro being a jerk does not mean that all of us are jerks.

I think childbirth is generally seen as an extremely painful process that nurses who were women and women in general can understand, having probably gone through it. and that's why it was used way back when to say that nurses need to be compassionate toward patients in pain. I'm glad to hear that some women do not have such a hard time bringing forth their babes.

No thank you. I think it would stretch my member out of shape

Specializes in UR/PA, Hematology/Oncology, Med Surg, Psych.

I hear ya Vito. Once I went to an UC for a horrible palm burn that hurt like heck, I could only stand it by keeping it immersed in cold water at all times. Nurse took it out of the water and applied silvadene and dressing, but the pain was awful. Dr. said, "it will feel better in the morning." So I asked for one to two pain meds to last until then and the idiot refused! Made me feel like a turd and from then on I will refuse to ever return, or let my family go to that UC or the hospital they are affiliated with. Still makes me angry :madface:.

As for childbirth, with my last I think I would have gotten up and performed a self C-section with a dinner fork if I could have it hurt so bad.

Took my teenager to another UC recently for an after-hours earache. Poor kid was crying it was so painful. The Dr. gave her an ATB, ear drops, and pain meds. Bless him!

Specializes in LTC, wound care.

I am ready, willing and able to deliver pain meds to people in pain. I've been there, done that, and I understand how it feels to feel like you have a shark biting you in the stomach, and there isn't anything you can do about it. Bad pain, and chronic pain is ugly and nasty.....and to help people in pain is a big reason why I am in school to earn my RN license. Good for you, Vito for advocating for your cousin. I hope he gets better pain relief soon.

Specializes in Acute Mental Health.

I think I read correctly that a NP was concerned about vitals that were fine. I learned in 1st semester that people that suffer from chronic pain will not show elevated vital signs. If you live with something long enough, your body finds a way to get back to a decent baseline.

I was in an accident and have had chronic pain for the past 5 yrs or so. I usually do pretty well if I don't focus on it, but if the weather is damp I'm pretty miserable. I take only ibp and usually suffer through the worst days. When the accident first occurred I was given morphine. Worked like a charm. I could get up and function well. I never abused it. The docs switched me to oxycodone and I'm not sure if this will make sense to anyone, but I became very depressed. I mean I didn't care if I lived or died. In a few hours I would be fine. The docs said that it was all in my head. They tried Vicoden, demerol, who knows what else. They all made me depressed until they wore off. It was either morphine or extra strength Tylenol. They came to the conclusion that I was probably drug seeking. Really, I hate taking even Tylenol! It seems like if you know what works for you, your labeled a drug seeker. Nowadays, I don't need anything stronger than some Advil, but back then I suffered! I would refuse everything because I couldn't stand that depressing feeling. Doesn't sound much like a drug seeker to me!

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