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You can always tell when I've been hanging out on the Allnurses.com forums too much -- I get up on a soap box. I'm amazed, though, at how many new nurses are grasping at straws to find "reasons" to quit their first jobs because they're unhappy and they're just positive that things are going to be better elsewhere. Even if there is no elsewhere in the immediate future. It's not THEIR fault that they're miserable -- it's the job. Or their co-workers are all mean and out to get them. (Probably because of their incredible beauty.) Staffing is a nightmare, the CNAs are all hiding and they're afraid they're going to "loose" their license. They'd better quit RIGHT NOW, so they don't "loose" that license. (I wonder if that one is as transparent to spouses who are looking for a little help with the rent -- not to mention those school loans you've racked up -- as it is to some of the rest of us.) The job is ruining their lives and their mental health -- they're seriously worried for their mental health if they don't quit right now. Where did all of these fragile people come from?

Seriously, folks. The first year of nursing sucks. You have the internet and all of that -- how could you not know that the first year of nursing sucks? It does. We've all been through it. The only way to GET through it is to GO through it, but there's a big group of newbies every year who are SURE that doesn't apply to them. No one as ever been as miserable as they are. No one understands. They HATE going to work every day. Management is targeting them and they're sure they're going to be fired. They're concerned that their mental health might be permanently damaged by the trauma of staying in that job ONE MORE DAY. Given the inevitability of "loosing" that license and permanent damage to their mental health, it's all right to quit that job tomorrow, isn't it? Or maybe it's that their DREAAAAAAAAM job is opening up, and they've been offered the job. It's OK to quit this job to take their DREAAAAAAAAM job, isn't it?

How do they even know their dream job is hiring if they have every intention of making their first job work out? What are all those job applications doing out there, floating around if they're serious about this job? You DID intend to keep this job for one to two years when you took it, didn't you? If not, shame on you!

The first year of nursing sucks. You're going to hate going to work every day, and some of you are going to cry all the way to work and all the way home. You'll be exhausted, both mentally and physically and your normal hobbies and activities may take second seat to the job. You'll be constantly afraid of making a mistake, and you will MAKE mistakes. You'll feel incompetent. You may lose sleep because you're worrying about your job. Switching jobs isn't going to miraculously make you confident and competent. It's just going to delay you on your path through that first miserable year. It may even look bad on your resume, paint you as a job hopper. (I'm always shocked by how many new nurses are on their third or fourth job in less than two years who will assure me that they're not job hoppers. Honey, if you're on your third job in less than two years, you're a job hopper. Really.)

Don't people have bills to pay? Or is it that no one feels responsible for paying their own bills anymore? How is it that so many people feel free to just up and quit a paying job without another one in sight? I guess I'm getting old, because I really don't get it.

Specializes in Neuro ICU/Trauma/Emergency.

New nurses aren't trained properly for the real world of nursing. In Nursing school you're comforted with that annoying clinical instructor who hoovers over your shoulder the entire 8 hours. You're taught, everyone will get along & physicians will be reprimanded for bad behavior.

Welcome to the real world of nursing, where we all are in the same color scrubs, but have lives outside of the hospital. Where all patients aren't the nice grannies who agreed to accept a student nurse, where physicians curse & yell for being called at 1a.m. because they're newborn was sleeping. Where managers are angry due to call-offs & short staffing, where CNA(s) are boggled down with task & 6 nurses....where you are responsible for all 5 patients & routine meds/labs/procedures/discharges...

It's hard, but you'll make it through the first 3 years.

@been there done that: amen to that, as years go by, even health care is ALL about money and business... I only wish that US retained the values of past at least in healthcare.

Specializes in Transitional Nursing.

