Epidemic of dumb!

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Can I vent just a bit...

Right now, we have a teen mom in labor who, herself, has a repaired septal heart defect. The sono she had in pregnancy was suggestive of heart defects in her baby. She did not follow up with a level 3 sono, nor go downtown when finally in labor. (we only have level 2 1/2 nsy - no level 3)

She says she came here because our hospital is 'prettier than the ones downtown' :trout:

-- OH... AND (now @ 43 1/2 weeks) that 'she didn't like the other hospital because they wanted to induce her labor'. Ya think?!

WHAT IS WITH THESE PEOPLE!!!!! :uhoh3::uhoh3::uhoh3::uhoh3::uhoh3::uhoh3::uhoh3::uhoh3::uhoh3:

...The heart thing and not following up with the better sono - not the first time this has happened. About a year ago, we were wondering why new, term baby was crying vigourously and not pinking up with O2 BB. Mom: 'Oh yea - the doctor said something about one side of his heart being bigger than the other' She never went for her follow up sono either. OB didn't make her, or tell her she should deliver downtown. HOLY $#!& PEOPLE!

Catching babies these days is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you're going to get.

Specializes in Community, OB, Nursery.
And that is why 15 year old girls should not be having sex.

steph

AND we should be teaching our 15 yo (and older and younger) boys to respect girls enough to not pressure 15yo girls to have sex. It takes two.

AND we should be teaching our 15 yo (and older and younger) boys to respect girls enough to not pressure 15yo girls to have sex. It takes two.

Absolutely! My two oldest are boys and so I did just that. One took it to heart and the other tells me that girls throw themselves at him and his friends and how do you say no when a girl has her head on your shoulders, pleading with you? (I said, you be a gentleman and say NO).

As parents, we do the best we can and we keep on talking . . . . and make it a habit to meet the girl #2 son is dating . . so I can talk to her too. ;)

My #3 child is a girl . .. a whole other ball of wax . . . .:uhoh21:

steph

Specializes in NA, Stepdown, L&D, Trauma ICU, ER.
I saw this in action the other night as a 17 yo G4P2 came in with her mother. The mother of the teen had on a tight wife beater type shirt, with her lacy bra and boobs hanging out and a pair of daisy dukes and was about as dumb as a box of rocks. She was actually excited her 17yo was having a third baby!! I just felt so sorry for the little baby, and the babies at home. It's so sad sometimes. I try and concentrate on the happy stories.

I understand that even the best parents can end up with a pregnant teen. What I can't understand is why they left the hospital before the IUD placement or depo shot. I'd be upset but could deal if my 15 year old came home expecting, however, I'd be certain measures were in place to keep it from happening for the 2nd time around :banghead:

I used to call the denial/stupid thing aggressive ignorance. "I don't want to know what is wrong, or how to fix it, or what I should do. That way you (the nurse, doctor who ever) are responsible and you have to take care of it for me, and are responsible for any thing bad if you don't."

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By that I mean that it is not the brightest move in the world to get pregnant @ 15; but then I guess 15 y/o's are not developementally ready and able to make judgement calls like that.

Having worked w/quite a few/15 y/o Moms, some are great, no doubt about it. A lot of them have very unrealistic expectations of babies and 24/7 responsibilities they entail. I would much rather see them stay in school, graduate and be self-supporting before tackling motherhood.

That is JMO. If you disagree, I respect that.

I think this is a great reminder. People remember every facet of the care we gave them......from facial expressions to our every word, to even how we smell, for years and years.

Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.
And that is why 15 year old girls should not be having sex.

steph

In a perfect world.........:(

I understand that even the best parents can end up with a pregnant teen. What I can't understand is why they left the hospital before the IUD placement or depo shot. I'd be upset but could deal if my 15 year old came home expecting, however, I'd be certain measures were in place to keep it from happening for the 2nd time around :banghead:

Unfortunately at the time I saw that mom I was working at a Catholic hospital and we weren't even allowed to mention the BC word! My preceptor told me about a pt of hers, G6P5 18 yo, who begged to get her tubes tied. She said 'you know I"ll just be back here next year, I can't keep my legs closed'! Unfortunate part is she kept going back to the wrong hospital (we did not do tubals for any reason)

So sad...:banghead::sniff:

Specializes in L&D, LDRP, Apheresis.

This drives me nuts.... the falling on BC is against my religion!!

If I remember my Catholic roots correctly.... so is Premarital Sex!!

Specializes in Critical Care.
This drives me nuts.... the falling on BC is against my religion!!

If I remember my Catholic roots correctly.... so is Premarital Sex!!

She didn't say it was against her religion, she said that she worked in a catholic hospital and couldn't mention it.

I work in a catholic hospital, yet I'm not catholic and I certainly believe in birth control.

I understand that even the best parents can end up with a pregnant teen. What I can't understand is why they left the hospital before the IUD placement or depo shot. I'd be upset but could deal if my 15 year old came home expecting, however, I'd be certain measures were in place to keep it from happening for the 2nd time around :banghead:

IUD placement before 6 weeks for a NON-Breastfeeding mom or before 9 weeks for a breastfeeding mom is not indicated. Can result it damage to the uterus.

Depo... again your hormones all over the place depo isn't recommeneded until after 6 weeks. Nor is it in BFing women. (Well this depends on the OB)

Specializes in Public Health, DEI.

My Catholic husband explained to me, though, that using birth control is a much bigger sin than premarital sex. I can't remember the exact terms he used, but I'm sure a Catholic here can explain the rationale. What a difficult spot that would be; torn between a religion that teaches you bc is a sin and yet having the same primal urges as anyone else.

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