Don't People Have Bills To Pay?

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You can always tell when I've been hanging out on the Allnurses.com forums too much -- I get up on a soap box. I'm amazed, though, at how many new nurses are grasping at straws to find "reasons" to quit their first jobs because they're unhappy and they're just positive that things are going to be better elsewhere. Even if there is no elsewhere in the immediate future. It's not THEIR fault that they're miserable -- it's the job. Or their co-workers are all mean and out to get them. (Probably because of their incredible beauty.) Staffing is a nightmare, the CNAs are all hiding and they're afraid they're going to "loose" their license. They'd better quit RIGHT NOW, so they don't "loose" that license. (I wonder if that one is as transparent to spouses who are looking for a little help with the rent -- not to mention those school loans you've racked up -- as it is to some of the rest of us.) The job is ruining their lives and their mental health -- they're seriously worried for their mental health if they don't quit right now. Where did all of these fragile people come from?

Seriously, folks. The first year of nursing sucks. You have the internet and all of that -- how could you not know that the first year of nursing sucks? It does. We've all been through it. The only way to GET through it is to GO through it, but there's a big group of newbies every year who are SURE that doesn't apply to them. No one as ever been as miserable as they are. No one understands. They HATE going to work every day. Management is targeting them and they're sure they're going to be fired. They're concerned that their mental health might be permanently damaged by the trauma of staying in that job ONE MORE DAY. Given the inevitability of "loosing" that license and permanent damage to their mental health, it's all right to quit that job tomorrow, isn't it? Or maybe it's that their DREAAAAAAAAM job is opening up, and they've been offered the job. It's OK to quit this job to take their DREAAAAAAAAM job, isn't it?

How do they even know their dream job is hiring if they have every intention of making their first job work out? What are all those job applications doing out there, floating around if they're serious about this job? You DID intend to keep this job for one to two years when you took it, didn't you? If not, shame on you!

The first year of nursing sucks. You're going to hate going to work every day, and some of you are going to cry all the way to work and all the way home. You'll be exhausted, both mentally and physically and your normal hobbies and activities may take second seat to the job. You'll be constantly afraid of making a mistake, and you will MAKE mistakes. You'll feel incompetent. You may lose sleep because you're worrying about your job. Switching jobs isn't going to miraculously make you confident and competent. It's just going to delay you on your path through that first miserable year. It may even look bad on your resume, paint you as a job hopper. (I'm always shocked by how many new nurses are on their third or fourth job in less than two years who will assure me that they're not job hoppers. Honey, if you're on your third job in less than two years, you're a job hopper. Really.)

Don't people have bills to pay? Or is it that no one feels responsible for paying their own bills anymore? How is it that so many people feel free to just up and quit a paying job without another one in sight? I guess I'm getting old, because I really don't get it.

Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
Personally I think Daisy Awards are a joke. One unit manager in my facility got it. She does no care. The onl y patient contact she has is smiling at them and then saying "my girls wiLl look after you!" Total farce.[/quote']

She may be the exception; I know of nurses who deserve to wins those awards, who deserve to be published, and people that receive awards and accolades as well as be awarded for the work that they do; I was recognized one day for, in my mind, was something I ought to do; my point is-there are many places as well as nursing chapter that DO recognize their peers; to say we are not rewarded is off the mark; because when most if us do, most of us DESERVE it.

Who says nursing doesn't reward hard work and sacrifice?

There are daisy awards, best unit awards, chapter and association awards, company/facility rewards, opportunities to be published and recognized for that work; so I get very curious when people thing nursing doesn't "reward people", because it's done.

how many of those awards come with money?

Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
how many of those awards come with money?

Plenty of them.

I worked at one facility which had awards during nurse's week; most awards were prizes of 100-200 dollars, or were incentives, or a paid day off, etc.

Depending on the nursing org, it could be a incentive over 200 dollars; I am only aware of the awards I've seen peers be awarded.

There are honorariums and grant awards for publishing as well.

The ability to be awarded can come with salary increases; depending on how much a prospective employer will throw at you to join their organization; that's bargaining power for a nurse, and it still occurs. :yes:

fwiw, the first facility i worked in was one of *those* places - co-workers who acted like you were a pain in the ass whenever you dared talk to them, short staffed all the time, and supervisors telling us that the solution to working short was to make up VS's and chart that things were done when they weren't. (i did NOT go along with that, but common sense tells you if that's what the facility expects and you don't get in line they'll find a reason to get rid of you.)

i left after 3 weeks and cared not at all about what any of my supervisors or co-workers or "mentor" at the time thought about it. Why should I have stayed at that facility for a minute longer than i did?

I had the balls to quit, and thank God i got a job in a rehab hospital and i still work there now. i don't feel the need to "job hop" because the rehab hospital isn't treating me like ****. Adequate staffing, a boss who treats me like the competent adult that I am AND isn't asking us to do anything illegal or unethical, better pay...of course everyone here has their bad days and stressful moments where they snap at each other, but in general people help each other and work together. Just to know that if i need to ask someone for something i probably won't be met with a load of eye rolling, huffing, sighing, and general ****** attitude, makes the inherent stress of working in this environment and with tons of patients more manageable.

fwiw, the social milieu of American society in general is changing. not as fast as i'd like of course :p , but it is. Millennials do generally value people over profits and a kinder gentler style of workplace communication, and this is the generation who is currently moving into management positions and attaining influence now and in the future.