Hey now! Nurses claim to be afraid to "loose" their jobs as well! ;-)

Wow. mc making microwave popcorn as we speak.. Nichefinder, with all due respect you don't know what you're talking about :no:. You've only been on Allnurses since Dec. 2013, yet you make these incorrect assumptions about someone you don't know? RubyVee is probably THE most respected nurse I've seen on this board. I doubt she's had a "cushy" job in her life. Go back and read some of her posts, her knowledge and insight are amazing. You could learn a lot from her, ya know??? As to your statement "I am plan to quit here after my 6 months so I can transfer within the hospital to somewhere where the pt is knocked out and I don't have to talk to them or the family member. " Why on earth did you even become a nurse in the first place?????:banghead:

Ruby, I think it has to do with the fact that some "kids" today are not able to deal with disappointment, and don't know how to handle things when things don't go their way. I blame our generation. We didn't like the way our parents raised us because they were too strict, so we went too far in the other direction. God forbid someone gets their feelings hurt, or something doesn't work out like they believed it should. And no, not everyone loves each other all the time at work. There are people and situations we don't like, they don't like us, and it's being called being mean. I see this all the time. Grown men and women who don't get what they want when they want it, and basically have temper-tantrum like a 2 year old.

Ayvah, "however I'm wondering why this aspect of nursing is considered 'ok'? What other job routinely makes new people cry and hate waking up each day as a new person in the field? I've seen so many nurses (not just the new ones) stressed, crying, having symptoms of depression (to the point of having to go on medication for it), and other symptoms such as high blood pressure and even chest pains". What other job is there that has the life of a patient in their hands while simultaneously doing 10,000 other things, of which 9999 are totally ridiculous?

Popcorn's ready, gotta go.

mc3:cat:

Before I get flamed, I know not all young adults of today are like that - of course I know that. There are some great young men and women out there! It just seems to me, as I get older, I see many more people with the "it's all about me" attitude.

If this isn't making sense, sorry but I'm beat!!!

Specializes in Med-Surg, NICU.

Newsflash:

Gone are the days when employers were loyal to their workers. It is very unusual for people to stick with the same company for forty years or more and retire with a golden wach and pension.

I'm a chronic job hopper. I've worked for one hospital system for almost 2.5 years and have held three different positions (still there), and I have worked at another hospital system for almost two years in the same position, but I've been trying to leave for several months. Prior to these jobs, the other gigs I had lasted for no longer than 9 months...but I was ALWAYS advancing (I now make 65% more than what I did 4.5 years ago, and that isn't even including shift diff, weekend diff, holiday pay and potential OT).

I have no regrets. Life is too short to stay miserable. However, when I do switch gigs, I NEVER quit a job before I have a job offer and start date in hand, and I don't burn bridges.

Specializes in Nurse Scientist-Research.

Bad job hopper here; well, I was in years 5-9 of my nursing career. I knew I had to stick out at least 2 years at my first job and then it wasn't so bad so I stayed until year 5. Then I really did job hop for a few years; traveled, flitted around several hospitals in a metro area with tons of hospital beds, raised my wages substantially that way. . .

But that job hopping was only done after I had a solid resume to show. After I hopped around 5 different hospitals in 5 years, I found a job that's a close to a dream job as I believe is possible.

Been there 11+ years.

Job hopper no more. . .

Specializes in Neuro ICU/Trauma/Emergency.
@been there done that: amen to that, as years go by, even health care is ALL about money and business... I only wish that US retained the values of past at least in healthcare.
Guilty conscience? If the shoe doesn't fit, don't wear it! New nurses( yourself) would like everyone to be PG & tell you the grass is always green and the roses always bloom. Have respect for those preparing you for the career you have chosen. Nursing is a career where you can not run as soon as the going gets tough. This isn't a cushy desk job where everything will go according to plan as long as the staff attends meetings... Do not attack the OP.
Specializes in Med-Surg, NICU.
Think you may be missing a concern that we didn't have in the olden days.

New nurses are now working for THE MAN .. known as corporate America.

They quickly realize that nurses are corporate grunts... working for corporate profits.

And it's only going to get worse.

Exactly. OP is in serious need of a reality check.

The market my mother and her parents experienced is far different from the market my generation, Gen Y, is facing. The majority of employers don't value and treat their employees with respect anymore. My generation is facing massive amounts of debt, instability and stagnant wages. Oftentimes, job hopping leads to raises (which, by the way, help support social security for the older generations).

