Do you think I'm overreacting?

lovemyjob · Jun 28, 2006

Only you know what you can do. If it is what you want to do, give it your best and if it is meant to be I am sure you will make a great nurse.

Best of Luck!!

TazziRN, RN · Jun 28, 2006

I have no respect for someone who says "You can't do it, it's too hard for you."

catlady, BSN, RN · Jun 28, 2006

A family friend who also used to tutor me a few years back was talking to my mom about my aspirations to be a nurse. (Sorry if that was a mouthful..lol) And she seems to think that its too much hard work for me,and that its not suited to my personality. Bear in mind she tutored me when I was 13 and again when I was 21,and only in math..my weakest subject,so I feel like she isnt really seeing the whole picture.
Also I never really liked her teaching style..she was always very hard on me. But do you think she sees something that I dont? Its not like I feel that nursing is 'my calling' or anything,but I have committed myself to doing this,despite not having the est luck with school. It hasnt really deterred me that much,but I am nervous enough about the whole prospect as it is. I have some time until I officially have to apply to school..so should I rethink my plans?

Doesn't sound like much of a family friend who would go to your mother and badmouth you like that. Is she a nurse? Does she know what it takes to be a nurse? You say you have committed yourself to becoming a nurse. Being able to make a commitment speaks volumes about you, and not much about your family friend.

You do not have to have a 'calling' to become a nurse. You're not joining the priesthood. I do it because I'm good at it and it pays my bills. Not an ounce of calling. When it stops paying my bills, I won't do it any more.

Guest717236 · Jun 28, 2006

Listen to your heart. She will not be going to work, you will.

Your happiness is what is important. Nursing is a lot of work,

so is school. We all have strengths and weaknesses.

Why not ask a nurse in the area you are interested in

about her job? You can also interview student nurses for

a picture of what is involved in training. Do the research for

yourself, not because of your former tutors opinions.

In the final analysis, you have many talents and can succeed in

whatever you decide. Best of luck, and whether its nursing or not,

have confidence in yourself.:balloons:

(PS I've gone to school a long time and I've know many teachers

who have been wrong - so don't think anything of it)

steelcityrn, RN · Jun 28, 2006

Who is this person to say something is not "suited" for you when they themselves do not even do it? I agree with the others, do what YOU want to do!

Tweety, BSN, RN · Jun 28, 2006

Don't listen to 2nd hand gossip about yourself. The ex-tutor's opinion of you is none of your business. Good luck to you.

Nursing will more than likely be the most difficult challenge you will undertake the next few years, but you can do it.

rn/writer, RN · Jun 28, 2006

I wouldn't give someone who knew me in such a limited context such a big vote on my future.

See if any of the schools in your area offer vocational testing. If they do, it's usually free or at a nominal cost.

Talk to others who know you well. Find out how they see you, what they think your strengths and weaknesses are. Seek out nurses who can tell you about their jobs and help you to determine where you might fit in.

List your skills and traits for your own information. Write down what interests you, both personally and professionally. Recall compliments you have been given and encouragement you have received. Think, too, of areas where you have struggled and ways that you have avoided or compensated for them

Volunteer at a hospital just to get a feel for the environment and the patients.

Could be that nursing is right up your alley, even if you have to clear a few hurdles like math or some of the other pre-reqs.

Could be that you should look at other medical options like radiology tech or phlebotomy or "who knows what?"

Could be that you should look at another field altogether.

The only way for you to learn more is to get out there and investigate.

And resist the urge to be spooked by the off-hand comment of someone who really doesn't know you very well. Even if someone who DOES know you says something negative, set it aside, then try to think about it in a balanced, factual vs. emotional manner. If they have a point, ask yourself if the problem is something that can be fixed and if you're willing to work on it.

Be confident that you will find your way. Take the comments of others in stride. Consider the source and refuse to be discouraged. Even if you have detours or course changes, you will still end up someplace worthwhile and satisfying.

ms mimi · Jun 28, 2006

don't listen to your tutor, you made the decision to pursue nursing and you are an adult. i don't know if there is a specific type of person that is "right" for nursing. if you go thru school and start feeling that you aren't suited for it then you can choose something else. but you make that decision based on your own feelings, not the feelings of others. what you need right now are people that will encourage you, not make you dought yourself.

KellieNurse06 · Jun 28, 2006

maybe she's jealous:idea:

JessicRN · Jun 28, 2006

A family friend who also used to tutor me a few years back was talking to my mom about my aspirations to be a nurse. (Sorry if that was a mouthful..lol) And she seems to think that its too much hard work for me,and that its not suited to my personality. Bear in mind she tutored me when I was 13 and again when I was 21,and only in math..my weakest subject,so I feel like she isnt really seeing the whole picture.
Also I never really liked her teaching style..she was always very hard on me. But do you think she sees something that I dont? Its not like I feel that nursing is 'my calling' or anything,but I have committed myself to doing this,despite not having the est luck with school. It hasnt really deterred me that much,but I am nervous enough about the whole prospect as it is. I have some time until I officially have to apply to school..so should I rethink my plans?

Sorry this has happened to you I had the same thing happen when I was finishing highschool my grades were average all togetther because I failed math. Because of what they told me I did nothing until 5 years later when I took a chance I graduated Magna cum laude and went on to get a Graduate degree in Computers with a 3.8 GPA. So do not let anyone stop you from trying to do what you want to do.

JessiekRN · Jun 28, 2006

Fifi- when I decided to go into nursing, almost everyone I told was skeptical, most especially my parents- I had failed chemistry in high school, and math was, and still is, one of my weakest subjects. I decided that if I wanted to do something badly enough, I would be able to get it done- no matter how much studying it would take or how many obstacles lay ahead of me, that might not necessarily be obstacles for others. Bottom line, I have a 3.9 GPA (that includes an A in Organic and Biochem!! )in my prerequsistes and I start my nursing program, finally, this September. If you want something badly enough, you will get it done, and you'll be surprised how easily things will come to you if you keep your goal in mind. Don't let anyone discourage you. Good luck.