Healthcare is so completely run by conglomerates that it may be one of the few industries mostly or completely shielded from this change. So for those of you kicking and screaming in this thread that you DON'T have to be kind to your coworkers and no one can make you, take heart- maybe you don't. You might be able to work out the rest of your career being rude and insisting that it's for the good of your patients. I would find that a miserable way to be, but that's just me.

Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
fwiw the first facility i worked in was one of *those* places - co-workers who acted like you were a pain in the ass whenever you dared talk to them, short staffed all the time, and supervisors telling us that the solution to working short was to make up VS's and chart that things were done when they weren't. (i did NOT go along with that, but common sense tells you if that's what the facility expects and you don't get in line they'll find a reason to get rid of you.) i left after 3 weeks and cared not at all about what any of my supervisors or co-workers or "mentor" at the time thought about it. Why should I have stayed at that facility for a minute longer than i did? I had the balls to quit, and thank God i got a job in a rehab hospital and i still work there now. i don't feel the need to "job hop" because the rehab hospital isn't treating me like ****. Adequate staffing, a boss who treats me like the competent adult that I am AND isn't asking us to do anything illegal or unethical, better pay...of course everyone here has their bad days and stressful moments where they snap at each other, but in general people help each other and work together. Just to know that if i need to ask someone for something i probably won't be met with a load of eye rolling, huffing, sighing, and general ****** attitude, makes the inherent stress of working in this environment and with tons of patients more manageable. Basic respect at work is NOT too much to ask.[/quote']

Ok; you asked me a question regarding "incentives" in addition to my initial response to "rewards" and "awards" in our profession.

We get awards and rewards, plain and simple; they are open to people who work hard and also their hard work that helps to shape our profession; it is open to ALL of us.

You had a negative experience; that doesn't mean to dismiss that there are "rewards" or respect in this profession.

To call out my response to my answer-what was the reason again? I'm not sure what your point was, really...I am curious. If you wanted to vent, then...ok...:cautious:

I am happy you found a place that respects you and has teamwork; feel free to nominate your unit and get the "reward"!

Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
Ok; you asked me a question regarding "incentives" in addition to my initial response to "rewards" and "awards" in our profession.

We get awards and rewards, plain and simple; they are open to people who work hard and also their hard work that helps to shape our profession; it is open to ALL of us.

We have a clinical ladder for bedside nurses -- climbing the ladder results in pay raises. We're also eligible for awards and for small grants to implement change in the workplace.

I dislike nursing more after years than I did initially, the first few months were hard. At some point I stopped giving patients the benefit of the doubt and realized how many people take advantage of the system and are just there for drugs. That has made it hard for me.

Personally, I think Daisy Awards are a joke. One unit manager in my facility got it. She does no care. The onl y patient contact she has is smiling at them and then saying "my girls wiLl look after you!" Total farce.

Have you ever received one? Just curious.

Specializes in geriatrics.

That's all too common now. Many people want instant gratification and refuse to face the realities of life or the job market. Given that it's been roughly 7 years of economic turmoil, people need to try to stay where they are for a while.

I am leaving my job. HOWEVER, I've been planning this for quite some time, and I've been there for 3.5 years. For me, some time off and a change of scenery is needed. I can also get up and move anywhere.

But to leave after a few months is not wise, and the one year mark is really not sufficient anymore either. 2-3 years is much better if you can tolerate the job. Sometimes, you've got to make sacrifices and just suck it up, especially when there is no nursing shortage.

Personally, I think Daisy Awards are a joke. One unit manager in my facility got it. She does no care. The onl y patient contact she has is smiling at them and then saying "my girls wiLl look after you!" Total farce.

I have come to believe these awards are a farce too. I know one nurse who is terrible, but she is very good at kissing the asses of patients and their family. She brings in snacks for them and even stuffed animals for children who are visiting loved ones. But I've followed her a few times and I have to clean up her mess when I do, and that puts me behind. Only one nurse I know deserved a Daisy when she got one.

Specializes in Operating Room.
I agree regarding quitting without having a job lined up. That is unwise if you have financial obligation. But these days, I don't feel we owe our jobs any loyalty. Unless I signed a contract for 1-2 years, I do not feel any guilt for quitting just as they don't feel guilt when nurses are fired and laid off, poor staffing, crappy schedules etc.

I haven't known loyalty or seniority to benefit nurses in places I've worked and I work with many seasoned nurses.

I've quit without having something else lined up. It can be done successfully, but it helps to have done some networking and have people you can utilize for references.

Regarding workplace loyalty..when the job stops becoming profitable for my goals and plans, I move on. I usually have put in at least a few years though. This has never worked against me, most recruiters like to see upward movement. Meaning, when I do leave a job, it's because I have an opportunity to up my skills, learn a new specialty etc.

And you're right, workplaces don't care about individual nurses. If it suits them to lay you off or fire you, they will do so.

i liked that article that talked about the generation gap, but there was an option missing. I don't pick up the phone if it's the hospital and I'm not on call. They can feel free to leave a message though, and if the poop is really hitting the fan( i.e...mass casualty event) then I'll get back to them.

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