A happy employee is typically more productive than an unhappy employee. We, the Gen Y, must look out for ourselves, as self-centered as that may be. We won't have the welfare system and social security that our grandparents had (let's face it: there will be NO social security for Gen Y). We have to get it while we can, however we can...so as long as it is legal, of course. ;)

Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
I quit my first job after 6 months to take another god forsaken medsurg job in a bigger city, the only reason was to move into big city for better job. Let me ask you OP, have you even hated your job? Lol, I mean, I am wondering what kind of departments you have worked at. I am plan to quit here after my 6 months so I can transfer within the hospital to somewhere where the pt is knocked out and I don't have to talk to them or the family member. So shame on me for not holding on for 1-2 yrs hating my job and my life.

Anyway, what kind of job do YOU have? If it's some kind of hotsy totsy easy job, I will not accept you for writing this ridiculous thread. Unlike you, I am determined to find a workplace that I really enjoy and love, and by no means I am sticking out more than I need to in order to achieve that "DREEEEEEEEEEAM" job which seems so infantile and worthless to you. Thanks for the laughs, but this was pretty ugly thread.

I hated my job. I cried all the way to work and I cried all the way home. I worked Med/Surg and telemetry, hematology and oncology -- I had three miserable jobs over five years before I found my niche in ICU. (Yes, I know -- job hopping. In my case, my husband was transferred every two years and I went with him.) I have never had some kind of "hotsy totsy easy job." But I knew I had bills to pay, student loans to pay back, a manager who took a chance on me and deserved some loyalty in return, and I had a lot to learn. So I sucked it up, stuck it out, and learned. I've been at the bedside for 35 years, and I've loved the last 30 of them. (Most of the time.)

I'm sorry you think this is an ugly thread. I think it's pretty ugly for a nurse to say "I am plan to quit here after my 6 months so I can transfer within the hospital to somewhere where the pt is knocked out and I don't have to talk to them or the family member. So shame on me for not holding on for 1-2 yrs hating my job and my life." Patients and their families can be difficult, but it's what nursing is about. But you do what you want -- just remember that some of us have a year of experience and some of us have six months of experience several times.

The things some posters can get away with.

*sits and eats popcorn*

Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
I agree with most of your post, however I'm wondering why this aspect of nursing is considered 'ok'? What other job routinely makes new people cry and hate waking up each day as a new person in the field? I've seen so many nurses (not just the new ones) stressed, crying, having symptoms of depression (to the point of having to go on medication for it), and other symptoms such as high blood pressure and even chest pains.

Safe staffing is a real issue with nursing. Graduating nurses who are not prepared to be nurses is a real issue in nursing. It may be harder for more experienced nurses to fully relate to the pressures of being a new nurse today vs when they started.

Any new job is difficult, and the transition from student to professional is difficult as well. I'm not saying it's OK, I'm just saying that it IS. Granted, new nurses today have pressure; but we had pressure when I started as well. I never had an orientation in my first job -- they just threw me in. That was pressure. And on top of that, I was supporting my husband while he finished school so I didn't have the option of just quitting because I was miserable. I stuck with it and got through that first year, miserable as I was.

Specializes in Neuro ICU/Trauma/Emergency.
I quit my first job after 6 months to take another god forsaken medsurg job in a bigger city, the only reason was to move into big city for better job. Let me ask you OP, have you even hated your job? Lol, I mean, I am wondering what kind of departments you have worked at. I am plan to quit here after my 6 months so I can transfer within the hospital to somewhere where the pt is knocked out and I don't have to talk to them or the family member. So shame on me for not holding on for 1-2 yrs hating my job and my life.

Anyway, what kind of job do YOU have? If it's some kind of hotsy totsy easy job, I will not accept you for writing this ridiculous thread. Unlike you, I am determined to find a workplace that I really enjoy and love, and by no means I am sticking out more than I need to in order to achieve that "DREEEEEEEEEEAM" job which seems so infantile and worthless to you. Thanks for the laughs, but this was pretty ugly thread.

Where do you plan on going to the OR? You know the patients are awake ,or you as a nurse should hope for the patient to awake at some point during your shift. Do you dislike your patients & family members? Wherever you go in the hospital there will always be a patient who has family members who is depending on that nurse to communicate & comfort them on their loved ones well being.

Take the time to think of your family members. Would you want a nurse with your attitude caring for your loved one?

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